I've only dated straight guys who didn't know I was trans. Honestly it can be a horrible experience when they find out, as well as a memorable one. Recently I've been considering dating a FtM guy. They seem sweet, understand what I'm going through, and I do not have to worry about sex. However, three years ago I would say no. I do not know what has changed. Seems like I've matured? Could be my hormones, or surgery? I'm confused! What's wrong with me? Is this normal, to suddenly start liking "new" guys?
The definition of normal is whatever the hell you make it. You'll certainly have a lot in common, so if it makes you happy, go for it.
Normal is what you make it! If you know a trans guy that you like... go for it!
Why not!
The heart wants what the heart wants. Be happy!
It brings lots of issues but also helps with lots of issues.
I am married to a transman so yes to your answer.
We are just as helpless to who we are attracted to as being trans. I would say being attracted to someone no matter gender status or sexual orientation is pretty normal.
Love is love, but that situation seems ideal to me ^__^
Love whoever makes you happy.
I've met some really cool trans guys, some are the manliest dudes I've ever known; best part is you'll both empathize with the struggles of the other. Definitely go for it!
I think I'm more attracted to trans men than any other gender. Girls are nicer to be around than guys, but idk if I could be in a long-term relationship with one, and cishet dudes just seem like they put so little effort into their appearance and hygiene imo.
Quote from: Madeline182 on August 26, 2014, 07:58:13 AM
Love is love, but that situation seems ideal to me ^__^
it does doesn't? Idk they are just so perfect! Its like everything a girl can dream of!
take a stroll to the other side of Susan's it gets quite hot over there
Quote from: stephaniec on August 26, 2014, 09:26:04 AM
take a stroll to the other side of Susan's it gets quite hot over there
what do you mean by hot? You're scaring me...
Quote from: Jaz650 on August 26, 2014, 09:41:28 AM
what do you mean by hot? You're scaring me...
very good looking
Quote from: stephaniec on August 26, 2014, 09:44:14 AM
very good looking
thank you, but I can't lust. Searching them just for their looks makes them objects, which equals lust. Which is a grave sin. However, if you meet one that would like to get to know me, please feel free to introduce. I would like a FtM friend that can support me during the next 5 months. Hopefully by then we like each other enough to continue the relationship post operative.
Quote from: stephaniec on August 26, 2014, 09:26:04 AM
take a stroll to the other side of Susan's it gets quite hot over there
...brb
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Mk, I'm back!! Stephanie has not misled up girls!! :icon_joy: lol for so long that thread felt off limits to me.. Kinda like the men's loo c:
Quote from: Jaz650 on August 26, 2014, 09:55:33 AM
thank you, but I can't lust. Searching them just for their looks makes them objects, which equals lust. Which is a grave sin. However, if you meet one that would like to get to know me, please feel free to introduce. I would like a FtM friend that can support me during the next 5 months. Hopefully by then we like each other enough to continue the relationship post operative.
nothing to do with lust
Quote from: Madeline182 on August 26, 2014, 09:57:36 AM
Mk, I'm back!! Stephanie has not misled up girls!! :icon_joy: lol for so long that thread felt off limits to me.. Kinda like the men's loo c:
I know right? WHEW! Now if I wasn't so darn old, argh! :)
It certainly isn't abnormal.
BTW, I'm likeable, or so people tell me.
Quote from: Jaz650 on August 26, 2014, 09:55:33 AM
thank you, but I can't lust. Searching them just for their looks makes them objects, which equals lust. Which is a grave sin. However, if you meet one that would like to get to know me, please feel free to introduce. I would like a FtM friend that can support me during the next 5 months. Hopefully by then we like each other enough to continue the relationship post operative.
That' OK Jaz. I can lust enough for the both of us. :embarrassed:
There is nothing wrong with liking the looks of someone.
BTW, where is this "other" or "dark" side of Susan's? I feel left out "cause Stephanie didn't give directions. :'(
Quote from: LordKAT on August 26, 2014, 12:10:25 PM
It certainly isn't abnormal.
BTW, I'm likeable, or so people tell me.
Cool. Have you ever experienced it?
Sounds just as normal as anyone having an interest in someone to me :) As long as you respect each other, be open and honest your reasons come second. Love is love
I am not necesarrily attracted to FtM guys but I do feel drawn to them somehow, more so than to other MtF people. I cant exactly explain it, its the crossroads we both travel, its the different experiences we can share, tear and laugh about
Quote from: Jess42 on August 26, 2014, 01:27:23 PM
BTW, where is this "other" or "dark" side of Susan's? I feel left out "cause Stephanie didn't give directions. :'(
It's not that hard to find. Some of the guys here are
gorgeous! :D
Quote from: Jera on August 27, 2014, 05:54:56 AM
It's not that hard to find. Some of the guys here are gorgeous! :D
If i was not already married wow would i sure have my hand in the cookie jar.
Just something about there masculinity that churns up my butterflies.
So yes a ditto. OMG! :icon_archery: :icon_censored:
Well, is it normal for a MTF to like a guy? Cause that's what FTMs are. Men, just like any other. The only difference is the sex organs, if they are pre-op, and chances are most trans men dislike that part of themselves anyway.
Quote from: birkin on August 27, 2014, 06:15:58 PM
Well, is it normal for a MTF to like a guy? Cause that's what FTMs are. Men, just like any other. The only difference is the sex organs, if they are pre-op, and chances are most trans men dislike that part of themselves anyway.
Good point! I think they're more manly than biological men anyways.
Quote from: Jaz650 on August 27, 2014, 06:50:36 PM
Good point! I think they're more manly than biological men anyways.
Errr... no, not really.. Guys, like women, come in all shapes and sizes and types. For example,Caleb isn't hyper-masculine, but he isn't feminine either. for me, he is in the goldilocks range of masculinity. Just right. There is no "one size fits all" with any man or woman, so you can't generalize. I didn't fall in love with Caleb because he was trans or because he might understand me better. I fell in love with him because he is witty, good-looking, very intelligent, extremely caring, and for whatever reason, I feel like I've known him all my life. There is no one I have ever met who makes me feel the way he makes me feel when he is with me, or I am in his arms. It's going to end an already strained marriage, but my heart tells me he is the one for me. His trans history doesnt define him. it's just a footnote in his history.