Well I made the "it" question topic to help turn something hurtful into something humorous. Unfortunately it got turned into a topic where everyone was angry or depressed. So this time I will try something less likely to be made into something depressing. To anyone out there from the cisgender to the androgynous, to the FtM or MtF, or anything in between or around or above...whatever...What is the best thing about being transgender? (In this case any gender that isn't cisgender.) I think he support forum could use more cheerfulness. So please, no depressing or angry talk. It just drags the mood down in the topic. ^~^ Feel free to include any non depressing-angery stories or facts. Anything that isn't going to drag the topic into depression.
I think my favorite thing is that we can be so much more accepting than the general population. We don't seem to have the people who freak out and bash a guy just for wearing non silver-gold-black ball studs.
i can finally do all the things i wanted to do. one being i can breath without it becoming a chore and running out of air ever sign.
Meeting all the wonderful people here.
Quote from: LordKAT on May 25, 2014, 06:28:46 PM
Meeting all the wonderful people here.
My feelings verbatim.
Cheers to all of you beautiful people.
Meeting lordKAT just kidding but.
Quote from: LordKAT on May 25, 2014, 06:28:46 PM
Meeting all the wonderful people here.
Is a huge bonus.
But the best thing by far, is knowing that the people intrested in me are intrested in me.
All the trans related questions. And with every convo im left with this feeling ive done somthing that will ultimatelly make a next gen trans persons life less depressing. I dont know what causes dysphoria but i know what causes the missery along side it.
Eating chocolate AND watching my butt get bigger. Best of both worlds
Getting compliments on my skirts and dresses, whether from people I know or from strangers on the street. Especially when it's from a woman (which it mostly is.)
Also: getting thumbs-ups from people for what I wear; my impression it's for my willingness to be myself. It's mostly from younger people (teens and 20's), but both men and women. There's hope yet!
Notes:
1. I'm obviously male-bodied, so wearing skirts and dresses &c. is visibly gender-variant.
2. I make most of my skirts and dresses, and I'm proud of my work (which deadly sin was that again?)
3. I'm (so far) a confirmed gynophile.
Quote from: ButterflyVickster on May 25, 2014, 06:39:55 PM
But the best thing by far, is knowing that the people interested in me are interested in me.
(Emphasis mine.)
Good point.
For me, it's the feeling that I am being more like myself and less a role specified by someone else -- and seeing just how many people accept me that way. Maybe I can show even more of my True Self
tm and get away with it! (Of course, I'd have to
find more of my True Self
tm first....)
Definitely the community!
I get to be me and let my personality completely shine through even in please where I'm not out yet. Not caring what a single person thinks about it or me
Quote from: Rayne on May 25, 2014, 06:07:31 PM
Well I made the "it" question topic to help turn something hurtful into something humorous. Unfortunately it got turned into a topic where everyone was angry or depressed. So this time I will try something less likely to be made into something depressing. To anyone out there from the cisgender to the androgynous, to the FtM or MtF, or anything in between or around or above...whatever...What is the best thing about being transgender? (In this case any gender that isn't cisgender.) I think he support forum could use more cheerfulness. So please, no depressing or angry talk. It just drags the mood down in the topic. ^~^ Feel free to include any non depressing-angery stories or facts. Anything that isn't going to drag the topic into depression.
I think my favorite thing is that we can be so much more accepting than the general population. We don't seem to have the people who freak out and bash a guy just for wearing non silver-gold-black ball studs.
The great clothes I get to wear. Female clothes are beautiful and I love them. Men's clothes are just utilitarian for the most part. Yuk!
I'll admit, I consider it like a super power. it's a curse, but you're also capable of so much.
More of a FTM than broad trans thing but.... Imagine what all women want: a guy who understand what it's like to be a woman and how to properly please a woman in bed. This is now my super power! LOL!
Where do I start? I'm finally free, and living as me. I love my summer dresses, my other colorful all woman's wardrobe. My earrings, bracelets and necklaces -other accessories. But the best thing is I can wear pretty things. I can wear my jewelry. I'm very feminine and I just loooooove being feminine. Being seen on the outside for who I've always been on the inside -being seen as me finally after all these years is absolutely the best feeling in the world!
My 2nd best is this website and meeting all of you beautiful ladies and gents. You all are my superpower!, and Susan's is my base camp. I wouldn't be where I am now, headed for a wonderful future without you. You all are special, but there are a few extra special ladies who literally gave me a second chance at life. You girls know who you are so I need not mention names. I thank all of you with everything that I am.
Big hugs to you all! :icon_hug: :icon_hug: :icon_hug:
Best Wishes!
Ally :icon_flower:
Quote from: ButterflyVickster on May 25, 2014, 06:39:55 PMon
Meeting all the wonderful people here!
But the best thing by far, is knowing that the people intrested in me are intrested in me.
All the trans related questions. And with every convo im left with this feeling ive done somthing that will ultimatelly make a next gen trans persons life less depressing. I dont know what causes dysphoria but i know what causes the missery along side it.
I second the notion here! :)
Totally the people here and in my community.
Also would have to be finally feeling free. I don't care if I'm classified really as a minority, weird, freak, whatever. All that can fly out the window now because I'm finally living like I should of been.
I have a trio of amazing friends who are cis of the gender I'd like to join, and seeing just how supportive they're really capable of being. I have felt so taken care of, so encouraged... so pretty. I have much feels.
QuoteMeeting all the wonderful people here!
I enjoy meeting people here like me; I am not alone.
Also, it is so freeing not to have self hate and enjoy those thing that are gentle and delicate without guilt.
I like being nice to people and how that's easier from having experienced being treated like a woman. :)
I would have to say the clothes, the community and the freedom of expression as my true self.
Being free! One great second best thing, Shoes
I learned that I, myself was the cause of and the answer to much of my mean nasty ugly thinking.
The life experience I've had, I would not trade for anything. I have learned a lot and have an open mind.
Having the body of a 20 year old woman at 41! No seriously...I wish I had been born with all the right bits from the start....but at least this way I haven't had decades of gravity yanking on me already....everything is new and shiny!!
Quote from: TaoRaven on May 26, 2014, 08:32:33 PM
Having the body of a 20 year old woman at 41! No seriously...I wish I had been born with all the right bits from the start....but at least this way I haven't had decades of gravity yanking on me already....everything is new and shiny!!
I have to agree with you. My Endo says I'm in better shape than most of his younger patients half my age. My boobs look like those of a 15 year old instead of a 49 year old woman! Like you say -no gravity damage, lol!!
Ally :icon_flower:
The multitude of fashion choices for women is a good and bad thing. Women typically have much nicer clothes too.
Belonging to a group of wonderfully minded, accepting people. For me personally it's kind of wierd but I can see things from both male and female perspectives and can actually understand those perpectives. It has also made me way more open minded than I may have been otherwise.
I wanted to say the understanding of the world, however I don't feel it complitely good.
its a good ability to understand the world and you better but it also makes you fell rather lonely.
I think the best thing maybe more be that it easy to deal with others.
I had a couple of people who know im trans, and because they know my struggle it somehow make it
more easy for them to be themself and deal with there own stuggles.
Another great thing, at least to me that is, about being trans is you get to find out who your true friends are. A true friend will stick by you. A false friend will steer clear of you like the plague. I've actually found this to be very useful in my life lately. It's allowed me to flush out some human trash!, lol!!
Ally :icon_flower:
An amazingly satisfying cognitive dissidence.
And connecting with other trans* types.
Definitely the clothes, and the journey. Anxious to get started. Of course the people who support me, here and in the physical world. I just love being myself, and I have a huge confidence boost when I go out as Chelsea, so I don't care what looks I get or what people think.
The first thing that came to mind for me is that I have experience both as a male and a female in society. I think that gives us some really incredible perspective that most cis peeps just don't have the opportunity to see.
But I also totally agree with Allyda. Having a filter for ->-bleeped-<-ty people is really helpful. :)
Quote from: Allyda on May 27, 2014, 05:05:30 PM
Another great thing, at least to me that is, about being trans is you get to find out who your true friends are. A true friend will stick by you. A false friend will steer clear of you like the plague. I've actually found this to be very useful in my life lately. It's allowed me to flush out some human trash!, lol!!