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Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: Riot Wild on July 23, 2014, 04:45:34 PM

Title: Coming out to my parents in a couple hours and completely terrified
Post by: Riot Wild on July 23, 2014, 04:45:34 PM
I've decided to come out to my parents today. I've printed off pamphlets and other information about being transgender, my partner is coming with me but I'm still SO nervous. My parents are very right wing despite being stoners back in the day. My dad has said, "Gay people have no right to be married, they're lucky they're even allowed to live." I'm a bi guy but it hasn't been an issue because I'm getting married soon to a MTF that isn't out. I know being transgender is different from being homosexual but I'm still scared.
Title: Re: Coming out to my parents in a couple hours and completely terrified
Post by: Riot Wild on July 23, 2014, 07:22:17 PM
It went good actually. They said they had always known I wasn't a girl. My mom even offered to help me with the Tshots after I got on them
Title: Re: Coming out to my parents in a couple hours and completely terrified
Post by: mm on July 23, 2014, 07:30:50 PM
Great to hear, Roit Wild, where are you in transitioning?  Are you ready to start T?
Title: Re: Coming out to my parents in a couple hours and completely terrified
Post by: Jasper93 on July 23, 2014, 07:38:10 PM
Hello Riot Wild,

I was moved by your narrative.  I'm glad that your mother was as supportive of you as she was. I do, however, want to express my sincerest disagreement with what your father seems to believe in: Gay people SHOULD be allowed to marry, and should obviously be allowed to live like everyone else.  It aggravates me to no end when gays are denied such basic human rights -- some of the religious passages cited to halt gay rights are the same passages cited in the 1950s and 1960s to deny African-Americans their rights. 

I know it can be discouraging at times to have such closed-minded family -- my family, too, is very closed-minded.  Just keep your head up.  The Millennial Generation is the most socially liberal bunch to-date, and this spells a bright future for the LGBT community, in my opinion.  I wish you and your partner the best of luck on your endeavors.

Jasper
Title: Re: Coming out to my parents in a couple hours and completely terrified
Post by: Riot Wild on July 23, 2014, 08:04:57 PM
Quote from: mm on July 23, 2014, 07:30:50 PM
Great to hear, Roit Wild, where are you in transitioning?  Are you ready to start T?
there's only one therpist that deals with transgenders in my entire state and they don't take insurance. I'm ging to save up for a much cheaper online one though so I can get my letter for T
Title: Re: Coming out to my parents in a couple hours and completely terrified
Post by: Bombadil on July 23, 2014, 08:06:00 PM
I am glad the talk with your parents went better than you expected. I bet that was a relief
Title: Re: Coming out to my parents in a couple hours and completely terrified
Post by: Emjay on July 23, 2014, 08:47:02 PM
Congratulations!  I'm so glad to hear that things went well with your parents!  :)