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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: Kade1985 on April 08, 2014, 08:33:55 PM

Title: Life changes
Post by: Kade1985 on April 08, 2014, 08:33:55 PM
So life has been crazy like within the past couple weeks. I got a new job at Taco Bell, my voice is continuing to drop, and a lot of my friends are noticing that and it's making me excited.

The biggest change recently is I have a girlfriend now. So like... she knows I'm trans and has called me he and him and even her boyfriend and it's like the best feeling ever. Me, a boyfriend lol. Like at first it kinda felt weird to think about but now every time I do I'm just like... =D

It's great though, really. I AM a bit worried about when my co-workers starts to notice my changes as well though. The only people who know at work is my gf, our mutual friend Miranda, and well.. myself. Not even my boss knows. Not sure how to go about it.
Title: Re: Life changes
Post by: Ltl89 on April 08, 2014, 08:55:09 PM
Congrats on the job and gf! It sounds like things are picking up and developing well for you.  With work, I sort found that most of my coworkers know something is just because of my appearance and very quirky persona.  In a way, I prefer letting people get to know me and adjust to me before I tell them as I think it makes it easier.  If the job is new, maybe you shouldn't worry so much at first.  Like allow yourself to get to know everyone and introduce yourself to them.  Once you are around these people enough, you sort of get a better understanding of the situation and what things may be like.   Plus, it never hurts to make friends with people first before coming out.  It could make people more likely to embrace it.
Title: Re: Life changes
Post by: Evienne on April 12, 2014, 02:29:01 AM
Well glad to hear how things have gotten. Sounds great!
And just know, you don't have to just flat out go tell your boss and coworkers your secret like that. If you want to tell them, you can take it slow, and get more into a friend-zone first, and it will be so much easier to tell then a complete stranger who may judge based off of just that.