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Title: I hate the phone.
Post by: Rawb on June 19, 2014, 10:07:58 AM
So I get a call, and they're like, "Yes, is Robin there?"
And I'm like YAY THATS ME THATS MY NAME THATS MY BOY NAME and I was sooo pleased, and was like, "Yes, this is Robin."
And then there was this long awkward silence.
I thought they had hung up.
And I was like, "Um. Hello?"
And a little pause and the lady at the other end goes, "I'd like to speak to Robin please?" And she sounds a little bit annoyed with me.
And I say, "I am Robin. What's up?"
And... then she hung up on me.

What the hell even  o____o
I guess, you know you don't pass on the phone, when...  :P

It's actually really frustrating, because the only people who know me as Robin (besides my family and friends, who would recognize my voice anyways), is my college.
So it's some woman calling about my college and she hangs up on me, cause it says guy and I sound like a girl still.

sadness.

And I was SO EXCITED to be called by my real name. That bucket burnt up rather quickly  :P

But its SO RUDE.
I mean.
She could have ASKED. And I would have been like, "Ahh yes, I sound like a girl, I know, but I am totally a guy and my name is Robin, though I go by Rob, and I'm the guy who you're looking for."
But NOPE.
Awkward silence and hanging up on me.
THANKS WEIRD TELEPHONE LADY for this black pockmark on my otherwise good day   -_____-

And I don't even know who it was, because it's an unlisted number.
argggh.
Title: Re: I hate the phone.
Post by: LordKAT on June 19, 2014, 10:10:48 AM
That sucks. I can't say I ever had someone hang up on me because of it.
Title: Re: I hate the phone.
Post by: Rawb on June 19, 2014, 10:13:13 AM
It would have been from my college, and they know me as a guy- and the faculty know I'm trans. At least, I've told the head of faculty, and she said she would tell my teachers so there is no confusion.

I can't get over how rude it was  >.<
Title: Re: I hate the phone.
Post by: Nero on June 19, 2014, 10:14:44 AM
Kinda weird, given that Robin is a unisex name. But I guess if they were looking at an M on the paper, that might explain it.
Title: Re: I hate the phone.
Post by: Lara the Lover and the Fighter on June 19, 2014, 10:20:54 AM
UGGGGGHHH! The voice.  Its my terror right now.  I feel like I'm trying to slay a dragon with a butter knife. 

But alas, we shall get there one step at a time. :)
Title: Re: I hate the phone.
Post by: Rawb on June 19, 2014, 10:35:28 AM
I'm still waiting for the gender therapist (which takes several months), so I've not started HRT yet.

On the phone, I stg, I sound like a 13-year-old girl, it's so very frustrating.
Title: Re: I hate the phone.
Post by: alabamagirl on June 19, 2014, 10:44:01 AM
*blink blink* Wow... I can't believe she hung up on you. Seriously, who acts like that?
Title: Re: I hate the phone.
Post by: Sylvie on June 20, 2014, 02:29:12 PM
Quote from: FA on June 19, 2014, 10:14:44 AM
Kinda weird, given that Robin is a unisex name. But I guess if they were looking at an M on the paper, that might explain it.

This was my first thought, too.

How incredibly rude of her, though!! To just hang up?! RUDE.  >:(
Title: Re: I hate the phone.
Post by: Bombadil on June 20, 2014, 02:41:01 PM
that sucks big time. I wonder what was going on.

I hate my voice right now and the phone totally sucks because then that's all they get.

Hang in there
Title: Re: I hate the phone.
Post by: Beth Andrea on June 20, 2014, 02:45:05 PM
Quote from: Sylvie on June 20, 2014, 02:29:12 PM
This was my first thought, too.

How incredibly rude of her, though!! To just hang up?! RUDE.  >:(

Maybe she got the name and # from a singles site, and was looking for someone older?

Quote from: Rawb on June 19, 2014, 10:35:28 AM
I'm still waiting for the gender therapist (which takes several months), so I've not started HRT yet.

On the phone, I stg, I sound like a 13-year-old girl, it's so very frustrating.
Title: Re: Re: I hate the phone.
Post by: Sylvie on June 20, 2014, 03:00:01 PM
Quote from: Beth Andrea on June 20, 2014, 02:45:05 PM
Maybe she got the name and # from a singles site, and was looking for someone older?

Maybe so. But an "I'm sorry, I believe I have the wrong number" is maybe a kinder way to hang up. ;)
Title: Re: I hate the phone.
Post by: Adam (birkin) on June 20, 2014, 04:03:28 PM
My brother has received the same sort of treatment and he is cis. For whatever reason, he just sounds like a woman. It is very rude, but you're certainly not alone and I would try not to let it make you feel bad because it can happen sometimes to cis people too.
Title: Re: I hate the phone.
Post by: Marcel on June 20, 2014, 06:34:02 PM
Quote from: Pikachu on June 19, 2014, 10:44:01 AM
*blink blink* Wow... I can't believe she hung up on you. Seriously, who acts like that?

Awkward people, I reckon. Even so, I would've just proceeded with my business even if he didn't pass on the phone.
Title: Re: I hate the phone.
Post by: Rawb on June 21, 2014, 07:19:32 PM
I'm only out to friends, family and my college. So the only people who would call asking for that name would be those. And people from the college are the only ones who wouldnt just recognize my voice. And they never called back & it was a private number, so I have no idea who it was.

I have half a mind to give the phone to my partner, and make him pretend to me  /eyeroll-of-epic-sarcasm
Title: Re: I hate the phone.
Post by: Adam (birkin) on July 10, 2014, 12:08:50 AM
Quote from: Rawb on June 21, 2014, 07:19:32 PM
I have half a mind to give the phone to my partner, and make him pretend to me  /eyeroll-of-epic-sarcasm

Lol it may not be a horrible idea if it gets you what you need faster. My brother has asked me to do this for him and I have. I know all his info so it was easy.
Title: Re: I hate the phone.
Post by: kitty on July 10, 2014, 12:12:50 AM
Aw, I'm sorry :'c
I really hate talking on the phone, especially with people I'm not familiar with. I get so nervous.