I am so happy right now! After months of waiting the doctors appointment has been set for my partner to start HRT! Finally things are moving forward!
Don't get me wrong, I'm still nervous about this and the future and what it holds for us. But I feel it's a good sign that I'm happy.
Now question, my partner is feeling a bit indifference right now towards the appointment. I'm more excited for it then her right now.
They have been in a bit of a depression for the past bit and was she was hoping this would "snap" them out of this...so far not quite.
I said that maybe it was because it's been so long waiting for this that you don't totally believe it yet? That until you are actually there it's not sinking in yet?
So did anyone else have similar thoughts or feelings like that?
Knowing is way better then just waiting and not knowing.
Communication as i said before. Keep that going and work on both of your needs.
You are not the one who has to always give. She also has to give back to you.
Hugs
So true mrs izzy, we have had a good long talk about things and making sure it's a give and take for both of us recently.
Things are getting better and we are both working on it. Communication is key.
When my appointment was set and done with I did not believe it until I got a call from the pharmacy stating that the prescriptions were ready then I had to deal with family which I'm still working on that the day of actual appointment and once you have prescription in your hand your partner will feel much better I was so nervous my actual appointment day
Ah, the fondish memories of the initial hrt appointment day. I was so unbelievable nervous that the nurse had to check my blood pressure three times because it was so high and I was sure that every person in the waiting room knew exactly what I was there for and was just waiting for me to be called back so they could circle up and talk about me. But nope the staff was great, had no funny looks when I walked out and the scripts were ready by the time that I got to the pharmacy. If your SO doesn't seem excited it's probably because finally having that letter and then making the appointment leaves you feeling like the whole thing is surreal and you'll wake up any moment right back at the beginning. My SO actually sent me flowers after my appointment, it was pretty close to the sweetest thing ever.
I think you being happy is a good thing, in terms of going forward. :)
She may be depressed until she actually takes it... or even after, unfortunately, since sometimes depression can be triggered by something external but then takes on a life of its own. At that point it might be worth seeking treatment for the depression independent of (or in addition to) the gender therapy.
I was excited for mine but I'm a low key person (or I was, especially before I started HRT) so it probably didn't show. Best thing is to ask her, it could be any number of things.
My daughter has been on HRT for about 5 weeks. She still sleeps and hides in her room all day. She's been actively treated for depression for a year now. She's better and much less angry than a year ago.
This is something that takes time. Low dose HRT is not miraculous, but it is a step toward happiness.
Depression is a very real thing and often is only surfaced by external events.
Some people need treatment life-long despite circumstances being what looks like perfect on the outside.
Be patient and supportive as best you can. That goes for you and your partner.
You've been awesome and I hope you continue to have the energy to keep it up!
Thank you everyone for your answers and support! This site is really meaning the world to me.
I'm so excited to start this next chapter finally!
I do think that once the Pills are in her hands that's when the excitement will begin, but things are getting better for us right now!