Hello, everyone! You can call me Affie. I'm nineteen, and I hail from the country of Fado and high taxes. (Portugal! ;))
I am currently studying Anthropology in a Lisbon University, and it was thanks to my wonderful class that I started questioning my identity. One of my friends came out to me as trans (something that really surprised me, given that we'd rarely talked before that - I guess I just look very trustworthy?) a few months ago, and that seemed to bring a lot of things that I had buried deep down, back to the surface. It was overwhelming, at first, but now I think I have started to accept it, and am adjusting accordingly.
This is by no means the first time I am considering all this; ever since I was a child, I've always felt at home in male clothes or doing male stuff. I had a huge collection of miniature cars and dinosaurs that everyone was very jealous of. ;D SRS was something I had looked into, mainly out of curiosity - now I ask myself if maybe there was something else behind it.
So far, I am only out to a few, very close friends, mostly because I'm not entirely sure this is who I truly am - even though I am pretty sure it is, I still want to wait a while and see what happens. I haven't yet come out to my family, even though I really want to. My mum's reaction when I so much as touch the subject puts me off, though. She's very transphobic. :-\
I like Sherlock and Doctor Who, hedgehogs, horses, Bastille, Anthropology, (though I'll drop out this year and change to Equine Management instead!) painting, drawing, reading, fishes, and a lot of other stuff. I own a dog, two guinea pigs, a bunny and a parakeet. :D
Aaaand this is getting huge, already. Here, have an apologetic smooch from Mr. Barney:
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I hope I'll get to know a lot of people here, and that I will learn much more about this whole world that I am still very new to. :)
Welcome :)
Im 19 years old too :)
good luck with your transition
Hi Ouriço :)
Welcome to Susan's!
Sometimes it is hard to know if a parent is actually transphobic or if an idea just scares them. A lot of parents don't really know what it means to be trans, and if they are given the right kind of presentation with it there is a good chance they will come around in time. I like to think most people are like that! Due to media portrayal, trans people are an easy target. It does seem to be getting better though!
Good to have you (and your pets) here! I have two kitties of my own. I'm actually allergic to cats, too... go figure ;)
Welcome to the site and see you around!
Thank you for the warm welcome! ❤
So far, when it comes to my mum, I have only hinted at it, really, mostly talking about my friend, asking her about opinions, etc. To be honest, she confuses me; not long ago, a law permitting co-adoption by a same-sex couple was refused, and she was very obviously unhappy. All the other times, she sounds very homophobic and transphobic. To me, it seems she thinks people who don't conform to society's idea of "normal" are some kind of freaks. She went through the stages of grief when I announced I wanted to go to the UK to study, which is another reason why I am very, very hesitant to come out. I have half a mind to stay like this until I have a steady job and can afford therapy and the like, but honestly... I'm not sure I can.
Cats are adorable! I'd have one as well, but our flat is already small as it is. :D
Quote from: Ouriço on April 25, 2014, 11:46:01 AM
Thank you for the warm welcome! ❤
So far, when it comes to my mum, I have only hinted at it, really, mostly talking about my friend, asking her about opinions, etc. To be honest, she confuses me; not long ago, a law permitting co-adoption by a same-sex couple was refused, and she was very obviously unhappy. All the other times, she sounds very homophobic and transphobic. To me, it seems she thinks people who don't conform to society's idea of "normal" are some kind of freaks. She went through the stages of grief when I announced I wanted to go to the UK to study, which is another reason why I am very, very hesitant to come out. I have half a mind to stay like this until I have a steady job and can afford therapy and the like, but honestly... I'm not sure I can.
Cats are adorable! I'd have one as well, but our flat is already small as it is. :D
My mom was very similar in reference to the "freak" word. It was as if I knew she had the capacity to be open minded enough, she just needed a healthy and proper realization of what me being trans meant. It sounds like your mom might be kind of similar! At least I hope she is, my mom has blown me away with her support immediately from the moment of impact.
You seem like a very nice person, so I have a feeling it's going to work out for you ;) Just have to play those cards right!
Hi Ouriço :icon_wave:
Welcome to Susan's :) Glad to have you here, join on in the fun
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