Hello to all :)
I'm new to the forum and confronting the reality of my gender confusion has been difficult to say the least, as I'm sure all of you have experienced at some point. I'm looking to find an outlet, some people to talk to who will understand and not judge. I feel that I am now ready to move beyond solitary questioning and silent research online to sorting out what I want to do to find happiness.
A bit about me :P I live near Sydney, Australia. This year I am to turn 21.
I feel that a male to female transition resonates with me, yet my anxieties paint these feelings with doubt and fear.
If you have any advice to share regarding the first steps to take on this journey; professionals to get in contact with, support groups, etc I would be very grateful :)
shiney
Hi, and welcome to Susans! We have people come to visit us from all over the world, expressing different points of view, and you are likely to find someone to help you along your way :) Here are some important links and things to ponder as you begin your journey here.
- Site Terms of Service and rules to live by (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,2.0.html)
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I'm in Adelaide and there are lots of Aussies here, one of the Sydney girls will be on in a minute to give you some local info.
Hugs and Welcome
Hi Cindy
Thankyou for the welcome :)
I was surprised to get a reply so quick! And from an Aussie too! Haha
I'll give the links a read.
A warm welcome to you from another of the Adelaide peoples..
Trust the girls in Adelaide to post first.
They are only slightly less evil than me.
Welcome from Sydney Shiney.
I am one of the trouble makers from Sydney Cindy mentioned.
Happy to answer questions and point you to the right people to help you deal with how you feel. It is not easy at all.
The hardest thing is speaking up, I know.
There are quite a few here from Sydney who can also help and they will be along shortly.
Anyway don't be afraid or let Catherine brand you like she did me.
Hugs
Jen
Evening Kelly :) Nice to meet you
Haha loving the friendly rivalry :P
Wow thanks Jen :)
I shall keep my wits about me haha
welcome from the US
A big warm welcome to the family Shiney! We have a huge Aussie group here. Something in the water down under?*giggles* ;D Anyway, you have found THE place for support and caring, non judgmental people who accept you for who you are, period. I am now your sister from the U.S. (Oklahoma). Feel free to rant, vent, learn, share good news (we like that a LOT) or just have some distracting fun and meet the rest of the family. All of the information you will get here comes from REAL people at all stages of transition, from still questioning to Post Op and everything in between. Here is a BIG HUG :icon_hug: to welcome you and make you feel right at home with us! :)
Welcome shiney nice to see someone else from NSW come on in join the fun.
Nat
(living in Sydney)
I had a nice welcome typed up, but I accidently disconnected my battery. :eusa_wall:
So, welcome from the old lady in Michigan.
Hello Stephanie, Jessica, Nat and Kathy :)
You are all very kind to welcome me, so hugs to you all!
@ Stephanie: Woah. A welcome from a whole country! That is one colossal welcome :P I'm just being cheeky. I appreciate you reaching out :)
@ Jessica: I'm glad to hear I've found such a place, it has been no less then what you have described so far :) ...and another sister! mmm it would explain why the water is so damn refreshing :P haha
@ Nat: Hi fellow sydneysider! bring on the fun :D It's been a bit scarce in the mix so far.
@ Kathy: That you would care do go to such lengths is heart warming, so don't fret, you still sent me some nice :D
Hellooo shiney :D Welcome and enjoy the loving and supportive nature of susans :D
I'm still quite new to all of this as well as being based in Sydney :) All the best and send me a message any time you want to talk :D
Looks like we have quite a gang here now in Sydney. Perhaps we can finally rival those feisty gals in Adelaide.
Welcome all and happy to help anyone.
Just wait for Aunty Catherine.
I'm not in Sydney, myself, but my heart is always there, with my girlfriend. I hope to be there soon, too.
Nice to meet you. I'm Stephanie. *warm hug* :)
That pikachu picture/avatar is so kawaii (~￣▽￣)~
I'm quite surprised as well that there are so many Sydney girls here :D
Hi! I must have missed this when you posted a few days ago so a belated welcome! I'm in Sydney too. :D Catherine and Jenny haven't managed to brand me... yet. ;D
Hello,
I am a Sydney girl too.
Goddess what is in Sydney water?
Quote from: Cindy on March 23, 2014, 12:19:33 AM
Goddess what is in Sydney water?
Send me a gallon would you? It might save money on HRT or at least speed up the effects! *giggle* ;D
Welcome shiney,
im on the same step like you. figure out what is the right. I justh want to share the things with you, wich help me really much the last day: On Youtube.com you find many woman who talk in big detail about their transition and coming out. Im sure you will find many tips there for you. It helps me really with my doubts and most with my fears
Greetings
Hi Shiney;
Not to be left out welcome to our little Down under soiree. I am from Victoria; outside of Melbourne, down on the coast.
Hugs
Hi Shiney,
Seems the water in Melbourne is very special like Sydney's but it can always be improved. Now, where's the Gin bottle....(Actually, thinking about that, it seems water is the main culprit since booze has retreated since starting HRT to the point where I might have a glass of wine once a week - so it must be the water!)
Except for bubbly - that HAS to be drunk ::)
Welcome and enjoy!
Emma
AHHHHH!! i just found the 'see what posts have been replied to button!!!
hahaha
give me a moment i need to catch up!
Hello hello hello to you all!
I shall pm soon, i haven't met the magic 14 yet :P
It is so uplifting to see so many aussies, and sydney siders! Don't you worry melbournites, i've must get down there one day, i heard it has a cool vibe :)
And the fiesty girls of adelaide...i really don't hear much out of your state, maybe its the distance? so, how'd you get your reputation hmmm?
@ Annabelle: i would love that. expect a message very soon :)
@ Jenny: thanks for the welcome :) are you the Jenny Ms Grace is referring too?
@ Pika Stephanie: *hug* awww thats really sweet. I hope you two see eachother soon :)
@ Ms Grace: haha thankyou!
@ Delyth Ann: Hi :) cool name btw
@ Ishtar: oh the hours i have spent on youtube!!! it really has helped. so many inspiring stories. Nice to make your acquaintance :)
@ Judithlynn: soiree! awesome word :D Hi from sydney
@ Emma D: Hahaha you ever tried oyster bay? never tried bubbly myself, i should fix that sometime lol
NOW! who are Catherine and Jenny, i sense a backstory here, fill me in??
Now i know i'm new here, and just starting my journey but if you ever having a bad day, or even better want to share a great day don't hestitate to pm me
love to all
shiney
Hey shiney,
im sorry but im not allowed to write pms yet and i dont know if i am allowed to answer your question here. since i am a "lazy" poster it could take a few month before i am able to answer :s
what i can say for your other question is, i'm a bit on depression now. over the last years i collect enough problems and now it is a bit too much of a good thing. i figure out that i really need to talk personally to a person and working on a small coming out. positive is, that i havent any doubts about my transidentity anymore.
I have a few points what causes really hard emotional conflicts for me: childs, society and selfacceptance. So maybe these questions are good for you too: Will you be able to accept your past and your transsexuality? are you able to accept that you could lose your fertility? Are you able to accept a misfit status for most people? All questions of priorities. Hope this is useful for you
greetings and best wishes
I'm from Sydney as well........well......not really, but drank from the water down under well.............ok that's not true either, I just like the Aussie accent, is so Aussie!
However, I too welcome you in the name of the Planet Earth, as I am a native of, though sometimes it feels as though I might had arrived from elsewhere.
Sorry for the late responce but welcome to the site and a big hello from Perth.
Haha ishtar don't worry it took me a while to get enough to pm, its all good :)
Depression swallowed me whole a few years back, shattered everything i thought i new about my life and what i needed and wanted. I took the long road, just let myself fall into it and experience it fully, which is how i unearthed my trans-identity, so i wouldn't change a thing :) It still pulls at me every now and then, i fully recognize its a long process now, not something you can fix in a snap.
If you every need to talk, feel free to message me or just reach out, there's always someone who will help, especially in a place like this, considering everyone's shared experiences :)
Congratulations on reaching the point of knowing friend!
As to your first question, I don't feel i have excepted it yet, but i believe i will be able to. Every aspect of my past is a part of who i am, i'm not going to turn my back on it, this is just the next chapter in my ever expanding life :D My transexuality is much the same, its who i am. It will be hard if my family isn't accepting, but that remains to be seen,i will be my full self regardless in the long run, i know first hand what life is like when your aren't embracing your whole self and i won't go back to that :)
Fertility. Yes i am. I love kids i've got two nephew's and i can see what a joy they are to their parents and everyone around them. I wouldn't mind being a parent but i've always felt funny about having kids that were biologically mine, just didn't feel right, now it makes more sense as to why. If i choose the become a parent in the future i would probably adopt. That said, if i can afford to store some sperm now before my transition that would be good. Keeps the option there if i ever do want it. I don't think i would be upset if i didn't though.
Misfit status. Well i've felt like a misfit my whole life, something has always been off, i felt a heightened sense of judgement around every interaction i can remember from family to friends to completely strangers. I'm sure most of the time it was me projecting my anxieties onto others and then reacting to that, but that process gives off a weird vibe that i think made people feel something was a bit odd about me. So back to the question, i can accept it. At least i now know who i am and would feel the subtle uneasiness of others around me was justified. Just thinking about it brims me with confidence. It would be a huge weight lifted off my shoulders :)
Good questions, thankyou! What are your thoughts on them for yourself?
All the very best to you too :)
Hello Innainka Earthling!
Don't worry everyone came from somewhere else to someone! :P
How do you do?
Hi charley bea / emerald P!
There's no such thing a late!, you are precisely on time :D
How's things over in Perth?
Yes shiney, I am "that" Jenny, sweet Grace mentioned >:-)
I come with a set of red hot pokers and not afraid to use them. ;)
Trained by the best, Cindy and Catherine, with able assistance from Kelly. The Aussie mafia.
Getting a bit waterlogged here now that summers done and dusted.
Be afraid, very afraid.
J
The brazier is hot and I have a fine selection of irons ready to go.. >:-)
Will we let her choose where the first one goes?
Quote from: Jenny07 on April 14, 2014, 06:38:21 AM
Getting a bit waterlogged here now that summers done and dusted.
Hot chocolate time!! But yeah, all the wet is a bit of a downer.
How is perth? Boring lack of of people to talk to. Hot as heck.
Otherwise not too bad. XD
Some of us actually like it when
The sun is (not) shining on the sea
Shining with all its might
I could actually see outside for the first time in months without a hat and sunglasses ;D
Give me a thunderstorm or at least strong rain anyday....not a minute of light rain. lol
Sitting on the top half of a Queenslander watching, feeling and listening a big thunderstorm come through. That is beautiful
So we have Sydney Perth Adelaide and Melbourne covered anywhere else?
Do your best Kelly and J!
I dare you >:P
You can start off...
Hahaha
I'm on the fence with this one...
That summer sun and beautiful blue skies invigorate me with energy and make me want to get out and get us much into life as possible.
Then when its overcast I get cuddly and sleepy, and that smell of rain, the sound of it falling on a metal roof. I get so calm and zoned out its serine.
I use what ever is going. That said, i've spent the last few years in somewhat of a hibernation and i'm restless and ready to get out on an adventure!!!
QuoteSydney Perth Adelaide and Melbourne
I think thats everyone so far..
ANY OTHERS OUT THERE?
ROLL CALL!!!
haha
The sun makes me feel tired and sleepy and want to stay shut in, the rain livens me and makes me want to go outside...although I get the cuddly bit too as it does that for me also, just no one to join me.
I guess in a way I am the reverse.
Sydney girl here.
Well the rain needs friends to spend the day with too! Singing and dancing in the rain :D
When it rains though i can get into the productive moods, must be the way it clears my mind. i find showers do that too.
When i was a kid lightning used to scare the crap out of me, now I find it transfixing and awe inspiring.
Its funny how much the weather affects us all
Ahh another sydney sider!
Hi Emmaline :)
I read somewhere else that your a sculptor. Thats really cool. You still do it often? And digital artist...I got my first digitizing tablet this year, haven't had enough time to experiment with it much yet though
You might have to go a little more south to run into me, Geelong Voctoria :laugh:
Surfers Paradise(Gold Coast) girl here......originally from South Australia tho. *waves*
hi Shiney .. SA girl here :icon_clap:
Yay someone from the sunshine state has popped up (I started there originally)
Welcome and Hi from Sydney, plenty of support on this site. Ask any question and there should be lots of good advice.
Aisla
One more from Melbourne here, newborn as well. Hi everyone!
My first post :)
I'm from the Blue Mountains area west of Sydney.
Quote from: kaye on May 05, 2014, 04:16:43 AM
My first post :)
I'm from the Blue Mountains area west of Sydney.
What part? I had friends who use to live there and I would hang out there a bit (loved the vegetarian pies from Springwood pie shop)
Quote from: immortal gypsy on May 05, 2014, 04:22:04 AM
What part? I had friends who use to live there and I would hang out there a bit (loved the vegetarian pies from Springwood pie shop)
I'm in Winmalee, near Springwood.
A belated HI! to Kristyn, Mikayla, Diana, Aisla, Georgia and Kaye!!
haven't been on here for a bit, had a fair bit on.
Nice to meet you all :)
@ Kaye
Hey your really close to me! I'm down the mountain near Penrith :)
Welcome to the forums :D