I didn't get the responses I wanted directly and they just said that I'm disgusting and they don't want to be around me anymore. Ok I thought and I got a little depressed about it, but I thought I could manage getting newer and more understanding friends.
Later that day I heard that they had been going around telling everyone in school about it. When I was going home later a gang of guys took me behind school and literally put me in one of those giant container-dumpsters.
I don't know if that's a hate crime or not, but I feel afraid of telling it to anyone else and I hope that it will eventually be forgotten in school.
Ιt is really unfortunate...
but highschool can be cruel , mostly because the kids there are immature and uneducated...
Continue your transition if you can, I dont know if it means anything but things are completely different in college, you wont have to deal with that kind of reactions...
so be patient , follow your dreams and im sure you ll find accepting friends
Thanks. I'll see what happens and right now I don't feel very comfortable in transitioning.
Just follow your heart ,
try to build inner strenght
That's unfortunate to hear Quarky. I've never been in the same position myself, since I'm still "In the Closet". But I have experienced a lot of bullying and such in school. What I do know is that this will wear of and the older you get the more reasonable and mature people around you will be. If you ever want any help or so, just feel free to PM me.
I hope it works out for you!
Quote from: FalsePrincess on March 25, 2014, 09:30:27 AM
Just follow your heart ,
try to build inner strenght
That is something that I would absolutely encourage you to do Quarky. Maybe not in school right now though. Since the mentality in your school seems a bit transphobic I wouldn't think that being to open about it in school would be much helpful. But I would absolutely encourage you to speak with somebody who specialises in this kind of questions.
Thank you very much 930310! It's great to hear that people here understands me.
Quote from: Quarky on March 25, 2014, 09:15:43 AM
I didn't get the responses I wanted directly and they just said that I'm disgusting and they don't want to be around me anymore. Ok I thought and I got a little depressed about it, but I thought I could manage getting newer and more understanding friends.
Later that day I heard that they had been going around telling everyone in school about it. When I was going home later a gang of guys took me behind school and literally put me in one of those giant container-dumpsters.
I don't know if that's a hate crime or not, but I feel afraid of telling it to anyone else and I hope that it will eventually be forgotten in school.
Others may disagree but I consider this a hate crime. It certainly is an assault on your body and should be reported to the police and to the officials at your school. I don't know whether they'll follow up, but I do know that if you keep it to yourself, they can't help you, and those folks may be emboldened to try it again.
If you get nowhere with the police, consider contacting an LGBT support organization near you. Ask for help. You won't have been the first.
Do not let your fear make you into a victim. Please stand up for yourself and make sure these criminals get what's coming to them. That's what they are. Criminals. A physical attack is no more okay when it is committed by teenagers than when it is committed by adults.
It is they that should be afraid, because what they did is a crime and the consequences are quite negative. You cannot let bullies win.
I recommend contacting the school counselor and reporting the incident.
I agree, follow your heart.
In the U.S. schools for the most part have a zero tolerance for bullying so see the counselor or principal. As a police officer myself it was considered battery and they could be prosecuted. Hang in there, OK? Better days are ahead. If or when you go to college check out the Psychology Department for a Therapist. I found my gender Therapist at Oklahoma State University. Only $10.00 a session and they can provide letters for HRT and assist with your transition process. :)
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I'm sorry you were bullied, Quarky. That behavior was criminal. I experienced similar bullying when I was in school; I am glad that in our times, young people can go to the school authorities or the police and be believed and protected. That wasn't the case 30+ years ago when that happened to me, so here is what I did:
1. Cultivated friends who loved me for who I am. They were all ages, genders, and sexualities. Some very popular, some very shy. All brave, with good hearts. I protected and stood up for them, and they did the same for me.
2. Did not keep bullies' secrets. I did not act ashamed that I was hurt or mistreated-- bullies are the ones who are sick and disgusting, not the beautiful people they try to prey on. Shine a light on predator's behavior and they go elsewhere. I told my counselor what was going on, and made friends with the school administrators.
3. Did not let the bullies win. I acted fearless and did not let them see me change who I was. When they stuffed me in garbage cans and dumpsters, I jumped out, put my hands in the air, and said "Tada!" with a big smile on my face, then stared them in the eyes. When they bound me up, carried me across campus over their heads, and threw me headfirst to the pavement, I rolled to avoid death or severe injury, then jumped up, freed myself, laughed in their faces, and sat down in the middle of a group of people that included a couple of my friends who were head cheerleaders. They led a strike, and for a month, none of the boys on the football team got any sex, until the two who hurt me were punished and had apologized.
4. Was very very careful. I changed my habits every day, never walked alone without a means of escape, and sometimes hid or ran to keep myself safe. When I could, I avoided the students who threatened me with weapons or tried to kill me, and watched out for groups of students that involved former attackers and their friends.
5. Studied hard and made friends with all of my teachers.
If there was one thing more I would do now if I had to do it all over again, I would have gotten help for my PTSD then instead of waiting many years. And today I would go to the police (back then, bullying was not treated so seriously unless the victim was hospitalized).
Quote from: Quarky on March 25, 2014, 09:15:43 AM
I didn't get the responses I wanted directly and they just said that I'm disgusting and they don't want to be around me anymore. Ok I thought and I got a little depressed about it, but I thought I could manage getting newer and more understanding friends.
Later that day I heard that they had been going around telling everyone in school about it. When I was going home later a gang of guys took me behind school and literally put me in one of those giant container-dumpsters.
I don't know if that's a hate crime or not, but I feel afraid of telling it to anyone else and I hope that it will eventually be forgotten in school.
Hey *hugs* I was like that too I got pushed around a lot and got bullied too, but always look ahead haters gonna hate but you are a million times better off than they are. They were laughing but after my SRS nobody said anything. What goes around comes around trust me they'll get their dose in time. Now if only we had a anti bully spray that we could use to shoo bullies away.
On my 15th birthday I gave my year's bully a bloody nose(I broke it) on the rugby pitch after weeks of being pushed around,insulted and having my property trashed.The bully and 2 of his goons beat the snot out of me in the locker room after the game,over the next 3 weeks I tracked them down one at a time and gave them the worst ass kicking they ever had.I was left alone after that
The bully is dead from years of heroin addiction,one goon lives in the bus station drinking metal polish the other is in jail for a long time for child cruelty.Know this you're better than these dirtbags,if you can't kick ass someone else will,sooner or later they'll pick on the wrong person and they'll eventually blow their own lives up.Don't stay silent like I did,tell someone,a teacher,friend or relation.
I'd like to second what others said, that you should report this. To the school as well as to the police; throwing someone into a dumpster can cause injury, and is therefore criminal assault. Make sure to mark the complaint as a hate crime if that's possible where you live, it should speed up the process a little. Make sure to name them if you can.
Now, knowing the police and most schools right, they'll get away with a slap on the wrist (or in some cases, no consequence at all). If they get anything more, you have abnormally good teachers and police where you live. But even if nothing happens, there is a formal complaint attached to their name, and it will show up if they get more complaints later. So don't get disheartened if the school or police neglect to take action - if nothing else, you've helped making sure future offenses will be taken more seriously. And not least, if they attack you again, your previous complaint will be on record, helping your cause.