We all get this. Or, most of us do. Or Christ, I do! "What the f--- are you? What the f--- is that?" My new response is that I'm a human being.
water, proteins, lipids, various inorganic compounds...
Quote from: MugwortPsychonaut on April 17, 2014, 11:53:49 PM
... I'm a human being.
Nice response, but seriously what kind of person asks a question like that?
I was you before I came out as trans.
Quote from: Ms Grace on April 18, 2014, 12:26:21 AM
Nice response, but seriously what kind of person asks a question like that?
I live in Philadelphia.
I'm me
Quote from: Ms Grace on April 18, 2014, 12:26:21 AM
Nice response, but seriously what kind of person asks a question like that?
Drunks and gamblers (personal experience)
Quote from: MugwortPsychonaut on April 18, 2014, 01:14:13 AM
I live in Philadelphia.
um, OK? Doesn't mean much to me, I live in Australia. :P
WTF's it got to do with you? my usual reply or why are you interested
People don't ask me that. They refer to me as "you" "client" "customer" "person" etc. if they need to. Nobody confronts me like that but I am very particular about where I go and the situations I put myself in.
people seldom ask me what gender i am, but rather seem to don't use pronouns. However when they do ask I normally say something like the gif.
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fmedia.tumblr.com%2Ftumblr_lpsm1oj90w1qgig3a.gif&hash=0717d80e6b0b9436ca0ba3b2cb6fbb54ed91c402)
When someone asks me what are you my reply is "I dont know what I am"
lol
I don't think anyone would dare say that to me >:-)
And never twice.
That used to happen to me in my teens and my response was "Whatever you are looking for, I am the opposite!"
I've often dreamed of various witty retorts if someone asked me this... for example:
-"If you have to ask, you don't need to know."
-Either "Take your pick, I don't care" or its opposite, "What kind of man has a shape like this, mister?"
-"What are you, the genital police?"
Fortunately, the situation has never come up. During my andro phase, anyone who couldn't tell right away just avoided pronouns altogether. And some did hilarious things like calling me "she," calling me "he," then calling me "she" again without even realizing what they'd just said.
My response would probably be something smart ass like "better than you". Your reply is perfect though. It hits every note on why that's such a disrespectful and innappropriate question to ask anyone, without any hostility. Seriously, people need to wake up and open their eyes and hearts.
I haven't been brave enough to go out, yet, but that is a question I'm afraid of hearing. I really like your answer, and will remember it :)
Quote from: Ms Grace on April 18, 2014, 01:41:36 AM
um, OK? Doesn't mean much to me, I live in Australia. :P
Philly's one of the most miserable, violent cities in America. For all the art and culture we have here, we also have huge sections of the city that are covered in dog ->-bleeped-<- and littered with... litter. Nobody cares. Blue-collar, cheesesteak-eating, sweatpants-wearing, racist, jingoist, homophobic, transphobic slobs. Obnoxious, self-important dirtbags who own six vehicles and run the engines, just because they can.
I think this photo sums it up:
(https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/5/59/Genos_Steaks.JPG/320px-Genos_Steaks.JPG)
Note the giant cheesesteak at the top. There's propaganda all over that place, calling for the death of Mumia Abu-Jamal. (Disclaimer: I know nothing about the facts of that case.) They have a policy that all orders must be made in English. They print stickers with the owner's picture in front of an American flag, and it reads, "Press 1 for English. Press 2 for deportation."
A friend of mine also got spit on there, for leaning up on his boyfriend.
I love South Philly, because you can do whatever you want, and there's nobody to tell you not to. I hate South Philly, because ANYBODY can do whatever they want, and there's nobody to tell them not to.
That kind of makes it quiet a bit clearer! :-X
I like your reply.
I will not eat at Gino's steaks.
I love some parts of Philadelphia, fears some parts and have worked and lived there all my life.
Quote from: MugwortPsychonaut on April 17, 2014, 11:53:49 PM
We all get this. Or, most of us do. Or Christ, I do! "What the f--- are you? What the f--- is that?" My new response is that I'm a human being.
Fortunately I'm passable enough as female that no one knows so I don't have any problems. Thank God! But what's interesting is people at places I visit regularly who have figured it out are always nice to me and use the female pronouns without reservations. In fact I think most people would not feel comfortable referring to me as a sir. I don't look like a sir so they don't seem to have any problem with miss, mam sweetheart, darling, baby. I guess I got luck in that respect. Honestly I don't think people have a problem with other people being transgendered. I think the problem they have is when they don't pass. It's shocking to see a masculine man presenting as female and to be honest I have experienced the same shock. I'm going to get flack for this but I've seen transgender men that weren't passable and I was like "oh my God". Please don't take that the wrong way because my point is that such reactions are automatic. People are very visually oriented.
I am very fortunate to have never been asked this...that is extremely rude, i can't imagine any civilized human being asking that questions lol.
I mean, I'm not super masculine. I was always a feminine boy. I'm 31 now, and I look way younger. My body's soaking up the hormones really quickly. After a year or so on estrogen and getting my facial hair lasered, I shouldn't really have these problems.