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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: Christine167 on June 19, 2014, 06:09:30 PM

Title: Well I didn't get Mamed but I did get confused with a child
Post by: Christine167 on June 19, 2014, 06:09:30 PM
So pic to come later but while at work today many of my coworkers from different departments mistake me for a "a little boy". Which is odd because I'm 6'2". However my friends agree that I'm looking a lot younger now.

(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi17.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fb75%2FHarliquine%2FMobile%2520Uploads%2F9333EE58-949F-494D-8079-411A2CBD3B47.jpg&hash=0826e4ec365254503281d3e8fc53d7e8db6e7b65)

Personally I'm not seeing it.
Title: Re: Well I didn't get Mamed but I did get confused with a child
Post by: Sammy on June 20, 2014, 01:46:47 AM
Oh, that's simply another step towards "madam" ;). If You are mistaken for a kid that means that You are looking very much neotenous which is a feature shared by children and women :).
Wait till You will have to argue with Your "patronising" colleagues because they will see someone much younger = less experience = must be wrong by default.
Title: Re: Well I didn't get Mamed but I did get confused with a child
Post by: Miyuki on June 20, 2014, 03:11:01 PM
I think what you're experiencing is pretty normal. I always looked young for my age, but when I started on low dose hormone therapy I gradually started to look even more young. I'm 27 now, but if I was presenting as completely male I would have a hard time convincing anyone I wasn't a teenager. I'm not crazy about being stuck looking like an androgynous teenage boy, but it's still way better than looking like a typical adult male. Just a minor detour on the road to passing I guess. ;)
Title: Re: Well I didn't get Mamed but I did get confused with a child
Post by: Emily1996 on June 20, 2014, 03:30:17 PM
I get mistaken for a young boy too!I mean I'm still a teenager, but I was volunteering at a middle school last week, and a teacher there thought I was a student in middle school .-. No it's not cool
Title: Re: Well I didn't get Mamed but I did get confused with a child
Post by: ElanaV on June 20, 2014, 11:18:07 PM
This is very true. If you are presenting male on HRT, after a little while you may often be perceived as very young before you begin to be perceived as female. Not too long ago, I had someone we were interviewing for a position walk into my office and greet me,  "Wow, you have this whole office all to yourself?" I had never had that reaction before.

Another time I was on a business trip with my boss, ordered a beer, and the waitress asked how old I was, I responded, "What do you think?" She said "You look 12." After that, my boss tried to make me feel better, saying how "I have a very young look, how I will be happy about it when I'm older and how his son looks very young as well."

Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on June 20, 2014, 01:46:47 AM
Oh, that's simply another step towards "madam" ;). If You are mistaken for a kid that means that You are looking very much neotenous which is a feature shared by children and women :).
Wait till You will have to argue with Your "patronising" colleagues because they will see someone much younger = less experience = must be wrong by default.
Title: Re: Well I didn't get Mamed but I did get confused with a child
Post by: Sammy on June 21, 2014, 02:57:32 AM
Quote from: ElanaV on June 20, 2014, 11:18:07 PM
Not too long ago, I had someone we were interviewing for a position walk into my office and greet me,  "Wow, you have this whole office all to yourself?" I had never had that reaction before.

I bet that person did not get the job :).
Title: Re: Well I didn't get Mamed but I did get confused with a child
Post by: Christine167 on June 21, 2014, 11:49:54 AM
Thanks everyone. I'm kind of getting used to the change in how others are treating me. I still don't see it myself but I need to adapt or risk staying in boy mode forever.
Title: Re: Well I didn't get Mamed but I did get confused with a child
Post by: ElanaV on June 22, 2014, 09:41:27 PM
Quote from: ♡ Emily ♡ on June 21, 2014, 02:57:32 AM
I bet that person did not get the job :).

Well Emily, actually they are considering him. It's not my decision as it is for another department, unfortunately. But who knows I always give people the benefit of the doubt. It was an odd comment though, even if he thought I was a teenager.