I haven't had many sex partners in my life, but since coming more to terms with my gender, binding and presenting as more "masculine", I feel like I'm more confident and I almost feel more sexy, like human... I don't know how to explain it.
When I presented as a woman, I found sex and intimacy really hard, like my body was alien and it didn't feel right (I could be naked around one partner and went in a sauna once, but I don't really like my breasts touched), now I'm presenting differently and considering transition, I feel less afraid and uptight...
Does that resonate with anyone? Apologies if I'm inarticulate. :(
I want to start dating again, I'm just kind of worried that my lack of experience will put people off, as I'm 30. I know a few trans people and they seem to be very sexually active and the queer community as well... But I wanna be sexually active because I now feel I can...
Ugh... Brain rambles.
Yup, I feel the same way. I'm in my 40s, but I feel like a 19-year-old again when it comes to sexy tiems. I've also become much more adventurous in my interests now that I don't have to pretend to be female any more.
P.S. I've only ever had one sexual partner. But that'll soon change. >:-)
Quote from: FTMDiaries on August 11, 2014, 10:35:49 AM
P.S. I've only ever had one sexual partner. But that'll soon change. >:-)
Me too! Well... I mean I've done things with guys which would be sex with a woman and I've done things with a woman, which simulate what I'd do with a guy... I mean in entirely heteronormative sex terms...
Totally get the feeling like a 19 year old too :-\ I'm really inexperienced with dating, but socially quite mature elsewhere.
Quote from: Peacebone on August 11, 2014, 10:56:16 AM
Me too! Well... I mean I've done things with guys which would be sex with a woman and I've done things with a woman, which simulate what I'd do with a guy... I mean in entirely heteronormative sex terms...
Totally get the feeling like a 19 year old too :-\ I'm really inexperienced with dating, but socially quite mature elsewhere.
Geez I feel more like a 13-15 year old in those terms (not in a pedophiley way obviously.... in an experience level way)
I've had one long term relationship... and one randomish make out session. Someday perhaps.
Don't have much advice, I suppose. Haven't broken out of that box quite yet... Just commiseration.
Quote from: Peacebone on August 11, 2014, 10:24:05 AM
I haven't had many sex partners in my life, but since coming more to terms with my gender, binding and presenting as more "masculine", I feel like I'm more confident and I almost feel more sexy, like human... I don't know how to explain it.
When I presented as a woman, I found sex and intimacy really hard, like my body was alien and it didn't feel right (I could be naked around one partner and went in a sauna once, but I don't really like my breasts touched), now I'm presenting differently and considering transition, I feel less afraid and uptight...
Does that resonate with anyone? Apologies if I'm inarticulate. :(
I want to start dating again, I'm just kind of worried that my lack of experience will put people off, as I'm 30. I know a few trans people and they seem to be very sexually active and the queer community as well... But I wanna be sexually active because I now feel I can...
Ugh... Brain rambles.
Sex is more about what is between the ears than the legs. Just go with it, be confident and have fun.
Don't worry about lack of experience putting people off.
Think about it this way. Everyone is different. Their anatomy, hot spots, passivity/agressiveness, likes and dislikes. Every time you are with a new person, the rules have changed and you have to learn their body and their mind all over.
Just be confident (that is sexy)- because you can be confident that you plan to please your parter, be attentive and keep the feedback going between you both. You'll be fine.
Go get em tiger!
30 too ;D , and it's the same for me, apart from the obvious
I would want to talk about intimicy first however, "Just go with it" is nice if youve got the experience and confidence already but I wouldnt be able to right now
I'm 29, lost my virginity at 24, and I've only had one sexual partner my entire life. So I wouldn't say it's that odd at all, really ^.^
I know plenty of people, some in the queer community and some not, who have never had sex (and are not asexual) and they're all sorts of ages.
I wouldn't worry too much about it :)
QuoteI would want to talk about intimicy first however, "Just go with it" is nice if youve got the experience and confidence already but I wouldnt be able to right now
Definately talk first! 'Just go with it' is the only way you are gonna get that experience!