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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: PhoenixAsher on May 25, 2014, 09:54:23 PM

Title: Passed!
Post by: PhoenixAsher on May 25, 2014, 09:54:23 PM
For the first time in my life (that I can remember), I have fully passed as male. In church of all places! My mom drags me to this church where everyone is the hugging type, and well, there are people hugging everyone and this guy came up to my family and gave my mom and sisters big hugs and said, "Nice to see you, ladies," and then he nodded at me and shook my hand and have the side hug most guys do. :p

After the service another guy did that and my mom noticed. Of course she had to make a point of saying, "These are my daughters." And then gave him my birthname. But it's alright. I'm just excited I passed. I can pass!

I just thought id share some good news here with you guys.
Title: Re: Passed!
Post by: KayCeeDee on May 25, 2014, 10:02:54 PM
congrats!
Title: Re: Passed!
Post by: StirfriedKraut on May 25, 2014, 10:04:00 PM
Congrats! That's excellent!

Drives me nuts when people go "nah that's a girl" to me, confuses most people more than anything I think. Haha. Kudos!
Title: Passed!
Post by: PhoenixAsher on May 25, 2014, 10:06:59 PM
Thank you both. And yeah! The guy at the end just stared at us with a confused look on his face and then we walked away. XD
Title: Re: Passed!
Post by: HoneyStrums on May 25, 2014, 10:19:05 PM
It realy is annoying when the fam is all but they are a this and not that.

Glad you passed :) did you have the waist thingymabob?
Title: Passed!
Post by: PhoenixAsher on May 25, 2014, 10:21:46 PM
Butterfly, I wasn't wearing one at the time (just a large shirt), but I did get one tonight actually and it works really well! Thanks for the awesome idea XD
Title: Re: Passed!
Post by: gennee on May 25, 2014, 10:47:00 PM
Congratulations! I'm sure that you are happy and relieved at the same time.

:)
Title: Re: Passed!
Post by: Eva Marie on May 25, 2014, 10:55:46 PM
That's awesome PhoenixAsher!!  8)

Sounds like it's time to work on what the family says about you in public now.
Title: Passed!
Post by: PhoenixAsher on May 25, 2014, 10:58:50 PM
Gennee, I really am xD

And Eva, I don't blame them right now because I haven't exactly *come out* yet...but I think that talk needs to happen soon...they're figuring it out themselves
Title: Re: Passed!
Post by: Li on May 26, 2014, 06:57:47 PM
congrats on passing.
Title: Re: Passed!
Post by: Rachel on May 26, 2014, 07:45:53 PM
Congratulation, I am happy for you.
Title: Re: Passed!
Post by: Rayne on May 26, 2014, 08:39:43 PM
I meant to say congratz as soon as it was posted... But I guess I crashed or something prevented me from posting. Sorry. Anyway, as I said on skype, It sounds like it was great. ^~^ Hope it happens again.
Title: Passed!
Post by: PhoenixAsher on May 27, 2014, 10:57:40 AM
Thanks, Rayne, Li, and Cynthia. I sure hope it happens again, too haha
Title: Re: Passed!
Post by: Asche on May 27, 2014, 01:09:50 PM
Quote from: PhoenixAsher on May 25, 2014, 09:54:23 PM
For the first time in my life (that I can remember), I have fully passed as male. In church of all places!  ...

After the service another guy did that and my mom noticed. Of course she had to make a point of saying, "These are my daughters." And then gave him my birthname.

I'm imagining an alternate universe where you roll your eyes at that point and say, "see, she can't even get my name right!"

Yeah, it probably works better in a sit-com, but it would be really cool if you could do it in RL.
Title: Passed!
Post by: PhoenixAsher on May 27, 2014, 01:38:13 PM
Haha, I could do that xD that'd be a good way to lighten the mood haha not to mention she's actually forgotten me before lol
Title: Passed!
Post by: MacG on May 27, 2014, 06:58:59 PM
Way to go :) it sure feels good, doesn't it?
Title: Re: Passed!
Post by: Kiwi on May 29, 2014, 05:58:41 PM
Quote from: PhoenixAsher on May 25, 2014, 09:54:23 PM
Of course she had to make a point of saying, "These are my daughters." And then gave him my birthname.
Oh so my mom isn't the only one to do that, spoiling the times I pass  :(

Anyway I'm really happy for you  ;)
I think it didn't bother you just because it was one of the first times you pass, so you are hyper about it and it's a great thing  ;D then little by little you'll start to get stressed by those things... At least, I do.
Title: Re: Passed!
Post by: Rayne on May 29, 2014, 10:00:34 PM
Quote from: Kiwi on May 29, 2014, 05:58:41 PM
Oh so my mom isn't the only one to do that, spoiling the times I pass  :(

Anyway I'm really happy for you  ;)
I think it didn't bother you just because it was one of the first times you pass, so you are hyper about it and it's a great thing  ;D then little by little you'll start to get stressed by those things... At least, I do.

I have to spoil my own passing. This morning the SSI person was calling for a phone meeting. And she askes who I am, I tell her "This is Ronald!" (I dislike that name -.-) anyway, I give her the info like birthday and such and she asks again. "Is this his sister?" Now I was thrilled that voice wise I passed so well she had to keep asking, but because I had to go forth with the meeting, I had to spoil my own passing. Happens all the time with doctors office calls, etc. dang it =(
Title: Re: Passed!
Post by: Kiwi on May 30, 2014, 03:53:09 PM
Oh Rayne I understand, for legal/official stuff I sometimes have to do the same. And I damn hate it. :(
Title: Re: Passed!
Post by: sveebee85 on May 31, 2014, 12:33:53 AM
oh great. congrats!
first of all, for me it´was also really important to pass as female.

after almost 1 year in hrt it´s almost done :)

after those positive experiences, it makes the last step, change your identity officially, really easy.