I made a thread a while ago asking about how to tell one of my parents about my scheduled SRS, who knows that I'm transgender and transitioning but doesn't know the full extent about my plans for SRS. The consensus that I got was either to not tell them, or tell them flat out that I'm getting SRS and let them decide what they will.
To me this is very insensitive. I understand many people's relationships with their parents are ruined because of transitioning, but many are not. Also, they're not our friends, they're our parents. At the end of the day they deserve to know what's going on with their child's life whether they or the child likes it or not.
The parent that I need to tell isn't ignorant of my transition or what I'm doing, but it's not the most comfortable thing in the world to talk about, so we've kept it in the dark. They understand what and why I'm transitioning though. It's going to be a very awkward conversation so I'm looking for advice on those who have had these discussions or any kind of advice on how to break it to them?
Since they already know about your transition, the hard part is over. All you have to do is tell them. I would start like this, "Hey I have something very serious to talk to you about" and then go from there.
Well, being sensitive to others is good. But, if you need to tell someone something, there is often less pain for all parties involved if you just state things plainly and simply.
Of course you know your parents best.
I have slowly worked the idea into my parent's minds by stating things like, "I am thinking more about surgery than I expected, perhaps I will end up going the whole way."
And
"Vaginas are not cheap but thankfully, I only need one."
I've yet to tell any of my family other than my significant other! The wwhole conversation is bound to be intense.. Good luck! I will need it aswell expecially for my father D;
Quote from: Tori on June 29, 2014, 04:19:36 PM
Well, being sensitive to others is good. But, if you need to tell someone something, there is often less pain for all parties involved if you just state things plainly and simply.
Of course you know your parents best.
I have slowly worked the idea into my parent's minds by stating things like, "I am thinking more about surgery than I expected, perhaps I will end up going the whole way."
And
"Vaginas are not cheap but thankfully, I only need one."
good point