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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: allisonsteph on July 28, 2014, 10:57:20 AM

Title: Back On the Streets
Post by: allisonsteph on July 28, 2014, 10:57:20 AM
My time staying where I have been sleeping has come to an end. A friend was kind enough to offer me a bed for a few nights which turned into six weeks. She has now rented the room and the new tenant is moving in today. I can't complain about having to leave, my friend has been extremely generous to me by letting me stay so long. That being said, I still have nowhere to go. I have been on a waiting list for a homeless shelter for 60 days now. I am up to number 1 on the list, but have been there for 9 days so far. I've made my daily call today and it is still not open, so it is looking like I will be back on the streets for at least one night. I will check in as I am able.

Allison
Title: Re: Back On the Streets
Post by: ClaudiaLove on July 28, 2014, 11:02:27 AM
  I am so sorry to hear that Allison , I wish I could help , but at the moment I only can send you a hug and wishes that your situation get solved soon .
  In a way I can relate to this , as I am always scared that I will be evicted , I am struggling with money to pay rent . Yet I wasn't yet evicted , so I can say I really understand what you feel . I know it must me tough , but keep your spirit high , better times will come . 
  I hope we will read soon the post where you announce that you solved the situation and have a place to live in  .
Title: Re: Back On the Streets
Post by: Auroramarianna on July 28, 2014, 12:23:57 PM
I feel so sorry that you are going through this, it must be so difficult.

I feel horrible for not being able to change your situation, but I wish you the best and that you find a place to stay.

Hugs and kisses,

xxxx
Title: Re: Back On the Streets
Post by: Shantel on July 28, 2014, 12:47:12 PM
Count me with the other women here, hopefully things will turn around quickly for you dear. Times like these make me wish I was wealthy so I could wave a magic wand and change the situational dynamics for you and so many others. Times are indeed grim for so many.
Title: Re: Back On the Streets
Post by: RosieD on July 28, 2014, 01:14:14 PM
Best of luck lovely.  If I had a magic 'safe house' wand I would be waving it right now.  Check back in when you can y'hear?  And kudos for the stoic acceptance of a night on the streets.

Rosie
Title: Re: Back On the Streets
Post by: Jayne on July 28, 2014, 01:24:17 PM
I spent 9 months in a hostel last year & many months before that being homeless (sofa surfing).
Keep phoning the hostel & follow any rules they set down no matter how stupid they may seem (my old hostel had some very strict rules).

It may sound crazy but whilst I was in the hostel I was safer than being out in public, around the hostel I could wear whatever clothes I wanted & ALL of the tenants knew that if they gave me any problems for being trans then they could face immediate eviction.
I did have a few problems but no more than any other tenants there.

Guidelines for surviving a hostel:

Keep yourself to yourself

DO NOT lend money

Report any signs of bullying/hostility immediately

Keep valuables locked away (if you don't have a secure lock box then invest in one)

Your room/flat is your private sanctum, it's up to you who is welcome past your door.

Get used to saying no & stick to it, people will use any story to tug on your heart strings in an effort to get you to part with money/food etc..


I wish you all the best in this difficult time, we're all here to support you
Title: Re: Back On the Streets
Post by: Sarah leah on July 28, 2014, 08:18:00 PM
It is never fun, I was homeless on the streets for ten years and my advice is to be safe, use coffee shops and public spaces to stay visible. Do not be alone and do not give up. There is always hope.
Title: Re: Back On the Streets
Post by: Allyda on July 28, 2014, 11:18:47 PM
Wishing you all my best you'll find a place to stay soon.

Allie :icon_flower:
Title: Re: Back On the Streets
Post by: Alainaluvsu on July 29, 2014, 12:04:59 AM
I'm so sorry to hear this. I hope things work out for you soon dear.
Title: Re: Back On the Streets
Post by: allisonsteph on August 01, 2014, 05:29:21 PM
Checking in. I've spent three nights sleeping in a park so far. It is quiet and safe. It is far enough out in the suburbs that there are no transients other than me in the area. Still waiting for a bed in the shelter. Didn't open today, hopefully Monday. I spend most of my time in coffee shops and fast food restaurants enjoying the air conditioning and free wifi.

I haven't showered in four days and feel completely nasty. It's been over 100 degrees every day.

I will check in when I can.
Title: Re: Back On the Streets
Post by: Rachel on August 01, 2014, 07:26:05 PM
I hope a room opens up Monday. I feel bad for the predicament you are in and hope it works out well for you.
Title: Re: Back On the Streets
Post by: Allyda on August 03, 2014, 05:05:00 PM
Quote from: allisonsteph on August 01, 2014, 05:29:21 PM
Checking in. I've spent three nights sleeping in a park so far. It is quiet and safe. It is far enough out in the suburbs that there are no transients other than me in the area. Still waiting for a bed in the shelter. Didn't open today, hopefully Monday. I spend most of my time in coffee shops and fast food restaurants enjoying the air conditioning and free wifi.

I haven't showered in four days and feel completely nasty. It's been over 100 degrees every day.

I will check in when I can.
My heart goes out to you Allison. I sincerely hope a room opens up for you soon. In the meantime please know we're all here to support you.

Allie :icon_flower: