I live in a co-op that is friendly to any LGBTQ person, and right now half of us are queer and the other half are straight. One of my roomates is a gay cis-guy, and he really tried coming on to me. He pretty much asked if he could blow me. now I feel really uncomfortable and im really upset, because he knows I am trans and that I identify as female, and then he asks if he can blow me! I mean wtf?! really! I have even told him that I was more interested in women then guys... ugh. I don't even like other people touching that part to begin with. Not even when I thought I was a straight guy. Its frustrating.
Ne ways I was upset and I might have been a little mean when I shot him down. Anybody got any advice on how I should deal with him. Should I apologize for being mean, avoid him, or pretend it didn't happen and be friends like we were before? or should I let him blow me(NO! NO! NO! DEFINATELY joking here lol).
Don't apologize because he was waaaaay out of line with that suggestion. Just set some boundaries and make them very clear and hopefully the friendship will be OK. He may just not have been thinking clear that day or something. Definitely do not do it if it makes you uncomfortable or men are not your thing. Don't let him pressure or cave in. :)
Oh im not gonna let him touch me lol.... that's the last thing in the world I want. but I do hope that I can repair friendship, because he has been the most supportive person in the house as far as my transitioning goes.
Good luck Amber! I hope it works out well for you and this can be forgotten. :)
thank you jessica
I agree with Jessica. You don't need to apologize. I hope things can work out between the two of you.
Yes, don't apologise but also don't pretend it didn't happen. You don't have to hold a grudge about it, but pretending stuff like that never happened is how sexual predators (not suggesting this guy is one) get away with what they do. Be very clear with him that you won't tolerate that towards yourself in the future, if he persists you need to talk to the Co-op about changing roomies, or rooms, if at all possible.
It can be one of the worst things in the world. I was seeing a guy and I had told him nothing down there because I wasn't comfortable. Well anyway he had me on cloud nine playing with my tits that I was basically mindless and you can guess what he does next. He starts to blow me at first I barely notice and it did feel kind of good then all of a sudden I'm like wait what the ->-bleeped-<-s going on and turn into a sobbing mess and the whole things ruined. After which I spent the rest of the night making him feel like an ->-bleeped-<-. Ummm point being, guys are idiots I think that's where I was going with that....