so I am in sort of a complicated situation.
To start things off I need to explain my past a bit.
My father came out as a TS when I was 12 and had the surgery to become a female when I was 14. I felt a lot of betrayal during my teenage years. I still maintained speaking terms but the rest of my family shunned them & still do. He/she (little bit confusing) reverted back when I was 18 to a male as much as they could. I am now in my 20s. I get along with them but it's still not what it used to be beforehand.
My current relationship(not entirely sure where it stands atm) has/had? been rocky but there has been talk of marriage & children on a number of occasions. Let's call him Bob.
we had been together for 4 and a half years and Bob had disclosed too me that before he had met me he had deeply investigated going the route of female but wasn't planning on doing it anymore. We split about 4 months ago because I had school aspirations & needed to get myself worked out financially. I have come back too visit and things on one side better romantically & how well we get along but Bob has started down that path. Currently Bob is taking hormones & getting electrolysis with visible effects too their chest. Needless too say I am a little weirded out.
I want Bob too be happy & I love him but I Don't think I can handle being with him like that with my past. I feel like telling him how I feel is making him choose but this is sending my brain & heart through a blender and I can't find anyone to talk to about it.
Welcome to Susans Transient. Personally if you still love "Bob" I would tell him about what happened with your father and see if he understands where you are coming from. Then possibly you both can work it out. If you don't want to be with him because of the path has chosen then leave him now because you will only get more hurt. However the best advice I can give you is to talk to him.