I saw my therapist today and he told me to stop wasting so much energy in try to convince my mom into accepting me. 'Cos he knows just as much as I do that it's never going to happen. My therapist is gay and has been married for 16 years and he tells his mother-in-law that he doesn't care what she thinks of him and I should be exactly the same way with my mom or any other member of my family. So he's instilled some confidence into me, and I now know what I should be doing and how to handle things. :) If these people can't handle the fact that I'm a woman, that's their problem, not mine. ;D Time for this girl to take on a new attitude in life! :icon_mrhappy:
Good Girl!
We have one life, it is yours and yours only.
Live it!!!
Attagirl! ;D
That's my exact attitude too: I can't sit around waiting for everyone else to accept me for who I am. I need to push forward and get on with my own life; everyone else can catch up with me when they're good & ready.
And if they don't? That's their loss. :P
People can either accept me or not..
Quote from: Cindy on June 03, 2014, 09:36:17 AM
Good Girl!
We have one life, it is yours and yours only.
Live it!!!
Y'know Cindy, that's exactly what my therapist said, and that's exactly what I'm starting to do! :)
Quote from: FTMDiaries on June 03, 2014, 09:37:05 AM
Attagirl! ;D
That's my exact attitude too: I can't sit around waiting for everyone else to accept me for who I am. I need to push forward and get on with my own life; everyone else can catch up with me when they're good & ready.
And if they don't? That's their loss. :P
Very well said! I guess the old adage is true. 'The older we get, the wiser we get' From this day forth I'm going in a much better direction >>>
Quote from: kelly_aus on June 03, 2014, 09:38:11 AM
People can either accept me or not.
Very well said as well, and I feel exactly the same way. :icon_bumdance-nerd:
Yeah, we should not waste our lifetime in trying to make others accept us.
If they don't understand just go with your life. I do the same: if you have problems with me being transgender then go away, it's your loss not mine! I have friends who love me, I have a girlfriend too. There will be always people who appreciate you for who you are ;)
Quote from: Kiwi on June 03, 2014, 03:31:24 PM
Yeah, we should not waste our lifetime in trying to make others accept us.
If they don't understand just go with your life. I do the same: if you have problems with me being transgender then go away, it's your loss not mine! I have friends who love me, I have a girlfriend too. There will be always people who appreciate you for who you are ;)
I couldn't agree with you more Kiwi. It's amazing but I have more friends {female} that understand me and want to be friends with me just because of who I am and by being true to myself as my true gender. :)
My therapist calls this "OPD" - other people's disease - when they have problems with who we are :laugh:
I find a "<not allowed> you" attitude and some thick skin really helps your confidence when dealing with OPD.
Quote from: Eva Marie on June 03, 2014, 09:54:33 PM
My therapist calls this "OPD" - other people's disease kin i- when they have problems with who we are :laugh:
I find a "<not allowed> you" attitude and some thick skin really helps your confidence when dealing with OPD.
Really interesting Eva, and a tick skin is something I'm definently gonna develop! :)
You are who you are Gina......with or without your family.
Go and live your life!!
Quote from: Gina Taylor on June 04, 2014, 03:04:45 AM
Really interesting Eva, and a tick skin is something I'm definently gonna develop! :)
And ticks have some really tough skin ;) , that is one hard arachnid to crush. ;D
Gina, I think I need to learn a thing or two from what you are doing. You go girl!
Many of us spent our whole lives trying to please other, afraid we would not be accepted. This is a new talent I had to develop. That is not to say I don't care about what constructive feedback I might receive, but I am not going to change their prejudice. They are the ones who loose out, not me.
Quote from: Ciara on June 05, 2014, 07:57:30 AM
You are who you are Gina......with or without your family.
Go and live your life!!
Exactly what I'm doing and I just met a wonderful woman who is very supportive of my transition! :) And she says the same!
Quote from: Megan Joanne on June 05, 2014, 08:36:24 AM
And ticks have some really tough skin ;) , that is one hard arachnid to crush. ;D
HA! Ha! That's funny Megan Joanne. Spelling error on my part. I meant to write "THICK"
Quote from: Cynthia Michelle on June 05, 2014, 01:58:24 PM
Gina, I think I need to learn a thing or two from what you are doing. You go girl!
Thanks as always for your on going support Cynthia Michelle. I'll have to write to you soon one of these days. It may be soon . . . :)