Hello,
I have been married to my best friend for almost 14 years, and they just recently they came out to me as transgender. It wasn't really a surprise on hind site, but the only thing I feared was losing them. Are they interested in someone else? Can I offer them what they need? All I new was that nothing changed the way I felt for them.
We are working together to figure out where we are going. Dysphoria has always been an issue for them, but it wasn't till recently that I knew there was a word for it. Terminology is a small issue, pronouns and such, but we are learning more everyday. Transition is a subject that we talk about constantly. They are evolving daily, and a strong masculine side is surfacing.
We have changed their wardrobe, acquired a binder, I even styled their hair(and I don't know what I'm doing, but it came out surprisingly good). They have become happier, more social, and, yes, the intimacy has increased.
I have been researching transfolk, FTM, and relationships with trans. The biggest thing I've seen is that there are few to no relationships out there that match my situation that survived. I found that very discouraging, and a bit frightening. I hope to find more hopeful situations here, and maybe be a sign of hope for others in our situation. Our life has it's ups and downs, as this is obviously an abridged version of our scenario, but the only thing that truly changed is that the person I love is becoming more of who they truly are.
Thanks for reading,