So, here is the day I've had today. If you want the TLDR version, look at the bottom for it where in bold letters you see TLDR VERSION.
Long version
I wake up, get all my things ready to go, hop in the tub knowing it'd take about an hour to shave my legs/feet (Which hadn't been shaved in months) and my arms/chest/belly/hands (Which had recently been shaved) and this actually took 1 hour and 30 minutes. Afterwards I get the flat iron heating up, finish getting my stuff ready, put on a lovely dress (Though it's plain but, eh lol) I flat iron my hair and finish and head out the door. At this point, I realize I'm not going to have any time to look around, relax, just go to the store, get what I need and get my ears pierced finally. I somehow get there in 30 mins (As I have to walk) so this is good, gives me more time to look around. I head over to the jewelry department and ask to get my ears pierced. (This is where my day goes from good to bad) I got told she's on a lunch break. Hurt I think about it and realize I can wait and look around in the mean time for 30 mins as I saved a lot of time getting to the place so I look around, relax, wait and chill. I look at the clock and realize, I got to go get what I need. So I head over to the clocks, find one that's alright but, I'd rather a pink one so debated to get it or not. I said not to getting it and went to the water bottles section since, months back I'd seen one that was what I was looking for, but financial situation made me say, no. Anyway, I look and look and look some more, only to realize, they no longer have the type I was looking for.. So I head over to the bread isle, look at the date, do the math and realize, I might as well wait to get a loaf or it won't last long enough like I need it to so I'll get it later on. At this point, I realize I have to go very VERY soon or, I'll be late getting home which means I'll be late to getting to my consultation appointment for getting my molars removed. So I head over to the fast food joint, order food (Thank god the person who normally works there and has taken my order while hearing my guy voice isn't there) pay for it and immediately head back over to the jewelry store, see no one there, I quickly find someone who is able to find out if she's off of her break and at first, nope but then the girl said she was back and is backing so I head back over there, we get it all ready and I have to wait on people who were NOT there before me (At this point, I know I'm going to be late getting home thus missing my ride and the appointment) I am in a hurry, try having patience and don't rush things and just annoyingly wait. Finally, they're gone and she asks me how old I am and to sign a waver. We have no problem so far but THEN she asks me for my ID. Uh, HOUSTON! We HAVE a problem! Not only did I not bring my ID with me (I left it on purpose) but it's old, outdated, I don't look like the person in the photo AND, even if it wasn't outdated, I would be outing myself while using my female voice, wearing lip stick and a dress. I tell the lady I don't have my ID with me and she says "If you don't have your ID with you then I can't pierce your ears." I walk off, upset, hurt, trying to hold back tears and start heading home while eating the food I eat. All the while still mad, hurt, and VERY angry at the world and even, jealousy rears it's ugly head and I start saying in my head, curse you to the woman species for being lucky enough to be born that way. You can all rot in hell." (At this point, I didn't feel/need to cry anymore as anger/frustration and such was all that was left. I finish my food and drink in like, 1 min and dispose of the trash in a bin and immediately start walking fast and running whenever I could. Oh, also the traffic light didn't tell me to start walking even though I pushed the button so I had to wait yet again. I don't take the chance that the light may be broke and when it's safe and I know it should be on green I run across the street.
When the coast is clear I grab my phone out of my purse, check the time, realize, SOMEHOW even with all those delays, I will make it back on just barely, but not in time for 10 mins early like I was told just incase so I call up while walking home the person whose giving me a ride. This is where it could have been bad but a bad situation didn't happen thankfully. The person who picked up was ??? and she tells me ??? can't give me the ride due to stuff came up so she'll be taking me. I explain to her, hey, I'm out in town, walking & running as much as I can and quickly and I won't be back till exactly when I'm supposed to be picked up but won't be there 10 mins early. She says it's fine, no problem and we hang up. Sadly, I was having to use my male voice during the call and without realizing it, while in a dress, people were stopped at a red light and they may have heard a guy's voice coming from a woman wearing a dress.. I pay no mind and head home. I somehow make it back with 3 mins to spare but, as tired as I am, heart hurting, there's no time for rest. I get changed, ditch the lip stick. Grab the stuff I need and do a quick couple of other things. She arrives not long after and we make it there on time. *Whew* The close call with getting home could have been avoided if not for how I was dressed and such but this was a special day or was SUPPOSED to be, so, couldn't be helped.
At the appointment, due to whose paying for me (Plus the ride there) I have to be in guy mode there, can't tell them, I prefer this female name and that I'm trans and such. So, I deal with and put up with like 5-10 times of being called a sir and probably about 10 times for being called he. I also have to word my responses to their questions very carefully because I had to list certain things on the form but am not allowed to tell them I'm trans and such. (This isn't an issue so don't worry) Somehow, it works out. Now, after seeing the doc, we work out a date/time, everything's good but, my work and I'm scheduled to go on in that day plus I may need to rest on the next day or 2 after which on one of those days, again, I have to be at work, So we set that date/time and we all know, I have till ??? days from now to reschedule the appointment if it doesn't work out with work since, I'd called work but couldn't get an immediate response. So we head over to get the prescriptions filled for the surgery. Once again, I have to be in guy mode and this time at a place I didn't expect. To make matter worse, my "Dad" didn't give me the card I need in order to get the prescription for free and he says he knows nothing about it. Thankfully, he says he'll pay for it. (Though there's still the matter of the pain killers for when the surgery happens..) Now, at this point, I really have to go use the restroom but decide to wait till I get home. I have to wait 10 mins for it to get filled and when checking out, the guy was rude, he was shouting my MALE name and once more, being rude on many levels. We leave, I get taken home and I finally get a call from my boss, we speak, only to find out, odds are it won't work out but he'll see what he can do tomorrow since we're both going in and at the same time, I shall have to call the doc's office and see if they have an opening for next week. We hang up, I call my ride and inform them of the situation and tell them I'll give them an update tomorrow.
So, that has been my day today! Yes it could have been a HELL of a lot worse, yes I think someone was looking out for me since things really worked out in a lot of ways but, I am STILL upset over the guy mode crap today as well as not being able to get my ears pierced! :( Not to mention the mess revolving around getting my molars removed. Also, a little something to note here. I have waited at least a quarter of a year for those ear rings to come in. Also, the good bit of news here is that I was not miss gendered a single time and no funny looks from people so guess my female voice really does pass/sound like a woman's but even though this did make me happy and lessened the hurt and such that happened today, I still couldn't enjoy it much and my special day has been turned into a, meh/unusual day with some hurt and such in it.
TLDR VERSION
Went to get my ears pieced and buy a few things, walked away having to hold back tears and being mad and angry at the world/woman who were lucky enough to be born fully female because A) they didn't have the things I was looking for and B) because I had to present my photo ID which is out dated and also would out myself. :(
All that for nearly nothing and I'd waited at LEAST a quarter of a year for them to get those blasted ear rings in too! >:(
Oh yea! Almost forgot, having to be out in "guy mode" today right after being out in girl mode earlier..
Sending you some hugs, that sounds like one heck of a day.
I don't know why they asked you for your ID, I got my ears pierced at Piercing Pagoda and the woman there got all excited when I said I wanted both ears pierced, it wasn't a problem at all. I mean, you look of age right?
Quote from: Hikari on June 02, 2014, 06:55:43 PM
Sending you some hugs, that sounds like one heck of a day.
I don't know why they asked you for your ID, I got my ears pierced at Piercing Pagoda and the woman there got all excited when I said I wanted both ears pierced, it wasn't a problem at all. I mean, you look of age right?
ANNND! That right there is the ONLY reason I believe she asked me for my ID. Because I look a lot younger than my actual age which is hard to believe. Even so, I am old enough to look at LEAST 18 yo if not 2-3 years older than that (Don't know about how old my newly acquired female voice sounds) so not counting the voice, I shouldn't have been asked for it but hey, you want me to lie and tell you I'm X amount of years younger than I actually am to keep some suspicion off and maybe not get asked for my ID? Not going to happen. lol I know she was just doing her job but, if she only knew..
Over 18 is a Health department law. They could lose their license for not checking. :)
Sorry you had a bad day! :icon_hug:
Hey Hon,
Really sorry to here about your bad day. Here's a :icon_hug: for you. That's also strange as well, because a few months ago I had my ears re-pierced at a Piercing Pagoda and I just had them pierced with no other problems. ???
I know what you mean there. I am 26 but most people think I am roughly 15. my 7 tear old nephews friend thinks I'm 12. Man I wish I even owned a dress let alone could go out in town in it. I'm stuck in baggy guy clothes because I don't have any way to get an income myself. And my mother knows I have a gender problem, but she's gone paranoid, and seems to have wondered if I'm just REALLY gay from a comment she mentioned to my granny. At any rate. I get your problems. I have my ears pierced, but due to my family I'm too scared to wear anything but basic ball studs. I hate them. :( I think my family might never accept this and because I can't live alone due to medical reasons, I'm screwed. I know how these things feel. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.adisc.org%2Fforum%2Fimages%2Fsmilies%2Fmisc%2Fhugs.gif&hash=0381bf6ac1e4b85c47ed3680fffb581571de9930)(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.adisc.org%2Fforum%2Fimages%2Fsmilies%2Fmisc%2Fhugs.gif&hash=0381bf6ac1e4b85c47ed3680fffb581571de9930)(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.adisc.org%2Fforum%2Fimages%2Fsmilies%2Fmisc%2Fhugs.gif&hash=0381bf6ac1e4b85c47ed3680fffb581571de9930) I wish I had more than hugs to offer. =(
Hugs, eeww keep them away! lol jk, nah, thanks everyone for the hugs, just, not really into hugs much but I at least know people care when they give me a hug. :) (I is still conflicted on hugs though lol)
EDIT: Whoopsies lol I forgot to say but, I'm feeling much better now and thanks again everyone!
Quote from: Jessica Merriman on June 02, 2014, 07:26:51 PM
Over 18 is a Health department law. They could lose their license for not checking. :)
Sorry you had a bad day! :icon_hug:
OVER 18! You mean UNDER 18 right? I'm over 18, the problem is, I don't look like I'm the age I told her, no idea on how my newly acquired female voice age wise sounds but, I at least look 18 so, yea.. (Then again, that was in guy mode, not sure about girl mode..)
Quote from: Gina Taylor on June 02, 2014, 08:03:25 PM
Hey Hon,
Really sorry to here about your bad day. Here's a :icon_hug: for you. That's also strange as well, because a few months ago I had my ears re-pierced at a Piercing Pagoda and I just had them pierced with no other problems. ???
It was a bad day but, it wasn't that bad over all, the worst was having been denied my ear piercing but, I was having 2nd thoughts on the ear ring choice and I said, I waited for at least a quarter of a year to get them in, they have them now, we're good to go so, I don't care, let's do this now! Then it didn't happen which in the long rn, was probably for the best given circumstances. Still hope to get them pierced soonish.
Yea, someone else mentions this Pagoda you speak of and said they weren't asked for ID either so, heeemm..
Quote from: Rayne on June 03, 2014, 07:33:37 PM
I know what you mean there. I am 26 but most people think I am roughly 15. my 7 tear old nephews friend thinks I'm 12. Man I wish I even owned a dress let alone could go out in town in it. I'm stuck in baggy guy clothes because I don't have any way to get an income myself. And my mother knows I have a gender problem, but she's gone paranoid, and seems to have wondered if I'm just REALLY gay from a comment she mentioned to my granny. At any rate. I get your problems. I have my ears pierced, but due to my family I'm too scared to wear anything but basic ball studs. I hate them. :( I think my family might never accept this and because I can't live alone due to medical reasons, I'm screwed. I know how these things feel. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.adisc.org%2Fforum%2Fimages%2Fsmilies%2Fmisc%2Fhugs.gif&hash=0381bf6ac1e4b85c47ed3680fffb581571de9930)(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.adisc.org%2Fforum%2Fimages%2Fsmilies%2Fmisc%2Fhugs.gif&hash=0381bf6ac1e4b85c47ed3680fffb581571de9930)(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.adisc.org%2Fforum%2Fimages%2Fsmilies%2Fmisc%2Fhugs.gif&hash=0381bf6ac1e4b85c47ed3680fffb581571de9930) I wish I had more than hugs to offer. =(
Sounds like you've got it a lot rougher than I've got it at this point. :( Hope things get better for you and work out and do your BEST to hold onto hope, even in those darkest hours. As to your mom, paranoid how and why? Why, is your family against you being who you are? Just to clarify here, you hate the ball stud ear rings or your family? Hugs don't matter in he long run, what does matter is knowing someone cares about you. I care about everyone, way too much and do my best to respect them even and yes I care about you even though we've only just met. :)