Hey there,
My sister just told me that one of her children who was assigned male at birth is transgender and has been declaring that she is a girl, loves "girly" things, etc. I was very surprised but also excited to hear the news that there is another trans person in my family now. The child is still really young so who knows how she will decide to live her life but at the moment she is extremely confident and %100 sure that she wants to transition to female in the very close future.
Does anyone else have trans family members? I am excited that now I won't be the only one. There are other queer and bi people in my family as well. There has to be a genetic component, right? How rare is it to have multiple trans people in one family?
My sisters boyfriend has a relative that's trans. Probably why he is the only person to ask my opinion on my gender instead of imposing his.
I didn't know this until I came out.
EDIT--- I don't think it counts as the same family. Considering One is in my sisters boyfriends side (genetics) and the other in my sisters side (genetics).
That is still cool though and it still counts in my opinion. :)
Ive not met them though :(
But yeah. Hearing oh you mean like are (insert other persons name here), realy did a lo to make me feel normal :)
Well, my spouse came out to me as trans not too long ago. So we're kind of transitioning together, though he's not sure how far he'll go.
I've always wondered about my sister. It is kind of funny, my mom spent so much time and energy trying to keep us in our sex assigned roles, but we were always drawn to the opposite. My sister hated wearing dresses, always cut her hair short, cut her name from christy to chris, and was an extreme athelete. My mom was always disappointed that she didn't want to do daughter stuff. I always had long hair, was drawn to more feminine things, and wanted to do all of the daughter stuff.
I always thought if my mom's preconceived ideas and religion weren't in the way, I would have made the perfect daughter and my sister the perfect son that she always wanted. Kind of sad, no one ended up happy..........yet.
Not blood, but my great grandmothers second husbands son transitioned to female. If that means anything.
My sister's husband's brother's fiancé's son is ftm and has an ftm boyfriend. I think they're both 12 or 13 years old.
My 15 year old son is gender fluid. The relief on his face when I explained to him that gender is not necessarily binary, but more of a spectrum was amazing to see. It was like he finally understood something deep and profound about himself, and has been so happy since.
My Niece is engaged to an amazing FTM, who she met in college. She jokingly says that he was "made for her".
There's no transgender people in my family as I know of. I'll need to check my ancestry. I have Native American ancestry and ->-bleeped-<- was common in many tribes.
No transgender and transsexual in my family, that's why they are kinda new to the subject and they aren't very well prepared to handle it. I would like to have more support.
no. i wish though.
None that I know of, but my family is not something I keep close tabs of....
I do know my family seems to have a strong trend of insecurity about sexuality and gender. I don't quite get it, my aunt seems to think everyone is secretly being gay, and when she last saw me I had pink streaks in my long hair with purple nail polish and eyeliner. Granted I was presenting male at the time, and she gossiped about how gay I was for a while. She even thought my rather masculine brother was gay because he was into the goth stuff. Guyliner doesn't make a masculine guy gay or even femme looking IMO, it is just part of the goth scene.
I just wonder if all this insecurity comes from someplace deeper than watching too many daytime talk shows.
Nope. Just me. My younger brother is gay, but we are the only two who are "variant" in any way.
Quote from: Kylie on June 10, 2014, 06:56:17 PM
I've always wondered about my sister. It is kind of funny, my mom spent so much time and energy trying to keep us in our sex assigned roles, but we were always drawn to the opposite. My sister hated wearing dresses, always cut her hair short, cut her name from christy to chris, and was an extreme athelete. My mom was always disappointed that she didn't want to do daughter stuff. I always had long hair, was drawn to more feminine things, and wanted to do all of the daughter stuff.
I always thought if my mom's preconceived ideas and religion weren't in the way, I would have made the perfect daughter and my sister the perfect son that she always wanted. Kind of sad, no one ended up happy..........yet.
Same here.
My younger sister was seriously into sports, and once around 3-4 years of age made a mess by trying to pee standing up. She was extremely confused as to why she couldn't....maybe that is a clue?
I'm certain she is a lesbian, and about 90% probably FTM. She is very butch.
There are no other transgender persons within my family that I know of. My adoptive father's long term boyfriend is as close as it gets, and he doesn't officially identify as transgender; he just semi regularly expresses his disappointment about the inability to give birth, etcetera. Also, despite his desire to have certain female parts, he has been the least supportive of my transitioning. He seems to lack the ability to comprehend that some people with (those parts) don't want (those parts).
I have a trans sibling, but we are the opposite of close so it's hard for me to talk about. This person did some bad things, and I'm frustrated that they are the face of the trans experience to some people.
My kid is not gender-normative at all, and my super-macho aggressive manly man dad is physically small and very intelligent. There are some other blood relatives that I can't be open about but who definitely fall into the trans or intersex category.
I dont have anyone in my famely beside me who is trans, but i dont have much famely i know of either. my parent however have been on homones threatment, My dad was on testorone homones when he was younger and my mom is currently on estrogene because she is sterilised. So we Got that part in Common.
I been visiting a trans person once which brother was Queen and trans as well and the mother was a feminist, While they livet With another transguy in the house, i Thoght it was pretty rare.
I am the second in my family. My Uncle now Aunt has been transitioning from Male to Female.
Yes, I have a sibling that is also trans.
My father.
I've learned recently they envy me in that I've been able to come so far and that envy, is their fuel for our estrangement.
Quote from: Misato on June 21, 2014, 10:26:18 PM
My father.
I've learned recently they envy me in that I've been able to come so far and that envy, is their fuel for our estrangement.
That's so sad and unfair in a way I don't think I can describe, Misato. :(
No one in my family to my knowledge is LGBT aside for a gay uncle on my birth mother's side of the family who died when I was very young, and some very distant gay relative on my step grandmother's side of the family. No transgender people in my family except for me. However I've been lucky compared to many I've heard about in that everyone (even the people who don't get it) in my family so far has been extremely supportive.
Nobody directly that I know of. There's a couple relations and family friends who've had trans* friends, though. I think at this point I'm the one introducing everyone I know to the concept.
Quote from: Amy The Bookworm on June 22, 2014, 07:45:51 AM
That's so sad and unfair in a way I don't think I can describe, Misato. :(
I'll give my father the respect of using gender natural pronouns. But my life is largely better without the mean nasty ugly attitude they bring to everything. I do feel that pull of, "But, they're my father," but it passes quickly.
As for the fact they haven't found their home on the gender spetrum yet and envying me... That speaks to a greater problem in their approach to life and the mean nasty ugly attitude they've got. Should they learn trust, things would get a lot better for them.
wow! thanks to everyone who replied so far! It's great to hear all of your stories. :)
i'm the only one. i'm also the only non-straight person in my family too (that i know of...)
Not many men on my mom's side are traditionally masculine but none of them are trans. I do have one cousin who is very supportive and outspoken about trans rights, maybe because he knows someone who is trans, idk.
This is outside the family, but a couple of days ago I met a friend I hadn't seen in over a year. Since the last time we met he had gone from femme tomboy to slightly effeminate boy (and somehow 5 years younger). He has recently started therapy, and is trying to figure out if he's ftm or non-binary. It was nice to see how much his confidence had grown after coming out, and I guess now I know how people's perception of me changed when I first gained confidence :)
Nobody at all in my family including cousins, aunts, etc. In fact, they are hard headed, resistant to anything out of the ordinary, and are quite homophobic actually. Each and every one of them would ->-bleeped-<- themselves if they even saw me wearing my earrings. I can't wait for the day to see the look on their faces after I've completed my FFS. At that point, they either accept me or will be dead to me forever.
As far as I know no one else is trans in my family, although I have a gay cousin (from my father's twin brother). Ever since I known them, they were loyal to each other and if they got married when they first met. They would be married for 53 years. He passed away 6 years ago. NOT AIDS related. something about irritable bowel syndrome.
Christine:
You have a right to your own life. Please give it a try after they notice your FFS. If they don't want to deal with you in a positive way. Then kick them to the curb. If they later than accept you then be on good terms with them. There is no one in this world worth living in Hell for.
Hmm... Well, my youngest brother(actually my nephew but my parents are adopting him) acts very much like a girl, so I think my parents think he is gay.. then again he is still way to young to tell.
Recently, like just in the last 6 months to a year, I found out that at least 2 of my cousin came out as lesbians, but I don't think I have ever met them(half of my dad's side of the family moved to the other side of the country like 10 years ago). I am also pretty sure that one of the cousins that lives about 2 hours away from me is going to come out as lesbian or trans at some point.
Also just from overhearing my parents talking, I know they suspect a few other cousins of being gay or lesbian.
I'm the only one. But I do I think that I had a gay relative.