Personally for me, I never realized how much my long hair would love getting in my mouth. And I am always amazed at the unending parade of stuff that falls down my cleavage. I would also say that I was shocked that women talk to me now, they laugh and smile and acknowledge my existence, it's a fantastic switch. Men still ignore me, but that's not surprising.
The same here. Hair finding lipstick like a magnet. Who would have though? Or forgetting about long hair until after you roll down the car window resulting in a blind out! Dresses getting into car doors being shut was one. Seems like they want to escape or something. I hate it when people honk and point, argh!:)
Probably the fact that drinking from a water fountain with long hair is nearly impossible.
Also, I keep forgetting that I can't put my hands in my pockets anymore, because they no longer exist.
Finding men attractive--at all and, in particular, when one of them was one of my closest friends. Thanks HRT.
Oops. I missed the word "minor". So, yeah, that hair in mouth thing.
Boob sweat, although the crumbs in the cleavage were unexpected too. (I had long hair for my entire adult life, or I'm sure that'd have been a surprise as well.)
All of the above? ^_^
For an original contribution, though, I'd have to say hair getting stuck under my bra straps. It's a constant minor annoyance.
HRT making the skin on my face so sensitive, hair flying in my face makes me insane
I totally get what you gals mean about the hair thing. ^_^ It's constant when I'm trying to eat, I have to hold it in my free hand all the time when eating, makes me look even more girlish especially at like restaurants and such when I'm trying to be neat. And I don't like hair ties. ;D
And then there's putting retinol moisturizers on my face and the hair clinging all over.
As far as least prepared, a few:
My eye area changes. Those "cat eyes".
An overwhelming sense of well being and enduring happiness. I love myself sooo much. I'm invested in my health and appearance like never before. Eating right (organic when it's sensible, lean and clean), keeping my teeth in pearly white shape, being well groomed, keeping my skin glowing, moisturized and sun screened, protecting my eyes, etc. etc.
Being body odor free.
I had no idea what was going to happen to me. All I knew before transitioning was that I was depressed, borderline suicidal, and that I wasn't going to be around much longer if I didn't start taking some fairly drastic measures. I didn't even want to transition at first, even though I was taking a therapeutic dose of estrogen at my therapist's suggestion. My plan "A" was just to take it one day at a time, and maybe I'd never have to tell a soul about what my real deal was. My initial plan was to remain within the confines of my comfy closet.
My brain on estrogen rapidly began to form a different plan. No way was I going to stay in the closet, and no way was I going another day without my newfound wonder drug. The world was about to lose a miserable guy and gain a happy girl, whether it was ready for me or not.
There was not a particular aspect of transition that I wasn't prepared for, it was really the entire transition itself. I didn't really choose transition. It's more like it chose me. I went full time just two months after my first dose of estrogen and four months after presenting myself as a woman privately for the first time. Jumping in with both feet was pretty scary at first, but I'm glad now that I did.
I think what really surprised me is how accepting female groups are to trans women and how quickly it happened.
A high degree of "acceptance" regardless of "passing". Sure, I get the stares, but mostly people ignore and get on with their things.
Nikki
I think the social stuff has been the hardest. In a lot of social situations I feel like I'm invisible. Women are just not noticed the way men are unless they're really attractive.
Quote from: Evelyn K on July 29, 2014, 03:54:42 PM
I totally get what you gals mean about the hair thing. ^_^ It's constant when I'm trying to eat, I have to hold it in my free hand all the time when eating, makes me look even more girlish especially at like restaurants and such when I'm trying to be neat. And I don't like hair ties. ;D
I got my hair cut this weekend for the first time since I started to grow it out, and I think I've discovered the solution to the hair in mouth problem. They're called bangs. ;)
Being accepted as a woman by women. When I went to NA I was given the women's phone list. Women tell me about their menstral cycle, and complain about men. I never pictured myself being part of the club.
Probably the chest pain... I mean, I kinda was completely unprepared for the sensitivity. Doubly so when I seemingly keep finding a way to close a door on my tits x____X
Other than that, I guess being able to look myself in the mirror and actually feel hope.
^^ Good one!!! Ahh how could anyone forget. ;D
I would also add one unexpected aspect of transition is (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Foi62.tinypic.com%2F2v122qg.jpg&hash=7293be808638aa04055faf696bfd26a8817096ea) on susans!!! :D :D
I am least prepared for the work it is taking me to reconstruct myself into an honest person who can express what I want and pursue it when it is the direct opposite of what my loved ones want.
I assumed I would be starting over. I assumed I would be fired. I assumed I would be divorced. Instead I am deconstructing and reconstructing in a slow and painful process.
The pace of change.
I went from an ordinary, boring, same-thing-every-day life to a whirlwind of change and activity and milestones. My social calendar is full, and I always have somewhere I need to be. With the fast pace has come many life changes; my life is totally different now than it was just two years ago. I feel like i'm on a high speed bobsled ride and I am barely hanging on.
I'm tired; a slowdown in the pace of things would be welcome :)
The boob pain. I knew they were going to hurt, but nothing prepared me for the pain that I feel when I hit them against something.
The loss of all my friends
Quote from: Miyuki on July 29, 2014, 05:19:16 PM
I got my hair cut this weekend for the first time since I started to grow it out, and I think I've discovered the solution to the hair in mouth problem. They're called bangs. ;)
Those dont help me in the slightest. I have even more issues with them.
Quote from: Autumn on July 29, 2014, 07:55:42 PM
The boob pain. I knew they were going to hurt, but nothing prepared me for the pain that I feel when I hit them against something.
Quote from: Kaylin Kumiho on July 29, 2014, 05:35:21 PM
Probably the chest pain... I mean, I kinda was completely unprepared for the sensitivity. Doubly so when I seemingly keep finding a way to close a door on my tits x____X
Yes, having your nipples/boobs crushed in a vise gets a little uncomfortable, doesn't it?
How incredibly painful hot ash in your bra can be....i really gotta watch my cigarettes closer...and falling embers at bonfires lol
Men opening doors, offering to carry things, and suddenly being incredibly sweet and helpful.
Random women telling me details of their private lives.
I find it quite amazing how interested I am in finding the right clothes and shoes - I loathed going clothes/shoes shopping before.
I always tried to keep my (male) sex drive tamped down, especially when I was around women but I would still feel sleezy or devious even though I'd done nothing "wrong" - but sometimes the things that I would think... ugh, yuk... if any woman had known they would never talk to me again, I felt plenty ashamed. Plus it was so very hard to maintain eye contact with a woman who had large breasts and/or lots of cleavage on display. But that drive is gone now. I still find women incredibly beautiful but I don't feel "guilty" for feeling that way now, the unhelpful sexual thoughts and urges are completely gone. Also, if I'm looking at a woman's breasts now its for comparison rather than ogling reasons!! ;D
Taking your bra off at the end of the day is a wonderful feeling, not wearing one is a mistake
you can never own too many shoes
You can own 1 million bobby pins, but never find one when you need one
You need to get out of your clothes the second you get home
Handbags never feel heavy, yet give one to a guy to hold for 5 minutes and they'll complain about the weight
You can tell the difference between shades of pink
Theres always 1 eyebrow hair that gets out of control
putting on and taking off make up is a real bitch
This might sound silly but I wasn't prepared for being considered pretty I still have a hard time believing it to be honest. I guess another would be men's random comments about my height and other comments on my body. :-\
Quote from: TaoRaven on July 29, 2014, 09:54:39 PM
Men opening doors, offering to carry things, and suddenly being incredibly sweet and helpful.
That one is taken me awhile to get used to.
I'll also add:
- Having the need for so many different types of shoes, but I must admit it's fun :)
- My liking of clothes. I used to not care so much about style and colors, now I love clothes shopping and wearing different styles (for my age)
Being do damned happy. Seriously, I didn't know the scale went up this high.
+1 on suddenly looking a clothes differently.
Oh, I was kinda prepared for this but I just started noticing boys a little this week. So weird. Looks like I am wandering along the Kinsey scale a bit. Not that it matters a jot to a married gal.
I couldn't believe how incredibly easy it was or how unbelievably comfortable it was to go from "freak" to just-another-girl.
The pain from not transitioning sooner, the lost years as I like to call them.
Something I'm just having to deal with now after almost two years on hrt is a change in my vision. It seems to have improved! I no longer need glasses for things near and seem to need them less for far away objects. I used to wear them constantly and now only wear them when I go out either to drive or because I think I look better with them on.
Quote from: Jane's Sweet Refrain on July 30, 2014, 06:00:55 AM
Something I'm just having to deal with now after almost two years on hrt is a change in my vision. It seems to have improved! I no longer need glasses for things near and seem to need them less for far away objects. I used to wear them constantly and now only wear them when I go out either to drive or because I think I look better with them on.
You know, I thought I was imagining things but this has been an experience I've had too!
Quote from: Ms Grace on July 30, 2014, 06:03:09 AM
You know, I thought I was imagining things but this has been an experience I've had too!
I had read that hrt might change the shape of the eye. And I could be imagining a deterioration as an improvement, but it doesn't seem that way. I'll soon find out when I have my vision tested. I think I'll go to an new optometrist. No need to change names at the old one.
Assuming you are on Spiro that's most likely the cause, being a diuretic it changes the water balance within your body including your eyes which will affects your eyesight.
I had the same thing happen to me when I got diagnosed with Type1 diabetes, when I started insulin my water balance drastically changed and I went from -0.5 to +2.5 on both eyes, then slowly back over about 2 weeks.
Quote from: Jane's Sweet Refrain on July 30, 2014, 06:15:26 AM
I had read that hrt might change the shape of the eye. And I could be imagining a deterioration as an improvement, but it doesn't seem that way. I'll soon find out when I have my vision tested. I think I'll go to an new optometrist. No need to change names at the old one.
What got me by surprise was after many years of being miserable and being used to it the fog lifted and I have been able to smile and am happy.
It's a bit of a strange feeling after so may awful things life has given me. :'(
Not really sure it's real as sometime I have to pinch myself but my doc has noticed a significant change in mood since starting e so must be working. :)
J
I do remember about 3 months in, I was taking my pills and picked up my anti-depressants, looked at them, smiled and threw them in the bin.
Coming out to an employer and being fired and walked out of the building. I was worried for a little while that I wouldn't make it but my determination kept me moving.
Quote from: Eva Marie on July 29, 2014, 07:46:08 PM
The pace of change.
I went from an ordinary, boring, same-thing-every-day life to a whirlwind of change and activity and milestones. My social calendar is full, and I always have somewhere I need to be. With the fast pace has come many life changes; my life is totally different now than it was just two years ago. I feel like i'm on a high speed bobsled ride and I am barely hanging on.
I'm tired; a slowdown in the pace of things would be welcome :)
My god this!
I used to have such a boring 9-5 snoozathon of a life...now I am on a seemingly constant insane roller coaster of social, medical and mental turmoil every day!
I remember I used to sit in the house with the wife thinking "Soooooo...what do we do tonight?...Just chill and watch TV?...Mkay I guess..."
Now I can't remember the last time I had a day where I didn't have at least 2-3 impotant things to do or people to see >.>
As such...
Quote from: jamienicoled on July 30, 2014, 07:28:22 AM
What I was least prepared for was the ending of it all [+ The rest of the post]
Is the thing I am most dreading in the future O.O
Cats are more affectionate.
How I get to reinvent myself like a phoenix rising from the ashes.
How fast the changes started to happen and set in...
... and yet...
... how long the process truly is.
How little I would care about my changing sex drive.
The thing that has come up for me recently as I've started taking the train to work is getting hot on by random men. I've had one that won't give up. Two days in a row he tries to talk to me. Yesterday he blocked my way and I had to scream at him. Very creepy.
Quote from: kariann330 on July 29, 2014, 09:43:42 PM
How incredibly painful hot ash in your bra can be....i really gotta watch my cigarettes closer...and falling embers at bonfires lol
never had this happen to me... but i am sure it can be painful.
For me..
My attraction to men.. i assumed I would be a lesbian.. then i a friend of mine, had a friend who needed a date to a function.. I met him and wow... we clicked.. i ended up with a boyfriend. It was weird at first .. kissing him etc.. but i quickly became to enjoy it.. We dated a couple of months.. I have had a lesbian fling since him.. and when that ended.. I wanted a man rather... I find men sexually attractive now.
minor things..
Boob sweat... but I love my breasts...
How much time it takes to get ready in the morning... when i cross dressed it also took long.. but then you were not a schedule..
and been checked out by men.. especially since i love wearing short skirts.. you kinda feel they are looking at you...
the hair thing at the beginning of this thread?
*sigh*
I wish...
now, to answer the question: heavy objects are a lot heavier than they used to be.
I had trouble opening a jar of pickles last night.
Quote from: EllieM on July 30, 2014, 09:55:16 AM
now, to answer the question: heavy objects are a lot heavier than they used to be.
Quote from: michelle666 on July 30, 2014, 09:59:10 AM
I had trouble opening a jar of pickles last night.
I moved into a flat at the beginning of my transition...I distinctly remember carrying my big TV into the building with no problem.
4 months of HRT later, when I was moving out again, I had to call a friend for help because I could barely even budge it xD
Yeah it sneaks up on you that on >.>
Quote from: michelle666 on July 30, 2014, 09:59:10 AM
I had trouble opening a jar of pickles last night.
OMG yes! And it feels amazing if there is a man around you can ask to do it.
Quote from: EllieM on July 30, 2014, 09:55:16 AM
now, to answer the question: heavy objects are a lot heavier than they used to be.
I used to routinely pick up and carry two 50lb bags of fertilizer at the same time from my front yard to my back yard without breaking a sweat.
Now i struggle to put a 35lb jug of cat litter into my cart at Costco, and it takes me both hands to pick it up.
Jars are impossible to open.
As you said - everything is a lot heavier now.
Being confident in myself! Caring for myself! Such an increase in positivity, overall, compared to before when it seemed like a dark cloud followed me everywhere I went.
Quote from: Cindy on July 30, 2014, 07:35:14 AM
I do remember about 3 months in, I was taking my pills and picked up my anti-depressants, looked at them, smiled and threw them in the bin.
YESSS!!!
I got off of EVERYTHING as soon as I got on full-strength HRT. Those pills probably saved my life, but I was more than happy to dump them all last year. Ever since I went "balls out" and have no T left, it's even better. I feel like a new girl enjoying a fresh start now.
On the happiness, I love watching time line videos on youtube, one thing that always stands out is the sadness in their eyes at the start to the joy at the end.
You can fake a smile, can't fake happiness
Quote from: Nicole on July 30, 2014, 07:28:07 PM
On the happiness, I love watching time line videos on youtube, one thing that always stands out is the sadness in their eyes at the start to the joy at the end.
You can fake a smile, can't fake happiness
^THIS^ I haven't seen all that many transition videos, but I've seen enough before/after pictures here and that is the one thing they all seem to have in common. I see pics of myself before transition (and there are very few of those because I used to run screaming from the cameras) and in every one is a forced smile and these sad eyes and an already-dead-inside look about me. Now I look legitimately happy because I am.
How quickly things get heavy. I can still hold and carry a 14lb bowling ball with no problem, but expecting me to use it with a control and accuracy. Umm pass me the 12lb please
Quote from: michelle666 on July 30, 2014, 09:59:10 AM
I had trouble opening a jar of pickles last night.
I've never had an issue opening jars.
The trick is to flip them upside down and bang them twice on the counter on their lid.
Getting hit on by guys all the time. I mean, i thought it *might* happen, but by god i was unprepared for it
I still blush whenever anyone compliments me, now i get wolf-whistles, 'dayums' and all sorts of other things.
although
probably the one i was least prepared for was being treated like a pretty little airhead all the time, my opinions aren't taken seriously anymore. also going out at night is a no-no unless you have an entourage. How frightening teenagers/groups of men are. Losing all your guy friends because they cant control what's in their pants, getting nasty glares from women cos their partner checked me out. feeling wrapped up in cotton wool, and not really having any freedom.
I don't mean to be all 'oh woe is me I'm so pretty'
but becoming a female makes you realize just how male dominated the world is.
Oh yes, and how weak i have become. everything is so heavy and hard.
Quote from: Yulaiyre on July 31, 2014, 01:29:39 AM
although
probably the one i was least prepared for was being treated like a pretty little airhead all the time, my opinions aren't taken seriously anymore.
Oh gods yes...I've been feeling this at work recently...In the past, if I offered an opinion on a solution to a problem or estimation on time/cost of anything in the work place, I was treated with curt "Okay, We'll take your word for it, moving swiftly on"...and then get back to work...
Now given the exact same scenario, I encounter "Okay Danniella..." -turns to Random Co-Worker who has no idea about this project or the tech involved- "What do you think? Is that realistic?"
It's slowly driving me mad!
People must think that my new breasts and ass are made up of segments of my brain that fell off and latched on to other parts of my body or something -.-;
Quote from: Danniella on July 31, 2014, 03:32:05 AM
Oh gods yes...I've been feeling this at work recently...In the past, if I offered an opinion on a solution to a problem or estimation on time/cost of anything in the work place, I was treated with curt "Okay, We'll take your word for it, moving swiftly on"...and then get back to work...
Now given the exact same scenario, I encounter "Okay Danniella..." -turns to Random Co-Worker who has no idea about this project or the tech involved- "What do you think? Is that realistic?"
It's slowly driving me mad!
People must think that my new breasts and ass are made up of segments of my brain that fell off and latched on to other parts of my body or something -.-;
The truth! so much. And nobody asks my opinion on things anymore, unless its with making things look nice (which i'll admit...it *is* kind of fun to do) and the rest of the time i'm just a pretty face. That and not being able to do anything on your own. I mean ill admit it was a nice change of pace being the 'damsel in distress' but the novelty wore off pretty quickly when I realised I hardly do anything by myself and i'm basically mollycoddled.
Quote from: Lady_Oracle on July 30, 2014, 05:43:18 AM
The pain from not transitioning sooner, the lost years as I like to call them.
This one ^^___^^ I still have a hard time dealing with. Every time I think about my "lost years" the tears form then comes the river for a while until I cry it out. Other things include:
My happiness. Before I was always an unhappy person finding the gloom in every situation. Now I'm happier than I ever thought possible, and look forward to each day.
I'm much more outgoing and get really antsy when I've got no place to go, or, am too broke to go anywhere.
This one's a doosey: Being found somewhat attractive is the biggest thing I was and to a great extent, still am unprepared for, and still don't know how to handle at times. And since I'm a lesbian and am not interested in guys that hit on me it's especially difficult for me to deal with. I am getting better at it though so I guess it just takes time.
Compliments. I've lived through a lot including a self imposed 10 year hibernation. This has left me unprepared for receiving compliments which, I now get a lot of. Much more than I ever expected. Social changes such as this have taken me a while to get used to. But I am getting better at it.
I've always had long hair with the exception of a misguided period of 9 years, so I'm used to getting a strand or two in my mouth while eating unless I put the sides of it behind my ears, which I usually do with the left. However I wasn't prepared for how fast my hair grows/is growing. My hair grows over an inch per month which is much faster than the norm.
And finally, I used to hate shopping for clothes and shoes -now I can't get enough of it. I'll never have enough shoes or sun dresses(I loooove these -so comfy and cool). And shopping for makeup has become an added bonus.
Allie :icon_flower:
I didn't expect the mental workload required to manage all this stuff. Old life? very safe and routine (boring!). Now, I just want some space to draw breath in. I am exhausted. In the process of coming out at work, changing name and getting new passport, arranging FFS, clothes etc, while also managing HRT changes, electro, an allergy treatment programme and working 11 hours a day (plus 2 hours travel). I sleep no more than 5 hours a night.
Oh well, its 5.40 am, better get ready to go to work....it has to be done.
Breaking a nail and having it much shorter and stubbyish than the others is now another source on my list of low level anxieties. ;D
Quote from: Yulaiyre on July 31, 2014, 03:38:06 AM
The truth! so much. And nobody asks my opinion on things anymore, unless its with making things look nice (which i'll admit...it *is* kind of fun to do) and the rest of the time i'm just a pretty face. That and not being able to do anything on your own. I mean ill admit it was a nice change of pace being the 'damsel in distress' but the novelty wore off pretty quickly when I realised I hardly do anything by myself and i'm basically mollycoddled.
Yes!!!
In my past I wasn't taken too serious by other men many of the times, but given the correct situation I could appear to be an expert.
Now, I am an expert on certain things, but everyone (INCLUDING MANY OTHER WOMAN) will take advice or opinions from anything that has hair on their face and makes loud noises. They would rather listen to a Neanderthal than someone that actual knows. Ya....I'm getting a bit sick of it!! I can understand why most women just ignore the injustices, it will just eat at you otherwise.
For me it has been the mental exhaustion, identity crunch and general angst that came with the second puberty. I knew to expect it, but I guess one can't really prepare for it in the end. At least I couldn't. But it's good in the end.
One of the most positive things about it has been that after a decade on sleeping meds, I could stop taking them and sleep just the same if not better.
Boob hurt! Mine have decided to go for it really fast and they're much, much larger than I would've dared to dream at this point. The touch sensitive nipples I did know to expect, but since they've come on this fast, I've been taken by surprise how much they hurt generally by just hanging in there and bouncing all over while moving.
Someone mentioned getting hit on by men; that's definitely one that I didn't see coming and when it happened I was like a deer in the headlights. I was shocked that someone found me attractive, and I realized that this might happen again and I'd better figure out how to handle it.
Quote from: michelle666 on July 30, 2014, 09:50:43 AM
The thing that has come up for me recently as I've started taking the train to work is getting hot on by random men. I've had one that won't give up. Two days in a row he tries to talk to me. Yesterday he blocked my way and I had to scream at him. Very creepy.
Michelle, I've told you here and elsewhere you are a cutie! You know, my therapist said to me a while back that I needed to prepare for being hit on by men. I looked at her blankly. She laughed and said, "You haven't considered this part, have you?" We had a nice chat thereafter, and yes, she was right, I've begun seeing men hit on me. Being older it's not as bad as some of you younger gals are seeing but it's there. But Michelle, I'm going to be honest, hon - if you were not being hit on, I'd be surprised. :P
As for the minor stuff, definitely unexpected with the skirts in car doors, hair in the mouth and on the lips, and hair caught under bra straps. I've adapted but I didn't expect those.
Quote from: Evelyn K on July 31, 2014, 04:20:04 PM
Breaking a nail and having it much shorter and stubbyish than the others is now another source on my list of low level anxieties. ;D
Oh gosh! :icon_yikes: I hate it when this ^^___^^ happens. I got one on my right hand now stubbier than the rest, lol! :icon_weirdface:
Allie :icon_flower:
Quote from: Eva Marie on August 01, 2014, 08:53:23 AM
Someone mentioned getting hit on by men; that's definitely one that I didn't see coming and when it happened I was like a deer in the headlights. I was shocked that someone found me attractive, and I realized that this might happen again and I'd better figure out how to handle it.
Going to second Eva on this.
Was taken back that someone felt I was worth a chat up.
Also I was around job sites early in my transition and the cat calls. Did boost my confidence.
Quote from: Evelyn K on July 31, 2014, 04:20:04 PM
Breaking a nail and having it much shorter and stubbyish than the others is now another source on my list of low level anxieties. ;D
Oh yes... Since that happened a bit too often I simply trim the fingernails a bit so that they still have some reasonable length and then I let them grow up just below the "critical" size when they would like to break.
And how the growing hair when wet could get absolutely terrible if I lay down and fall asleep. No more washing them in the evening as I don't want to use a hair dryer (I can't withstand the sound hair dryers make). Washing my hair 4-5 hours and combing it every hour so that it "remembers the shape" before I go sleep seems to do the trick for now :-) .
Can spending hours on Xbox Live's profile avatar editor customizing and playing dress up be considered something I was not prepared for? :D
Quote from: Evelyn K on August 02, 2014, 10:22:35 PM
Can spending hours on Xbox Live's profile avatar editor customizing and playing dress up be considered something I was not prepared for? :D
Prolly, depends on how your using it though, lol! Excuse me, I'm in one of my silly moods tonight.
Allie :icon_flower:
Does any other transvesbians here find themselves deleting hetero songs out of their iTunes playlists?
I kinda 'gag' now when I hear hetero songs that sing to the hearts of man-for-woman or woman-for-man.
"cause i am your lady and you are my man" - Celine Dion ::)
(NO I do NOT have that SONG! (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Foi60.tinypic.com%2F2mwh0ua.jpg&hash=89b4c945844468913b4ddf46247d772db752920a))
I live in the U.K so the aspect of transition I was least prepared for was the brick walls, the barriers and the continued stalling that's put in your way when going through the NHS system. It took me 10 years of RLT before I was able to get a NHS referral for GRS. I did get a private GRS referral after 6 years of RLT but with the NHS it was 10 years.
I think things have improved a lot these days since I started out on my journey in 2001.
Quote from: Evelyn K on August 08, 2014, 05:43:06 AM
Does any other transvesbians here find themselves deleting hetero songs out of their iTunes playlists?
I kinda 'gag' now when I hear hetero songs that sing to the hearts of man-for-woman or woman-for-man.
"cause i am your lady and you are my man" - Celine Dion ::)
(NO I do NOT have that SONG! (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Foi60.tinypic.com%2F2mwh0ua.jpg&hash=89b4c945844468913b4ddf46247d772db752920a))
Um, yea, why isn't there more songs out there we lesbian ladies can relate to? I found one but it really wasn't my cup of tea. There aren't many that's for sure.
Ally :icon_flower:
Maybe Avril Lavigne she's rumored to be at least bi-sexual.
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Foi58.tinypic.com%2F2zsxi6q.jpg&hash=06ff710428a6ee908c6652d9aa84dd02a3ed8bfa)
"I'm With You"
Girls, there is this one! :)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Oe4Ic7fHWf8
^^ I just drooled a little bit. Thanks for that. And the music was actually decent.
Maybe performative lesbianism? I don't think Rihanna's gay.
Quote from: Evelyn K on August 08, 2014, 06:43:33 PM
^^ I just drooled a little bit. Thanks for that. And the music was actually decent.
Maybe performative lesbianism? I don't think Rihanna's gay.
Oh, she definitely isn't, but I thought you guys would like it :)
Jessie J has admitted being bisexual. There are lots of singers who have come out as bisexual.
I wasn't prepared for my wife and two teenage boys to be so understanding. I expected my wife to raise kain and constant teasing and ridicule from my boys, but to be honest they have all been wonderful and we get along as a family better than ever. My wife says she'd never LET me go back to the way it was before I started transition!
Minor annoyance: sliding bra straps! Just hate it when that one bra I love, the shoulders slide off
Quote from: MelanieH74 on August 08, 2014, 07:12:05 PM
Minor annoyance: sliding bra straps! Just hate it when that one bra I love, the shoulders slide off
OMG SO MUCH THIS!!!
On my favorite VS bra, the shoulder strap unhooks in the back but not in the front so it is constantly popping loose. I've tried my hardest but I just can not fathom why it was designed that way. There is no doubt in my mind that men design 99% of bras. There is just no way anyone who has actually ever worn one has ever had a say in the design.
Ever try the genie bras? In my experience they have the little bits of padding that slide everywhere, especially after washing by machine or by hand? Uuugh
I've been realistic about my transition and everything is running smoothly so far.
Another aspect of transition I was least prepared for was being delayed GRS because I have high blood pressure which is hereditary. I am not overweight, so it isn't related to that and I have found it difficult to reduce my blood pressure with blood pressure tablets and change of diet, more excercise etc. I wasn't prepared for the barriers put in front of me by the medical profession over the last 10 years.
I was very surprised when I developed a regular PMS cycle every 26 days that included just about every symptom a ciswoman has except acne. I panicked and called my doctor but apparently my body was already set up for hormone cycles and combined with an apparant sensitivity to said cycle, I get cursed/blessed with everything except severe uterine cramping (we don't have a functioning one of course) and bleeding, so for six days I get to have mood swings, anxiety, saddness, bloating, backaches, sour stomache, abdominal cramps, sensitive breasts, constipation, and irritation. Then after seven to eight days I'm back to normal...till 26 days passs and I get to play again. Its nice for my dysphoria but sucks otherwise, but its part of being female I guess so I'm cool with it. Any other girls have this much fun :-\?
Buttons on women's shirts being on the opposite sides. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Foi62.tinypic.com%2F15mn1hz.jpg&hash=3f6c852bae9719ebce2def5c8dc2e96ffa716ee6)
Quote from: Evelyn K on August 17, 2014, 06:29:34 PM
Buttons on women's shirts being on the opposite sides. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Foi62.tinypic.com%2F15mn1hz.jpg&hash=3f6c852bae9719ebce2def5c8dc2e96ffa716ee6)
Yeah, I know, what's that about, right?? Plus the buttons and associated button holes are usually much smaller than on men's shirts. Lucky I have nimble fingers or I'd really be stuffed buttoning them up.
When I ask women why the different side most of them didn't even realise!
Which one was I least prepared for? That's a tough one.
I'd have to say off the top of my head it's the fact that so much emphasis is placed on a woman's hair, and not just length. It has to look fabulous or you're looked down on as less than the woman you want to be.
If I don't keep my hair obsessively clean, I get read with lots of dirty looks which is a HUGE downer. If I shampoo and condition it twice each time I shower, I not only pass but I get compliments from cis women about my hair which is a HUGE ego boost!
It's the one concession to cosmetic changes, aside from padding my bra with (cheap but effective) silicone inserts, that I've had to make. I don't wear makeup and my jewelry is minimal, but if I let my hair go, it's going to be a bad day.
Go figure. Now I understand why a "bad hair day" is no laughing matter.
Quote from: Evelyn K on August 17, 2014, 06:29:34 PM
Buttons on women's shirts being on the opposite sides. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Foi62.tinypic.com%2F15mn1hz.jpg&hash=3f6c852bae9719ebce2def5c8dc2e96ffa716ee6)
It makes me feel like a 5 year old fumbling around trying my hardest to just put on a shirt.
Quote from: Evelyn K on August 17, 2014, 06:29:34 PMButtons on women's shirts being on the opposite sides. (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Foi62.tinypic.com%2F15mn1hz.jpg&hash=3f6c852bae9719ebce2def5c8dc2e96ffa716ee6)
Quote from: Ms Grace on August 17, 2014, 06:58:31 PM
Yeah, I know, what's that about, right??
I've read somewhere that the reason the buttons on women's tops are the opposite goes back to victorian times when upper class women would have servants that dressed them and it made it easier for the servants to dress them with the buttons the other way. Since they were facing the opposite direction, it would be easier for someone that is right handed. (Which most people were.)
Sydney, that's fascinating. I love tidbits of historical information like that.
I've noticed that it varies by clothing brands for both blouses and pants. For instance, Ann Taylor is always lefty, but I have a couple pairs of pants by Calvin Klein that are both righty.
Because I take my 2nd dose at the same time every day. I've started to know when it is time to take them without the need for a clock. I go from nice calm and happy, to pressing this button that will destroy the known universe would be a very good and fun idea
Everything didn't go completely, horribly, totally wrong, at least not yet. That has been a huge surprise.
Rosie
Quote from: H, H, H, Honeypot! on August 18, 2014, 03:39:29 AM
Everything didn't go completely, horribly, totally wrong, at least not yet. That has been a huge surprise.
Rosie
That's up there on the "top 10" for me.
The cost
My excuses
Being kicked out by family
Homelessness
Making a friend and her family basically took me in
Becoming more approachable, girls come sit next to me on bus and train and suddenly start chatting
Losing all of my anger
Being VERY emotional... What happened two days ago was the most intense moment ive had in a while, today I reflect on it and go all lol girl what are you even making a fuzz about
Wanting to build a future
Kicking addiction,
Relapsing,
Kicking addictions some more
Dresses over drugs
Being so vain I even think sometimes I will be ugly for life due to my facial skin
Really, really loving mascara *flap flap*
Being able to fall in love again
Not being able to carry a grocerybag up the stairs without worrying you will drop it halfway
I never wanted children but not too long ago a gf asked me to babysit, that was a first
Not hearing from a gf for three days and believing she mustve died so you cry, you cry a lot
Girlfriend is crying, you start crying, its bonding
When a woman wants something, she will alsays get it -> this saying feels pretty relevant to transitioning, im the living proof haha!
Becoming more loose, I dance even cooler then before and im not even fulltime yet. Im now with more sway!
People saying im cute already (ugh, they just say that) but even some say I suddenly shine and look lively.
Physical dysphoria related to,sex drive is gone:-)
I now want to eat candy, and lots of it, preferably m&ms (I never eat candy)
PAINFUL BUDDING BEWBIES AAAAHHHHHH
Definitely the body language. I've never understood how that stuff works in the first place, and my own body language has been said to more closer resemble that of a people-shy carnivorous animal than that of your average person of either binary gender. And I don't pick up subtle visual cues from others, and involuntarily make ones that make people come to the wrong conclusions about me.
ok girls, I have two questions.
First is the hair on the head, the point is that I have a problem with their falling out, not in the sense like a guy, but when combing is a lot of them on the brush, just when you wash a lot of them rinse. I swear to God, nothing helps, no shampoo, no damn masks. I just do not know what's going on.
And my second question hormones'm five months, a homosexual orientation, but recently began to like the guys, not in the sense that behind them watching the street, but as I see on the internet (I'm not talking about any porn) guy with a bare muscular cage, and those muscular shoulders and hands and biceps and the six-pack, just makes me hot. I have a question, what is hell. Relationship with a guy I can not imagine they are very tiring and absorbing, just those of their body
Quote from: Lady_Oracle on July 30, 2014, 05:43:18 AM
The pain from not transitioning sooner, the lost years as I like to call them.
omg, how good i understand that, from few days i have terrible mood, couse i realised, i lose fu 13 years not decide to hrt, its fu bad, i lost my fu best year of live, live in fu male body, and worst, live like man, its drive me to crazy
Quote from: Anastasija on February 12, 2017, 12:10:08 PM
First is the hair on the head, the point is that I have a problem with their falling out, not in the sense like a guy, but when combing is a lot of them on the brush, just when you wash a lot of them rinse. I swear to God, nothing helps, no shampoo, no damn masks. I just do not know what's going on.
Head hair is lost all the time and I suspect you lose 20-30 hairs a day. If this is your first exposure to long hair, long hair is just far more noticeable in a brush than short hair. My hair isn't that long and I find it on the floor, on my bath robe and in my hair brush but yet my hair shows no sigh of thinning. It's the reason regular brushing is a requirement if you want to keep it looking good and to keep it from getting knotted up with lose hair.
i brushing them 3 times per day, yes i think they pretty long think 20cm. Only i last time i think, couse im the girl who believes that you have something sometimes reset, so maybe i should cut it, and start from 0? And i read normal you can lost even 100 hair and its ok, ofcourse im not specialist in this field
Quote from: Anastasija on February 12, 2017, 12:25:49 PM
i brushing them 3 times per day, yes i think they pretty long think 20cm. Only i last time i think, couse im the girl who believes that you have something sometimes reset, so maybe i should cut it, and start from 0? And i read normal you can lost even 100 hair and its ok, ofcourse im not specialist in this field
Women lose hair like this all the time so it's normal. I don't recommend starting from zero because when it grows out, you will still have the same daily loss. All hair goes through a regular death and rebirth cycle and it's why facial hair removal doesn't get them all on the first path. The one thing to watch out for is breakage and split ends. These can be controlled with regular brushing and occasional cutting to remove the split ends.
thx, its really help me. I really try care I really try to take care of them, they are like my children. That's why it hurts me so much of their loss
My guy friends who knew me from before, treating me like a girl, holding doors open, etc...
Not having enough clothes and what I did have not fitting right anymore.
As a guy, I could wear the same pants with different shirts and get away with it. Heck, it could have been the same shirt and no one would have said anything. Now, only 5 dresses for work? Hell no! You can't wear the same thing too often, it is always noticed.
And I didn't take into account my now much larger breasts when buying before. Many things I got are too tight up top.
and what to do when you have to fly somewhere for example, for 2 weeks? how to take suitcases. And the worst that sometimes there are days that do not fit in anything does not look good
I'm finally getting to know my father after over 50years. All of a sudden we just click like in a true father/daughter relationship. Before I came out conversation was just awkward for both of us, we hardly spoke to each. I never expected that, I'm very lucky and have a new best friend.
I also became acutely aware of hidden dysphoria that had been humming away in the background noise of my life. That was a big jolt for me, as I already thought I was dealing with the worst of it.
And then there was the coming out panic the day after I told everyone I wanted to transition. I actually ended up on the phone to the Samaritans (suicide line) that night, but an emergency appointment to my Doc. the next day put me right. I owe my Doc. my life, a wonderful patient man.
That day I learned that coming out wasn't a binary process. I wasn't prepared for that.