This is so I dont know if hurtful or more like ignorant or what but it's tough to deal with. I dont understand guys often and I do think like a girl like my brain is more like a girl than a guys brain. So like someone just the other day, and yes a guy said something to me out of not getting it. I was told I dont think like a girl but told it's just people telling me that. Yes people have before made comments like you laugh like a girl and such but I also know Im a girl inside and even if I appear like a guy outside, Im a girl and to say that is basically saying I dont know myself. I know who I am. I may not have girls parts but that doesnt mean such to me. People dont get it plus except for one person no one thinks Im trans at all. Does this make sense? It's difficult to hear someone say they know me better than I know myself.
Yeah I understand, just remember that they are basing their decisions and opinions on a limited point of view. They don't know how you really feel and only when you mention it to them will that information be available to them.
I feel sad that I get called a boy but since I haven't come out I just have to let it slide. A least for now.
The only people who stand a chance of understanding what it's like to be trans are other trans people, and even then, surprisingly not. Cis people just see what they want to see. Don't we all?
Cis people have no reference to associate with trans*. So say things like we all have problems or play the hand you are dealt or dismiss your identity and this is from those that "accept or tolerate". Hugs, it is difficult to deal with and it hurts. Perhaps the hardest part is feeling alone or abandoned.
These people sound very ignorant. You know who you are and no one's opinions will change that. I highly doubt they know you better than yourself and that's just a really ignorant thing for someone to say. They only see what's on the outside when there's so much more to a person than just that. As you said, you know who you are and what would they know about being trans? It's really easy to dismiss how someone else feels when they haven't experienced it themselves. Even then, everyone takes things differently so no one has a right to tell you what you are and aren't.
I can understand why one would say it to me as they think Im uncomfortable by thinking I think like a girl but the fact is Im not. For example, the other day out with my mom, the waitress called me my moms daughter. I wasnt offended nor was I offended. She meant nothing but being nice. She started to talk to me about my long hair and I love talking hair def! The thing was the next day, I mentioned to someone about it. That person looked over at me like oh boy what. Now I act kind of like it bothers me for I dont want to hear how I dont know if Im a girl mostly inside or not. I know my brain has always been more girl than boy but I know people can't get it. They know they are a boy or a girl, I dont so and for people to struggle with that is something many cannot understand. I appreciate more who say "I can't imagine what it's like to be confused weather your a boy or girl." That's something I can respect. What I started with this thread is why trans people are so afraid to tell or show who they are. Judgement from people who dont understand. Id give anything to know I was a girl or boy forever.
Quote from: Ms Grace on August 04, 2014, 04:19:36 PM
The only people who stand a chance of understanding what it's like to be trans are other trans people, and even then, surprisingly not. Cis people just see what they want to see. Don't we all?
definitely