Yesterday I was in Chicago getting my hormones for first time legally. I had been self medicating for 7 months before that, I got my first estro injection in my left thigh. That night, I went to hang out with this guy I met. Seeing as I couldnt afford a hotel he said I could crash on the couch. I agreed, as we talked about it earlier. I went to take a shower and next thing I know he comes into the bathroom and starts trying to have sex with me. He dragged me to the bed and pinned me down, putting my legs in a almost crisscross but not touching, and I kept trying to push him off til he started slapping me. Then tge rest doesnt need to be said. My legs have been hurting today, the thighs and leg sockets. Is it because the estro or is it because how my legs were? Sorry it sounds trollish but it hurts to walk because my legs act up, my calves do at times as well, though not every time. After I got out I had to walk a few miles to the train station.
First glad you made it out alive.
Second you did report the bastard?
Not a doctor but the injection site for me was sore for a day or so.
If its your hip and leg sockets its from the attack i would say.
Hugs.
Quote from: mrs izzy on August 22, 2014, 10:19:37 PM
First glad you made it out alive.
Second you did report the bastard?
Not a doctor but the injection site for me was sore for a day or so.
If its your hip and leg sockets its from the attack i would say.
Hugs.
I went into the place willingly, that and due to the fact he seemed freindly on the phone I was laughing with him on the phone in front of his buildings security guard. I dont think anyone would beleive me, at least not anyone I could call about it.
Should aspirin help?
No means no even for us.
That's the problem everyone thinks we can be used like dolls.
No aspirin, Tylenol is better what my doctor told me being on HRT.
I am so sorry.
Hurting inside hugs.
Quote from: AshleeLC on August 22, 2014, 10:27:50 PM
I went into the place willingly, that and due to the fact he seemed freindly on the phone I was laughing with him on the phone in front of his buildings security guard. I dont think anyone would beleive me, at least not anyone I could call about it.
I was a Deputy Sheriff for years sweetie. Report him. Like Izzy says no means no. Do not blame yourself for the evening turning bad and do not cover for this person or he will do it again to someone else. Maybe a family member of yours, a friend or their sister. Please report this.
report it and see a doctor about the pains. They can then tell that it was from the position you were put in and not from the injection. That will back up your side of the story if they don't believe you.
No report means someone else will likely have to live through it.
Oh, hugs Ashlee. That's horrible. Doesn't matter where you were or why you were there.
You were SEXUALLY ASSAULTED.
Chances are he's done it to other women before, and he will do it to other women after.
You are a CRIME VICTIM. You need to report the crime. Make him sorry he abused you.
And please get medical help, and please see a trauma therapist. What you went through would be painful and harrowing for anyone. There's no reason you should have to go through it alone.
Do I have to go back to Chicago? Im 5-6 hours away
Ashlee, I am so sorry that it happened, hon, report it, you
have to report it, to stop it from happening again!!
As to who to report it to, where were you? a dorm? An apartment? a house? where shouldn't really matter but start with the Chicago Police. If its a dorm/campus, call campus police. sexual assault, rape, yes, I'm sorry hon, but that's what this was.. it is taken -very- seriously on college campuses. Talk to your doctor, TELL THEM, so that can check you and document anything. Hon, I am just soo sorry. but you should find and talk to a counselor about this also. You need to get your head clear. Laughing, joking, even going there, is not approval for any kind of abuse.
Ashlee,
I'm sorry hon, but one thing that you didn't mention and that if this creep penetrated you did he use any protection? This is too much information dammit, but I'm sharing it for your sake! Something like this happened to me a long time ago early into my transition when I was feeling squirrely and allowed it to happen and regretted it afterwards. He's still alive because I didn't think he was worth doing prison time over, but I did have several HIV tests as follow-up because a I remember one sweet little pre-op trans woman that had a tryst in a hot tub and later died of AIDS and it was heartbreaking. If he did you like that you'd better consider an HIV test in a few months just to be sure.
No, he didnt use a condom. It sucks cuz the day it happened I literally got ny STI and HIV tests and I was clean. It was o an apartment on N Wells St in Downtown Chicago.
Quote from: AshleeLC on August 23, 2014, 04:55:03 PM
No, he didnt use a condom. It sucks cuz the day it happened I literally got ny STI and HIV tests and I was clean. It was o an apartment on N Wells St in Downtown Chicago.
Better give it a couple of months and get retested. Don't let this kind of stuff terminate your life plans honey, you're young and you have it all ahead of you.
Quote from: Paula Christine on August 23, 2014, 12:03:12 PM
This... plus what everyone else has said. You did not consent to sex, he has sexually assaulted you - without protection nonetheless. Sexual predators are pretty good at pretending they have nothing on their mind, he deceived you to get you exactly where he wanted you. That isn't your fault, hon, it was 100% manipulation and coercion. Hugs.
You really need to report him, the best thing would have been right after for DNA evidence.
Unfortunately Ashlee, like Shantel said it may take a couple of months for HIV or STDs to show up.
The same thing happened to me when I was really young. I was scared because I was threatened and it happened quite a few times. I wish I would have told someone because someone else had to suffer the same thing. But they were brave enough to go to the authorities and he went to prison for it. I think he got out and went right back in and hopefully he rots there. But one thing if he ever gets out, it will follow him. I am just sorry someone else had to go through it but thankful they had the courage to report it. My thoughts and prayers are with you hon.
Can I sue him for medical bills if my legs are seriously hurt?