I wanna go through the ftm, well, everything, but i dont wanna do anything until i tell my mom. But i dont know how i would tell her. Ive told her before, but she thought i was too young and didnt know what i really wanted. Its been almost a year since she told me that, but im afraid of getting the same response. How would i deal with this? Thank you
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Well, I don't know how old/independent you are so I'll just offer a variety of things. You have several options.
Firstly, is there a local support group for trans* people in your area? You might try contacting them. Even if they're farther than you're able to travel to(or if you're limited by where your parents/friends can drive you to), you can at least get some information from them. Sometimes they allow supporters(such as family members) to sit in on group meetings. They also sometimes offer support groups specifically for family and loved ones of trans* people which could be helpful to your mom at least as far as understanding it better.
You could try to speak to a counselor at school. This only works if you think the counselor will help you in regards to being trans*. I went to a Christian high school so that wasn't an option for me for example. But if they can help you, they might be a powerful ally in helping to educate your mom.
You can talk to your doctor about it. Like the counselor, it could provide little help or it could end up being a real life saver. I found out that my general practitioner was completely cool and willing to work with the fact that I was FtM well after the fact so you never know.
You could gather a compilation of literature either online or from places like GLAAD about transgender youth and offer it to her to browse. I did this with my step-mom and it seemed to help her. You could point her to this site, even. Though that wouldn't be my first choice as who knows what thread she might find herself in.
Quote from: ZombieDog on April 07, 2014, 01:23:08 AM
Well, I don't know how old/independent you are so I'll just offer a variety of things. You have several options.
Firstly, is there a local support group for trans* people in your area? You might try contacting them. Even if they're farther than you're able to travel to(or if you're limited by where your parents/friends can drive you to), you can at least get some information from them. Sometimes they allow supporters(such as family members) to sit in on group meetings. They also sometimes offer support groups specifically for family and loved ones of trans* people which could be helpful to your mom at least as far as understanding it better.
You could try to speak to a counselor at school. This only works if you think the counselor will help you in regards to being trans*. I went to a Christian high school so that wasn't an option for me for example. But if they can help you, they might be a powerful ally in helping to educate your mom.
You can talk to your doctor about it. Like the counselor, it could provide little help or it could end up being a real life saver. I found out that my general practitioner was completely cool and willing to work with the fact that I was FtM well after the fact so you never know.
You could gather a compilation of literature either online or from places like GLAAD about transgender youth and offer it to her to browse. I did this with my step-mom and it seemed to help her. You could point her to this site, even. Though that wouldn't be my first choice as who knows what thread she might find herself in.
Haha, that's true. Here wouldn't be to Good, no matter how much it helps. XD thanks for the advice, i was thinking about telling her after i made myself a doctor's appointment (whenever that'll be -_-) :) but thanks