if you could change something from growing up(reporter wanted to change the fact that she didn't play hopscotch) what would it be other than gender( of course)
I would sign up for gymnastics like i always wanted to do, but never did.
Find a way to stop my mothers isolation and pain.
that's a tuff one because so much was wrong. probably being able to talk to people. I couldn't even talk to my parents.
Quote from: stephaniec on August 29, 2014, 03:47:44 PM
that's a tuff one because so much was wrong. probably being able to talk to people. I couldn't even talk to my parents.
me either, but it was safer that way.
I would have taken ballet. I took an adult ballet class shortly before going full-time and I loved it! Too bad it's impossible to be stealth in tights. :(
Learn to play piano. Still have time to do that of course.
Save my Mother.
Speak up about the abuse of my dad.
I would've preferred to have a clue.
If I had grown up female, I should have had some sense of aim, direction and a clear career path. Instead I just drank, did drugs and somehow, miraculously, I ended up with a useless college degree and a semi-cool job that didn't pay. I was the ultimate underachiever and now I know exactly why. I could have been a doctor, lawyer or business executive.
I'd want to be more confident socially. I missed out on a lot because I didn't come out of my shell.
Should have stopped trying to be an alpha male and sought to better understand, accept and express myself
My first instinct was to say that I would change the fact that I was too trusting with people, and wanted to believe the best in them. Even when they were utterly horrible with me. But then I thought about it, and I realised that those experiences have made me a lot less trusting of people, and more cynical. And honestly, that isn't a whole lot better.
So... no, I don't think I would want to change anything (outside the obvious). I am who I am, scars and all. Some of them I wear with pride, some of them no one ever sees. But at least I know I am me.
Quote from: Sephirah on August 29, 2014, 07:20:11 PM
My first instinct was to say that I would change the fact that I was too trusting with people, and wanted to believe the best in them. Even when they were utterly horrible with me. But then I thought about it, and I realised that those experiences have made me a lot less trusting of people, and more cynical. And honestly, that isn't a whole lot better.
So... no, I don't think I would want to change anything (outside the obvious). I am who I am, scars and all. Some of them I wear with pride, some of them no one ever sees. But at least I know I am me.
Sephirah
This will teach me to hurry off a quick post. You are absolutely right. If I were to change anything then it would change the person who I have become. I own who I am. Each and every step, tear, smile, friend, lover, experience and learning has been part of my journey. I am where I am meant to be. I am Aisla and I am blessed.
Safe travels
Quote from: Aisla on August 29, 2014, 08:06:26 PM
Sephirah
This will teach me to hurry off a quick post. You are absolutely right. If I were to change anything then it would change the person who I have become. I own who I am. Each and every step, tear, smile, friend, lover, experience and learning has been part of my journey. I am where I am meant to be. I am Aisla and I am blessed.
Safe travels
very true
this is a very hard one to answer. because of the changes that it would cause in all. I guess the biggest and onlything i would change is to not have lied to my self. It just tought me that i can lie all to well. and that is one thing I fight myself every day to not do.
Quote from: Jill F on August 29, 2014, 06:29:17 PM
If I had grown up female, I should have had some sense of aim, direction and a clear career path. Instead I just drank, did drugs and somehow, miraculously, I ended up with a useless college degree and a semi-cool job that didn't pay. I was the ultimate underachiever and now I know exactly why. I could have been a doctor, lawyer or business executive.
I feel like people think this is a cop out but it is SO TRUE, I can relate big time, lots of wasted potential; I barely made it through high school being too depressed to move let alone study. The second I came out and accepted this about myself and that there was nothing wrong with me, I went overnight (and I mean literally, it was almost an overnight epiphany, I had a fire lit under me, I had a reason to live!) from being a community college dropout art student who never did better than a D in anything (if I passed at all) to a straight-A, top of the class electrical-computer engineering student at a four year university. My life COMPLETELY changed directions, it truly was the magic solution for me. Who knew not thinking of yourself as a deranged sicko who could never have a job, never be loved, and never integrate herself into normal society would have such a negative impact on your motivation/self-worth?
it makes me want to cry when I think of all the wasted potential that exists in the LGBT community due to bigotry and self loathing, but it's hard to become motivated for anything when you are convinced you literally have NO future. I was quite convinced I would kill myself before 20, so what's the point of trying right? I just wish there was some way to reach the next generation of trans/lgb kids living completely self-destructive.
I would want parents who actually cared about being parents.
Handstands.
Quote from: Ms Grace on August 29, 2014, 11:12:09 PM
Handstands.
I could do hand stands. I wish I could of done back fllips
Quote from: Ms Grace on August 29, 2014, 06:14:41 PM
Learn to play piano. Still have time to do that of course.
If You can - go for it :). And handstands are cool too ;).
Quote from: suzifrommd on August 29, 2014, 06:49:05 PM
I'd want to be more confident socially. I missed out on a lot because I didn't come out of my shell.
This. So very much.
I have two answers,,,,
if I could change things and I was born a girl..... then I would loved to have been a cheer leader... I love the uniform.. when I was young teenage cross dresser I had a cheer leader skirt.. i loved wearing it. Actually I still have it... it does not fit anymore... as hrt widened my hips...
If I was unable to change my sex... I would loved to embraced my transsexualism at a earlier age... I embraced my transsexualism at 19.. i would loved to embraced it around 15 or 16... because at that age i was regularly wearing female clothes.
Quote from: noleen111 on August 31, 2014, 05:35:59 AM
I have two answers,,,,
if I could change things and I was born a girl..... then I would loved to have been a cheer leader... I love the uniform.. when I was young teenage cross dresser I had a cheer leader skirt.. i loved wearing it. Actually I still have it... it does not fit anymore... as hrt widened my hips...
If I was unable to change my sex... I would loved to embraced my transsexualism at a earlier age... I embraced my transsexualism at 19.. i would loved to embraced it around 15 or 16... because at that age i was regularly wearing female clothes.
ditto
Quote from: Jill F on August 29, 2014, 06:29:17 PM
I ended up with a useless college degree and a semi-cool job that didn't pay. I was the ultimate underachiever and now I know exactly why.
Yes, I know this story all too well. The irony in my case is that in my last year of high school I was voted runner-up to Most Likely to Succeed. If only they'd known. . .
But as for the question in the OP, what would you change besides your gender, I can't answer that because for me gender issues were the overwhelming issue, the one I needed to address rather than repress.
I suppose I could say that I wish I hadn't been given the strict religious upbringing that I had, but then that would be the major reasons why my gender issues were ignored.
I would find a way to prevent my biological Mom from going out the night she died. That night I not only lost my Mom, the only person I had in this world, but I lost a friend and mentor too. Being only 6 at the time it may have taken some creativity, but I'd have done anything, given anything to have saved her. If I had a chance to go back and change the outcome of that awful night even at only 6 years old I would find a way. All I'd have to do is keep her home somehow.
Ali :icon_flower:
Without gender in the mix, I would take back that fateful day when I broke my back. I gained a ton of weight, lost my athleticism, and have been forever haunted both physically and professionally because of it... I'd seriously probably still weight 140 had it not happened
What would I change? (I'm known for over thinking, so bare with me)
I often wonder, if my life might of been better if I had done a lot of things differently coming out sooner for one. But It always leads me to the same place, if I did, I would not know what I know now. So would change anything? No to do so would change myself.
Perhaps a better question might of been, in what way do I wonder how different my lif might of been?
I wonder what life would of been like if I wasn't so insecure.
Since I couldn't change anything about my gender it would be, telling myself & my parents about being gluten intolerant and lactose intolerant. We didn't figure it all out until a few years ago after going to a lot of useless doctors over the years but both of those issues always caused me GREAT amounts of abdominal pain, farting & intestinal issues and caused me to go to the hospital on my 9th birthday to have exploratory surgery on my abdomen. The resulting scar that goes from my waist, around my belly button and up to where my ribs start and has caused me so much emotional pain over the years. I couldn't take my shirt off from 9 years old until I graduated high school or I'd get laughed at, taunted, called monster or kids would run away screaming. It doesn't look bad now but still if it weren't there I would feel so much better.