So I hopped over to this side of the forum because I have a question for those who have kids. My fiancee really wants a baby. I have agreed to hold off on my transition (I'm mtf) to give things a chance to happen. I was wondering if anyone can suggest any herbs, fruits anything that can help her get pregnant, maybe something that worked for y'all in the past before starting your journey, so I can get mine going.
Thanks for any advice and if yall would rather PM me instead of posting publicly please do.
Kari Ann.
I really doubt asking this to a bunch of men is going to help you much. Regardless of our pasts, and yes, some of us did get children, it was usually something that was traumatizing. Talking about female reproductive processes can therefor be triggering, which may be the reason why this topic has not been replied to yet.
I know, this won't help you one bit, but thankfully the internet should be able to help you otherwise. There must be a lot of mother forums out there that could help. I wish you good luck!
There isn't much evidence that herbs etc. will help her at all. The only things she can do is eat normal and stay active and so. There is always insemination or so to increase your chances of getting pregnant.
Well, I've actually done this - twice - so I'll answer as sensitively as I can. Yes, there are more appropriate sources of info out there and I completely understand why some of the guys here might find the question triggering... but I'm happy to share what I learned on my journey to become a parent.
[Trigger warning: conception]
The best thing you can both do is to eat healthily, keep as fit as reasonably possible, don't smoke, don't drink (or limit your intake as much as humanly possible) and keep your stress levels down. The more stressed you both get about it, the more difficult it is to conceive.
There are some good pregnancy-specific vitamin supplements out there: it'd be a good idea for her start taking them now to prepare her body. Look for ones containing folic acid, which helps prevent neural tube defects such as spina bifida. If she prefers not to take supplements, folic acid is also present in broccoli, brussels sprouts, asparagus, peas, chickpeas and brown rice. I would recommend she stay away from non-pregnancy vitamins and herbs, as some of them contain substances that could be harmful to a developing foetus.
And keep an eye on her menstrual cycle: peak fertility is pretty much half-way between periods, so make sure you concentrate your - ahem - efforts around that week. If possible, make several attempts per day during that week.
I seem to remember reading somewhere that it takes something like 11 months for the average couple to successfully conceive. So don't worry if it doesn't happen immediately, but do seek medical advice if you haven't conceived after a year of trying.
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Oh, and the very best of luck to you both. :)
It's great that everyone is avoiding the triggers.
I am sceptical that herbs would help at all. I would suggest that both of you eat healthy and have fun trying until it happens. Don't get too discouraged if it doesn't happen right away. Like FTMDiaries said, "something like 11 months". Keep "working" at it and get regular check ups.
Can't wait to see the baby! BTW you should probably put a trigger warning on the title. ;)
Why don't you put your sperm in a bank and then get it inserted into her to make baby? Plus if she wants more than one kid you don't have to wait on transition.