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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: Felishia on June 02, 2014, 10:42:48 AM

Title: 1 year HRT and I still look like a boy
Post by: Felishia on June 02, 2014, 10:42:48 AM
I see that on Internet and I see those changes people experiment, I started at 17 and I still look the same way I started.

I don't use girl clothes because it's banned at home, so basically everything must be boy, including haircut, but still, the changes are so small, that it doesn't look like a year.

http://imgur.com/LiHSQeU
http://imgur.com/orbpPah

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WHAT you've said that my figure is good... didn't expect it.

since I asked this question and as It's quite hard to me to get online, I've been doing excersice hell out much and I've managed to gain 4 cm more of butt... and I still feel like... it's not enough.

I just don't know... I may be like those anorexic people. But instead eating and excersising a lot to make butt muscle... and I just still find myself disgusting.

I'm sorry, just surprised, need to go back home, and get my mind to think of other things.
Title: Re: 1 year HRT and I still look like a boy
Post by: AnneB on June 02, 2014, 10:46:04 AM
If those hips and boobs look like a boys, then I would have stayed a boy! ;). 

Remember, it is -not- a race... It's a marathon, a journey...  If you want to be a girl any faster, you'll have to get surgery...  Just relax, look out the window, enjoy the ride.
Title: Re: 1 year HRT and I still look like a boy
Post by: Apples Mk.II on June 02, 2014, 10:56:16 AM
I don't see a lot of dudes with that waist / hips configuration...

Presentation says a lot. After 13 months and starting HRT at a non optimal age while requiring a lot of FFS I haven't gotten ye, I usually assume that people will always see a man unless I am showing my boobs and wearing a dress. Today I opened my door to a saleswoman and I was gendered female despite my old male clothes that I still wear at home. WTF... I look at the mirror and... I forgot to remove my makeup.

There has been a lot of times when I've seen a cis woman with short hair, small breasts, no makeup, gender neutral clothing and mistook them for men until I could see the face more closely. Presentation can be like 50% some times.


PS. straighten your hair if you can. At least in my case, it somewhat helps.
Title: Re: 1 year HRT and I still look like a boy
Post by: stephaniec on June 02, 2014, 11:08:29 AM
your lucky to have those hips
Title: Re: 1 year HRT and I still look like a boy
Post by: LordKAT on June 02, 2014, 11:10:21 AM
What is with the straight hair thing. Curls frame a face so well. I much prefer curls to straight hair.
Title: Re: 1 year HRT and I still look like a boy
Post by: Kimberley Beauregard on June 02, 2014, 11:39:34 AM
You've got quite a feminine figure.
Title: Re: 1 year HRT and I still look like a boy
Post by: PrincessPatience on June 02, 2014, 12:49:14 PM
Bye Felicia! I would kill to have that hip/waist ratio.
Title: Re: 1 year HRT and I still look like a boy
Post by: LittleEmily24 on June 02, 2014, 01:05:07 PM
Hope this doesn't sound mean, but... if you think you look like a boy with those hips and that waist, then call Guinness Records because you are the most female shaped boy i've ever seen. As Julia said, presentation says a lot :P. My cousin is female and identifies as female... but seeing as she's an MMA fighting, black belt having, dirt-bike riding tomboy... put her in baggy pants, a baseball cap, a tank top and no makeup... anyone would swear she was born male :P but the moment she puts on a white dress and heels, there's no denying she's a girl. Some people are just successfully andro (if thats the right term) or "fluid" simply by changing wardrobe. Also, its worth mentioning that you're still very young... at 18 I was at an ideal shape for transition, i waiting until i was 24 once my back and shoulders and chest had developed to football player size... i had my family telling me (before transition) that I should play a sport or be a body builder because I would be huge, when at 18 i was a scrawny looking tall kid lol

I would personally love to look like you lol.
Title: Re: 1 year HRT and I still look like a boy
Post by: EllieM on June 02, 2014, 01:20:56 PM

Hi Felishia. You don't look like a boy. Seriously. I'm envious of your figure. Like Paula pointed out, it's not a race, it's a marathon and, my dear, you are off to a GREAT start!
Title: Re: 1 year HRT and I still look like a boy
Post by: RockerGirl on June 02, 2014, 11:14:19 PM
Yeah, to reiterate your hips and waist are amazing. Very cute figure hun! I know it's hard, but don't worry so much!
Title: Re: 1 year HRT and I still look like a boy
Post by: Hikari on June 02, 2014, 11:44:01 PM
Quote from: LordKAT on June 02, 2014, 11:10:21 AM
What is with the straight hair thing. Curls frame a face so well. I much prefer curls to straight hair.

Forgive me for going slightly OT:
My hair isn't curly per se, but here are my thoughts on it: I actually go out of my way to straighten my hair, but it doesn't seem to work too well away from my head, like the tips will curl into like ringlets almost if I don't try and make it straighter. Even so, my hair can still be really wavy even with such attempts to coral it,  Here is what I mean: (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi.imgur.com%2F0MYTI84.jpg&hash=21fdd0546f0d57a4c234ee900b3fa8f141faac7a)

I could only imagine with the OPs curls that this could present a serious issue once her hair is longer. That isn't to say it doesn't look good, in fact I would have to say from my own view I think Curls are cuter than waves which are cuter than straight hair, but there are certain practical issues to think about. My hair likes to catch on things, it is harder to brush and it is harder for me to copy the trendy hairstyles which tend to be mostly straight. I like the natural thing so my compromise is that I will straighten it the best I can Without the use of heat or chemicals.

And to the OP, yes you do cut quite a girlish figure, I think you would surprise yourself quite a bit if you took some photographs wearing clothes that accentuated femininity.
Title: Re: 1 year HRT and I still look like a boy
Post by: sveebee85 on June 02, 2014, 11:54:37 PM
i think it´s really important to realize that you self-perception is quite different than how others will perceive you ...
for ex. i´ve a friend (ftm transg.) and he´s really looking like a man and masculine (strong beard etc.) , so nobody would ever assume that he was born in wrong gender as female.
but he told me, after years in transition, that he still, sometimes, see the woman through ...  :police:
Title: 1 year HRT and I still look like a boy
Post by: MacG on June 02, 2014, 11:54:46 PM

Quote from: LordKAT on June 02, 2014, 11:10:21 AM
What is with the straight hair thing. Curls frame a face so well. I much prefer curls to straight hair.
I like curls!
Title: Re: 1 year HRT and I still look like a boy
Post by: Miyuki on June 03, 2014, 01:03:41 AM
I have to echo what everyone else here is saying about your hip to waist ratio. I think a lot of cisgirls would be jealous of you with a figure like that. ;) But you know, transition is just one of those things where the process is different for everyone. The amount of time it takes, the amount of work you have to put into it, and where you end up when you've gone as far as you can, depend so much on the individual. Believing that you are not getting anywhere just because a year of HRT didn't get you there by itself is really the wrong way to look at things. As others has said, being read as female has just as much to do with the way you present yourself as your actual body. Even if you have a pretty feminine figure, if you still dress like a boy, talk like a boy, act like a boy, etc., people will still probably see you as a boy. If you think about it, some FTMs are able to pass as male just by cutting their hair, binding their chest, and dressing in male clothes. It only makes sense that you might not necessarily come across as being female if you can't take those kind of things into account. Physical development takes time, and at your age I think it's safe to assume you are far from finished. Not everyone is busting out of their bra after only a few months of HRT. I'm still not even quite a B cup, even after two and a half years of low to moderate dose HRT and three months of full dose HRT. And based on my genetics, well lets just say I may have some more developing to do. ::) But looking at this picture (http://imgur.com/k5MIsdc) of you in particular, I would say you are definitely at the point where you should be able to pass, if all the other pieces were in place. I know you're not being allowed to present as female as home, which I'm sure is really frustrating. But I really think that once you are able to move out and adapt a more female presentation, you should be passing in no time. In the mean time, just let the hormones do their thing, and I think you'll find that things really only get better as you give hormones time to work. ;)
Title: Re: 1 year HRT and I still look like a boy
Post by: lemon_ice on June 03, 2014, 02:28:59 AM
To echo what all of the others have said, you already look great and have amazing potential to be a real little hottie!! I think that willowy frame could be breaking a few hearts in years to come  :P  look at that bone structure as well as what the hormones have done, wow!! :)
Title: Re: 1 year HRT and I still look like a boy
Post by: Olivia P on June 03, 2014, 02:32:53 AM
Your hip to waist ratio is amazing, you have nothing to worry about, your doing just fine...
Title: Re: 1 year HRT and I still look like a boy
Post by: crowcrow223 on June 03, 2014, 03:49:35 AM
I second what others said, plus... these pics are so murky we can't see anything.