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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: CursedFireDean on March 30, 2014, 08:07:06 PM

Title: what to include in a coming out letter to a sister
Post by: CursedFireDean on March 30, 2014, 08:07:06 PM
I've decided that I'm going to write a letter to my sister to come out to her. So.
What advice do you have for it? As in what types of things should/shouldn't I say?

I'm making sure to be clear that I am the same person I have always been, and I'm no different as a brother than a sister. I'm still me.
What other things are good to emphasize?
Title: Re: what to include in a coming out letter to a sister
Post by: King Malachite on March 30, 2014, 08:15:12 PM
The most important thing is anticipating what concerns she may have.  Is she religious?  If so, you might want to address those conerns with the verses from the Holy Book she reads.  Would she be more concerned about the dangers of what may happen to you physially?  I would touch on that.  It doesn't have to be super long, but let her know you are aware of such medical concerns (as the doctors are) so you will be closely monitered by your physician while taking T (if that's what you want to do).  I would also emphasize how you came to this decision.  I suggest giving this great detail as I personally see that as the most important thing so she won't think you just thought about this randomly

Also let her know that if she has any respectful questions, then feel free to ask as that shows how prepared you are for this.  I think you will do fine, Dean.  :)  You're very articulate.  :) 

Best of luck!
Title: Re: what to include in a coming out letter to a sister
Post by: CursedFireDean on March 30, 2014, 08:26:13 PM
Thanks man
I'm not sure what she'd be most concerned about, so I'll definitely be sure to at least touch on all of those things.
Title: Re: what to include in a coming out letter to a sister
Post by: Jessica Merriman on March 30, 2014, 09:20:45 PM
I would also add that this is not a quick decision, but something you have considered a while now and feel must be addressed. :)
Title: Re: what to include in a coming out letter to a sister
Post by: aleon515 on March 30, 2014, 10:48:02 PM
My letter (20 years ago, or so it seems). (Actually May last year.)  Jay
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mkiaTX3MGe8
Title: Re: what to include in a coming out letter to a sister
Post by: Bombadil on March 30, 2014, 11:00:02 PM
I'm totally impressed with jay's letter
Title: Re: what to include in a coming out letter to a sister
Post by: CursedFireDean on March 31, 2014, 02:53:27 PM
Your letter is definitely very helpful Jay, thank you!