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General Discussions => General discussions => Topic started by: Constance on April 15, 2014, 10:23:27 PM

Title: Love and Anxiety, Part 2
Post by: Constance on April 15, 2014, 10:23:27 PM
My partner and I might be back together, and they've told me their chosen name.

When I first met them they introduced themself as Paytn. As I got to know them, they shared stories of horribly abusive previous partners, and that contributed in part the the anxiety they had about our relationship. We're starting over, slower this time, and they've given me their real name: Paul.

I'm hopeful, but cautious.
Title: Re: Love and Anxiety, Part 2
Post by: ReaverMarcus on April 15, 2014, 10:30:24 PM
Taking things slow sounds like a good plan, Constance. Hope it works out for you both.

~Reaver
Title: Re: Love and Anxiety, Part 2
Post by: Constance on April 15, 2014, 10:43:34 PM
Thanks Reaver.

Paul has various physical health and mental health issues, and that does make this a challenge. But the fact that we're getting better at communicating with each other will hopefully help.
Title: Re: Love and Anxiety, Part 2
Post by: MadelineB on April 15, 2014, 11:24:26 PM
Blessed be. Hope it can be a learning and healing process. Please take care of Constance.
Title: Re: Love and Anxiety, Part 2
Post by: Constance on April 16, 2014, 01:22:58 PM
A friend of mine loaned me a book called Stop Walking on Eggshells and it's for people in relationships with persons who have borderline personalirty disorder. While Paul doesn't have BPD, there is good information in that book that I seem to be able to apply to our relationship.

So, yeah, I am trying to take care of myself in this too.