It's been nearly a year since starting HRT, and I finally had the courage for packing and giving away most of my old guy clothing. It was the first time in a month I checked Brenda (lesbian dating app), to find a message saying "Noah, you are not a woman".
From a deleted profile (or maybe blocked me), so no chance of ever knowing this anonymous hater. Nothing pisses me off that this kind of cowardice acts. Wish I could have told her: "I am more of a woman than you will ever be".
I don't care how many times I am called ->-bleeped-<-got, ->-bleeped-<-... But this is the kind of thing that actually hurts me. I already have enough issues trying finding the confidence to advance and avoid thinking that the world hates us.
There is a famous saying from Carlettta (?spelling) who ran the Les Boys (Drag Group in the Cross in Sydney) troupe in the 70's-2000. She is a transgender woman, and a wonderful lady.
Her comment in a similar situation? "I'm more of a man than you will ever be, and more of a woman than you will ever have"
Says it all really.
That would have been Carlotta of Les Girls. Her name is forever emblazed in my mind as she was the first to make me aware that transition was possible.
Applejack - haters are going to hate, and I guess this person feels threatened enough to stalk you. It's almost flattering in a way - if you weren't that feminine, why the blunt outing?
Aww honey. I can understand that would be really upsetting. Not sure I understand about the site/app it was coming from. But Cindy and luna are right.
This was just a hater.
Quote from: Cindy on April 19, 2014, 03:44:45 AM
"I'm more of a man than you will ever be, and more of a woman than you will ever have"
Says it all really.
Yeah it really does.
As the parent of a transgender child (forgive me if it's the wrong expression and please feel free to point me in the right direction) I can't understand why people hate you, and now my daughter, just for being human.
I can understand having a few choice things to say about murderers, burglars and the like, but never about a fellow human being who is just trying to find their own place in the world.
I have never understood homophobia either, just what is it people are so angry, or fearful, about?
The way I see it, if being female could be considered the same as running in a race, some girls just get held back a bit at the start (people like my daughter) and have to run that bit harder to catch up with the other girls. Those other girls are on a clear track, my daughter is having to work her way through an obstacle course as well as trying to run alongside them.
If outside people can't help you get over the obstacles, then they can at least have the decency not to try to trip you up on the way round.
I'm sorry if it's a weak analogy, it's the best I've got at the moment and I can say, hand on heart as the dad of a girl, no-one is going to make my daughter feel any less feminine, or put any obstacles in her way without having me to reckon with.
To me, women are women and deserve to be treated with the utmost respect (my late wife made a feminist out of me)
Some people have the urge to put others down to make themselves feel better but just remember, if someone blows out your candle, it doesn't make theirs burn any brighter.
Quote from: Magic Dad on May 05, 2014, 10:43:04 AM
As the parent of a transgender child (forgive me if it's the wrong expression and please feel free to point me in the right direction) I can't understand why people hate you, and now my daughter, just for being human.
I can understand having a few choice things to say about murderers, burglars and the like, but never about a fellow human being who is just trying to find their own place in the world.
I have never understood homophobia either, just what is it people are so angry, or fearful, about?
The way I see it, if being female could be considered the same as running in a race, some girls just get held back a bit at the start (people like my daughter) and have to run that bit harder to catch up with the other girls. Those other girls are on a clear track, my daughter is having to work her way through an obstacle course as well as trying to run alongside them.
If outside people can't help you get over the obstacles, then they can at least have the decency not to try to trip you up on the way round.
I'm sorry if it's a weak analogy, it's the best I've got at the moment and I can say, hand on heart as the dad of a girl, no-one is going to make my daughter feel any less feminine, or put any obstacles in her way without having me to reckon with.
To me, women are women and deserve to be treated with the utmost respect (my late wife made a feminist out of me)
Some people have the urge to put others down to make themselves feel better but just remember, if someone blows out your candle, it doesn't make theirs burn any brighter.
. Wow! You sound like the best dad ever:)
Quote from: melanie maritz on May 08, 2014, 04:32:10 PM
. Wow! You sound like the best dad ever:)
I second that. You go, dad!
Cheers,
Tegan