I was at work today and my female coworkers commented on a man they thought was attractive. I was the only dude there, so I don't know if this is normal behavior. The only reason it weirds me out is the one lady (V) and the main boss (KM) uses the wrong pronouns from time to time. The other intern has figured out now which sucks as everyone knowing bothers me a lot.
Is this normal behavior? I don't really think it is, but before transitioning straight women never did this as I'm pretty obviously not into dudes. Maybe I blocked when women did that pre-transition, but now it bothers me as I want to be treated as a cis-male.
The other thing is I don't know who will give me a recommendation when I leave. The only person that hasn't slipped up is the accountant and she is leaving. It is an issue because V and KM are probably the one to give a recommendation as they will likely stay with the company for a long time. The lady I mainly work for KG is good on pronouns, but sometimes referrers me and the other intern as ladies. Personally I don't understand how people have issues because they never saw me in female mode. They just knew because my legal name wasn't changed.
How do I ask for who would give me recommendation in a polite manner? As I don't know how to not come across professionally.
I would ask several supervisors hay they thought your work was and if there were any recommendations to help you grow in you profession. Ask one to mentor you. I would ask one that can help you the most in growth. After gaining a rapport then a letter of recommendation would be a natural step and they would be happy to wright you a letter.
About the guy thing, when you are presenting, out and with chosen name then I would expect to be addressed as male and treated as such.