He took me out to Godzilla (He knows I'm trans).
We sat in the parking lot talking about science stuff (I'm a HUGE science nerd) for almost 2 hours after the movie.
He:
-Gorgeous
-A punk rocker (I have a thing for men who are passionate about something)
-Taller than me
-Very intelligent
-Complete gentleman (didn't try to go up my skirt or anything).
I understand it was a first date, but the fact he didn't try to touch me is bugging me.
Is he genuinely interested and respecting me or is he not interested and thus the no touching? >.<
I really like this guy but I don't want to piss it away. The problem is I haven't been a woman long enough to know what to do.
When should I call him? Do I or he initiate the next date? When is it cool for the first kiss? Isn't it ridiculous that I've 31 years as a male under my belt but I've no clue what to do now?
-AM
Awww you go girl :) So happy for you :)
Has there been any contact after the date then just hrow it out there and ask him when he is free next and if he would like to do something.
I think the first kiss happens when people feel the time is right and truth is if he wasnt interested he most likely wouldnt have sat there for the next 2 hours discussing science stuff haha Great work :)
Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on May 19, 2014, 04:47:07 AM
You sure he is fine with that?
It is a pic he put on a dating site.
So technically, he put it on the internet, not me. :P
-AM
You guys are making fun of my date :(
-AM
Good for you. Women need to let a man know they are open, touch him in some nice way, hold his hand, etc.... Let him know you want him to hold you & more GF. Just let go & be a woman with him.
Quote from: Androgynous_Machine on May 19, 2014, 04:31:25 AM
I understand it was a first date, but the fact he didn't try to touch me is bugging me.
I NEVER tried to touch a woman on the first date. First dates are getting to know each other. There are a lot of people who don't feel comfortable or don't enjoy any kind of intimacy until there is an actual connection.
I think whether he's interested or not depends on how you behaved during the date. Did you do any of these things:
* Compliment him on something physical about himself (wow, I really like your hair).
* Casually touch him. There are a number of ways to achieve this without being awkward. You can wear heels so you have a reason to take his arm, be slightly underdressed for the weather so you can snuggle, or you can brush against his shoulder or leg.
Basically, if you're interested in a guy, your job on the date is to communicate that you're interested without explicitly expressing interest. So in the end, he'll feel like it's his idea even though you've given him the opening.
In terms of contacting him again, it can go either way. But if you're the one to initiate contact, the important thing is to be casual and communicate that hey, you're interested but you're not hung up and have other options. I tend to do this by suggesting we keep in contact even if he's interested in just being friends because we had a good time. Usually either the guy says, cool, let's be friends, or it forces him to let you know he's interested in dating and you're good to go.
P.S. You might want to remove his picture in a day or two because you run the risk of him reverse Google image searching himself and finding this thread, which would be kind of embarrassing if I were in your shoes.
Do not ask him out. That is the hunter's job
Do let him know you had a great time on your first date.
Next date if it happens casually touch or brush your hand against him. Or hold his hand while walking together.