Hey All,
For those of us that are very tall, does dressing sexy usually improve your chances of passing? Does it make it worse?
I'm 6'2 and have been full time for 6 years and always dress in plain womens' jeans and t-shirts, so that I don't get any crushing comments like "she's a man!". Thankfully, while dressing in such a boring clothes, people don't seem to be very interested in finding out if I'm trans or not, and usually treat me with respect, plus the correct female pronouns etc. I fear that if I dress up more or dress sexier, that people will laugh and think I'm just a drag queen looking for a laugh. I'm not a drag queen (although I love them to bits!), I just want the same things that we all want :)
Has anyone experimented with plain clothes (bland jeans/tshirts) vs feminine/sexy (dresses, skirts, blouses) and are you tall as well?
Dressing sexy is a dubble edged sword.
My freinds all jelly of my legs.
However having my legs out takes the average males attention away from less feminine features. BUT it also attracts a closer look from those men that were i cis born would want their leg over.
I exsperienced both of this in the same groop, I was passing two young men about my age, i get realy shy when this happens and get my phone out for an excuse not to make eye contact. one of the men said hi to my and i looked up and smiled.
After they had passed i heard the one that spoke to me say to his freind, "I think thats a man." My heart sank I was scarred exspecting an iquisitorial persiut leanding to a beating. I put my phone away held my head up, And prepeared for a beating. But then I heard his freind, "With legs like that? No way!"
EDIT ---
I was wearing a mini skirt an t shirt.The skirt was tried and tested, heavy anought not to blow up, pleated anough for it to dangle and not exspose me shound i need to squat, and long anough to not show anything shoud I Bend over.
Skirts need those qualities if not worn with shorts or legging. IMO
Options...
1) Jeans & Tee shirt
2) Sexy
3) Lots of wiggle room in between... Unless you count any skirt or dress as "sexy"
I am a thin 6ft even and tend to wear shoes with some sort of heel. My philosophy has always been to make clear unambiguous presentation. In rural West Virginia, a land of 5'4" 250 lb women I really had no issues. Sure a longish look occasionally but I attributed those to simply being I looked damn good compared to most of the women. Not that I was dressed sexy, just usually in a skirt or dress and not jeans or worse.
i found a happy medium works best to me. 6'2" linebacker here...
Jeans + t-shirt or andro = WTF is that?
Too dolled up or over the top sexy= WTF is that?
Cute clothes, with tasteful makeup= pass
Jaz,
6'7" Girl here and I usually dress in women's jeans and feminine tops and Tees. I get a lot of "wow your a tall woman", but never a "that's a man comments" fortunately. Being tall does attract attention and dressing more sexy will also. One thing I will say is that if you have any features that are masculine (and most cis-women have something that is), when you dress more feminine, it tends to make those stick out. I don't consider height being on of those features. Every woman that has commented on my height has said that they wish they had mine.
Quote from: Jill F on May 18, 2014, 12:08:00 PM
i found a happy medium works best to me. 6'2" linebacker here...
Jeans + t-shirt or andro = WTF is that?
Too dolled up or over the top sexy= WTF is that?
Cute clothes, with tasteful makeup= pass
Yeah we all have to work with our bodies, even cis women will say I wish i could wear somthing like that to each other.
Quote from: Sydney_NYC on May 18, 2014, 12:10:28 PM
One thing I will say is that if you have any features that are masculine (and most cis-women have something that is), when you dress more feminine, it tends to make those stick out.
The reason I wear skirts, makes my hips look wider, and my shoulders less broad in comparison.
Interesting topic, I am am around the 6'2"-3" mark and wear heels all the time makes 6'5"-6".Like Syndey I also get a lot of ---my your a tall woman-- but I get clocked to and don't really care.Almost always go out wearing womens jeans and a pretty top sometimes a skirt and a pretty blouse. Hardly ever do I wear makeup beyond lipstick and my nails are always done and for those I get lots of positive comments. My hair is natural light brown and about 4" down my back so from behind with a natural feminine walk I pass great as I have been told. The face is still under construction laser starts next week. I think most have a longer time line than I.Around last May I went 95% full time the rest andro and inOctober 99.9% full time and started HRT on 12/25/2013.
When I am rid of the face fuzz I will be fine my voice needs help also and I am working on that.The bottom line is I dress to blend in, walk like I know where i am going, smile and acknowledge people and have never had a hint of a problem anywhere.Dressing sexy would bring to many wondering eyes to a very marginal female and put me in deep do-do with my S.O. :) Patty
As a 6' midget (everything is relative...) weighing about 160lbs, I dress very feminine, dresses more than skirts as they totally neutralize the fact that I have rather narrow hips. I do however have very full and rounded buttocks.
In the winter I wear a lot of pullover dresses with thick tights and boots and that works really well. In the summer I wear mostly long dresses with an empire cut (narrowest area just below the breasts) and sandals with low heels. Long dresses may not be what you would call sexy but they look really good on a tall woman. At my age, sexy is definitely a no no but I have been told by the ladies at the office (in France) that I dress very well so dressing feminine is definitely not a problem, even for a tall woman.
If you have any female friends, I suggest you go to them for advice. Most women have a very good eye for clothes and will tell you when you are making a mistake. I am married as it happens and my wife would never let me out looking ridiculous. That being said, it works both ways as I have often bought stuff for her and she recognizes that I have a good eye for what suits her... ;)
Anyway, no reason for any complexes. While very tall women still stand out a bit they mostly stand out for how good they look, especially if they have a slim build!
Warm regards.
Donna
My answer is like Jill F was .And when i can rock a skirt i will be in heaven for sure .6ft 3 is my view on the world and if i can be 50 yr old tomboy then if i am only 70% passable yahooooooooo. Oh yea i have super set of longggggg legs ..Next year i am hopeful i be able to post some results .AKA Sara
I do not go out as female yet but I have been wondering this same thing. I have legs that I am super excited to show off and hip bones that are also very feminine that as a guy I have always been made fun of for (hoping hrt fills in the area between hips and legs for some nice curves!). I am 6ft 0inches and pants with a 34inch inseam barely touch my shoes. I like girls and from my view athletic legs on a girl would overshadow a lot of other "imperfections". Pretty faces are all over the place.
Dressing sexy attracts a lot of attention - whether you're cisgender or transgender. If you want to blend in, then dress like how most women do - just casually and nothing that stands out. I love dressing in stilettos and a skirt, because it feels really girly and amazing, but it attracts a lot of attention and stares (as it would for any girl).
I never dress sexy cause it simply is not me, so I can't really comment on that. But I feel like if you just find cute outfits and wear those it's going to not attract too much attention, and you'll feel good about yourself which doesn't hurt. I think if you go too dumpy, that might attract attention too.
I'm 56, 6'1 and a half and weigh 240 lb.I have celulitis and a badly swollen right leg and don't like anyone seeing my legs. I wear flats as I sometimes need a stick to walk and they are so comfortable.I wear boot cut jeans or black pants and dress like a lot of 50s women.I usually wear girls t shirts and tops,always er rings and necklace (usually a Crucifix).I've got hay fever really bad again so I don't wear eyeliner or mascara as my eyes are constantly watering.I have a clear hair free face and threaded eyebrows and straight ash blonde hair to my bust with a fringe layered through the front(bangs) which I usually wear up or in a pony tail or braid as it's often windy where I live.
I kind of look bland but I don't know if I pass,probably not as I sound like Lemmy but 99% of the time I'm accepted and treated as one of the girls.I previously worked as bus driver for 10 years dealing with the public,transitioned full time in 1991.
Quote from: Jill F on May 18, 2014, 12:08:00 PM
Jeans + t-shirt or andro = WTF is that?
Too dolled up or over the top sexy= WTF is that?
Cute clothes, with tasteful makeup= pass
6'3" here, 170lbs/75kg. Much to my amazement I apparently make jeans and tee work but I'm still getting comfortable with the idea of passing wearing pants. Fortunately Australian women seem to love wearing dresses and skirts, especially during summer so I've gone with that. But it's cooling down now, so pants and jeans are necessary anyway.
I've never dolled myself up, would like to give it a try for a special occasion but would probably ask someone professional to do my makeup. Won't catch me in a mini skirt though, I'm 48 and most of the women I know around that age or older don't wear them either.
For the most part, especially when going to work or going out, I like to dress to please myself, no one else (although the compliments are always nice!). Usually that means tasteful attractive dresses, footwear and minimal bling and make-up; strong patterns, lots of black and strong colours. Given my height there's no point in trying to hide myself, but at the same time I'm not going to vamp it up, that draws undue and unwanted attention no matter how tall you are.
How about dress like YOU want too? If you are comfortable with yourself, go for it. :)
well, I'm 5'5 and like casual dresses.
I'm mostly a blue jeans kinda girl but I like wearing a nice dress now and then, I don't really try to dress sexy though
I'm 5' 7" and really admire tall long leggy women but I imagine because they are usually fairly attractive and stand out in the crowd they would get more scrutiny than someone my size. That just puts the onus on you tall pretty girls to be more attentive to what is time and place appropriate in terms of dress. Me I'm a stocky but fit type and get clocked as FtM or a lesbian half the time because of my own androgynous presentation. You tall ladies do have the option of looking rather stunning in your clothes if you make the effort. legs on trans women are most always more shapely following HRT due to earlier athletic endeavors, those sculpted muscles give way to rather remarkably attractive curves.
I'm 6'1 ish and this typical of what I grab to wear, been accused of wearing skirts that are a bit short though ;)
Working its jeans in the winter and denim skirts and tshirt or tank top in the summer.
Old pic with short hair :-\
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I like that style Michelle, looks good! That's close to what I am going for on the weekends and after work. Where I work now I couldn't wear that mostly because of the safety regulations, but partly because out of 120 people that work there 4 are women. They seem to dress as much like the guys as possible when they are at work.
I'm 6'1" and I favor those knee-short spaghetti strap dresses. I like flaunting my legs because they are one thing I actually like right now. I've never had much of an issue with pulling off sexy other than my lack of progress in the boob department and my still pretty broad arms/shoulders, but I don't attract a whole lot of attention. At least no more/less than I would any other day. Maybe I'm just early in, but a cis male friend of mine once told me "you need to start dressing more sexy, your outfits are so conservative" so I decided to go for it.
Of course, there's a time and a place for sexy :P not always. I guess it depends on your definition of sexy ~ for example: I wear short shorts and loose/low-back tank tops on a regular basis when I'm not at work :P doesn't really attract any extra attention.... However, I am in Miami :P
Thanks everyone for all your great advice and personal experiences so far :)
Quote from: Michaela Whimsy on May 18, 2014, 10:27:30 PM
I like that style Michelle, looks good! That's close to what I am going for on the weekends and after work. Where I work now I couldn't wear that mostly because of the safety regulations, but partly because out of 120 people that work there 4 are women. They seem to dress as much like the guys as possible when they are at work.
Thank you :)
This is my warm weather work "uniform" since I'm the boss (and only employee) I get away with it just fine ;)
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If I'm 6 ft, does that make me part of the tall club?
I am 5ft8' and I like to always wear a loose top with tight pants or tights. I tend to try and not brind bring attention to my abdominal area as it hasnt softened as much as other areas yet. I love scarves and low ankle boots or flats and sandals. I would love to design my own clothing but im hopeless with a needle and thread haha Fashion takes up alot of my thoughts though.
I am just over 6'2"
and about to start h.r.t.
thank you for this topic,
I've been wondering how
I should be preparing my
future wardrobe..
Quote from: Sydney_NYC on May 18, 2014, 12:10:28 PM
Jaz,
6'7" Girl here and I usually dress in women's jeans and feminine tops and Tees. I get a lot of "wow your a tall woman", but never a "that's a man comments" fortunately. Being tall does attract attention and dressing more sexy will also. One thing I will say is that if you have any features that are masculine (and most cis-women have something that is), when you dress more feminine, it tends to make those stick out. I don't consider height being on of those features. Every woman that has commented on my height has said that they wish they had mine.
Oh my gosh! I'm so glad to hear from someone else my height! :D I have always been terrified of it giving me away! I just find it funny when you hear girls talk about how tall they are at 6'2" and I am sitting here at 6'7" wondering how to cope!
You words have actually really helped, thank you!
I'm about 5'10". Not super tall, but enough that I get comments about it all the time. People are like, "You are so tall.", or heard from a distance to someone else regarding me "She's so tall.", or directly to me as a compliment for being able to reach things out of the average female's height range, "It must be nice to be so tall." Height has some advantages, certainly you can reach things in higher places perhaps without a stepladder. I have long slim legs to go along with that height, makes for walking easy and fast with long rapid strides. But, then I also get or hear comments from guys about liking girls with long legs. Uh-huh, I'm sure. But, for me I'd still like to have been shorter, maybe 5'5"-5'7", for ease of clothes shopping and smaller feet would have been nice too.
I dress what I consider 'normal' clothes, have never been into flashing or fancy, never been one to want to draw the kind of attention it would bring my way. I'm more for subtle but pretty look. In colder weather I almost always wear jeans, and simple, very basic long sleeved top. Hot weather such as now, tank top and shorts. Shoes, comfort wear only such as sneakers or sandals, I will not sacrifice comfort for pretty or stylish. And I tend to wear my shoes out very quickly, and even after they had long begun to fall about I still wear them until I can find another pair to replace them. I do wear dresses and skirts occasionally, but being a homebody, no point dressing up in anything too pretty, what, to the grocery store, Walmart, eh, perhaps, but who am I out to impress. I wear whatever I feel like wearing, but do take note of self that I look good before going out.
Quote from: Debussy on May 19, 2014, 02:26:16 AM
If I'm 6 ft, does that make me part of the tall club?
Shorty!! ;)
I have a friend who is 6'2 and one of the sexiest females I've ever laid eyes on.
Standing next to hear I feel like a ugly midget.
Anyway, she wears shorts, short skirts & dresses all the time, even heels.
She does wears longer tops, apart from when she wears a bikini (oh what fun that is, you've never seen so many girls run & hide) I've never seen her belly.
Quote from: Fizzletwist on May 19, 2014, 06:47:01 PM
Oh my gosh! I'm so glad to hear from someone else my height! :D I have always been terrified of it giving me away! I just find it funny when you hear girls talk about how tall they are at 6'2" and I am sitting here at 6'7" wondering how to cope!
You words have actually really helped, thank you!
Don't forget that there are tall cis-women out there. At the Panera Bread by one of my clients that I'm at several times a week, the manager is a cis-woman that is also 6'7". In college I knew a girl that was 6'8" and she was on the women's basketball team.
Hi all I am 6' 5 and usually wear skirts or 3/4 pants I don't really pass but don't let that change my confidence very few ppl stare but I think that my confidence helps with that I have recently bought my first pair of leggings for the winter and usually wear them with a skirt camomile and a cute cardi.
Wow! it is amazing to read all the reply's to being very tall. I too am 6'7". I started HRT 2 1/2 months ago and am loving it. I have been asked a million times how tall are you as a male. I love being tall so I have expected too even be asked more times "how tall are you" When I make it out as a woman or as my true self. I am very self confident for being older. My advise as many have said "Don't go out looking like a Drag Queen and you will be fine.
Gretchen
Gee, I just hope you tall elegant ladies don't look down on me. I always wanted to be at least 6' because tall, people always look so much nicer in their clothes, but alas I got stuck at 5' 7" and with a tall person's rib cage no less. "sob sniff"
6'4" here officially (you can actually add 2 inches) and I dress the way that makes me feel confident. Early in my medical and social transition too so that tends to limit my choices right now but I think it's the right approach all the time.
I think we have to own our height and be confident. Many times that means dress our age, our height, and to our body. most cis women do the same. I'm also taken so being ultra sexy isn't really working for me. My body is fortunately slim and well proportioned for a tall woman but I still am not super keen on showing shoulders, etc. I have some decent cleavage so I show that instead.
All of that means nothing too revealing, flats or low heels and jeans, cute outfits and tops. I look for tall options from retailers too.
I think most of the time other women want to look cute and attractive and some times they want to look super fab. I think cute and attractive is a fantastic goal, it's what I'm reaching for.
6'2" here, with another half inch that I used to round up and now round down :D
I dress pretty conservatively, three quarter pants, flats or low heels, and cardigans, although I like to wear skirts too. I try to keep it restrained and unobtrusive.
In my mid forties sexy is not really a viable option :)
Joan,
You have to graduate to classy.
Sonia
Quote from: BeingSonia on May 21, 2014, 08:56:29 PM
Joan,
You have to graduate to classy.
Sonia
Sonia and Grace
I took your advice to heart and found this:
http://m.wikihow.com/Be-Classy (http://m.wikihow.com/Be-Classy)
I plan to keep the swearing, the burping and the trashy clothes to a minimum from now on :angel:
If you need a guide to how a 6'2" cis-woman dresses, check out the endless pics online of Maria Sharapova.
And for a 6'2" transgender woman who was born male carried it off, well, then take a look at Andrej Pejic (who now prefers to be defined as 'she' and so can reasonably be thought of as being closer to MTF than simply a boy who looks cute in dresses).
Of course, both these women are exceptionally beautiful. But that's how it works for all regular women: they look very closely at what the real beauties are wearing, and how they're styling and figure out how to adapt the look to their own, mere mortal selves.
I'm at 5'8" and I didn't really think I was that tall until I went to the L.A. women's expo last weekend. I had on 3" wedges and I was taller than a lot of women there :laugh: and that made me stick out a little bit.
Dressing outside of the "norm" will always draw unexpected attention especially for women. Guys can wear almost anything anywhere and no one will say a word, but if a woman tries the same thing heaven help her.
An example that comes to mind - one day I was in a frozen yogurt store eating my yogurt and an obviously trans women walked in. She was very noticeable because she had a wild hair do and was way overdressed with heels and jewelry. Everyone's head in the place turned and watched her get her yogurt, and after she left I heard some snickering from people. If she had toned it down some I don't think that anyone would have noticed her.
So, if you want to pass wear the same style of clothing that other women would wear on your outing. If you deviate too far from that you are going to have to deal with attention.
Quote from: Eva Marie on May 22, 2014, 09:04:45 AM
I'm at 5'8" and I didn't really think I was that tall until I went to the L.A. women's expo last weekend. I had on 3" wedges and I was taller than a lot of women there :laugh: and that made me stick out a little bit.
Dressing outside of the "norm" will always draw unexpected attention especially for women. Guys can wear almost anything anywhere and no one will say a word, but if a woman tries the same thing heaven help her.
An example that comes to mind - one day I was in a frozen yogurt store eating my yogurt and an obviously trans women walked in. She was very noticeable because she had a wild hair do and was way overdressed with heels and jewelry. Everyone's head in the place turned and watched her get her yogurt, and after she left I heard some snickering from people. If she had toned it down some I don't think that anyone would have noticed her.
So, if you want to pass wear the same style of clothing that other women would wear on your outing. If you deviate too far from that you are going to have to deal with attention.
Best advice ever and loaded with common sense Eva Marie. One needs to always be aware of what is appropriate for time and place and learn how to dress around and downplay negative physical features like smart cis women do.
Well I guess by this threads standard I am relatively short. My license says im 5'9". So the higher end of average at least. I still wear 4-6 inch heels. I wear short but appropriate dresses for the office. I like to say my style is fancy professional. My gf just says I am super sexy all the time. So it is a bit subjective. But in any case I make sure I am dressed appropriately and professionaly at all times.
-Livia
There are lot of super sexy women close to or over 6 feet tall: Elle MacPhereson, Mariel Hemingway, Terry Ferrell come to mind. As far as dressing sexy or not, though, consider the setting and occasion. It's always best to dress the way other people are dressed wherever you are going. If you dress all sexed up and everyone else is low-key you've kind of blown it (though some guys will doubtless appreciate). If you're going to a wild party, go for it, though, I suppose.
We all have to take our specific situation in to account in putting together our look, of course. Being a TG person puts a particular pressure on us and few of us wish to call undue attention to ourselves. However, I think it's generally better to dress for your frame than your height. There are lots of dressing tricks than can emphasize or de-emphasize certain features.
I use celebs and other fashion figures as dressing role models to piggyback on their style. You just have to pick one with a frame somewhat similar to your own. For instance, TV hose Kelly Ripa is almost identical to me in frame, though on a much smaller scale. I can still look good in anything she wears. One fashion type I like is Sarah Rutson, who is tall, somewhat manish-featured woman and dresses amazingly. She makes great use of accessories like necklaces and bracelets. She often wears skinny jeans, but also looks great in floor-length skirts. This look is great for long waisted people like me because you can raise the waistline a bit.
~ Lyric ~