So I have these holes in my ears and I'm very aware they won't close after having earrings in them for 20 years. Gotta play with the cards you're given so I need to do something about buying men earrings because I'm not going to stretch them out and wear gauges. Any suggestions on what appropriate earrings to wear?
Just simple small hoops or studs. Golden hoops look best in my opinion but that's just a personal preference.
I like earrings on guys. Keep it small, simple, and understated. As OreSama said, small hoops or studs are good.
I wear the small gold and silver earings.
Hi,
There are treatments to close an ear hole, you need to search for a dermatologist in your area that performs this procedure.
The link below will give you an idea what to look for:
http://acderm.com/ACD-WP/cosmetic/ear-piercing-and-repair/
silver or fake diamond studs are a good way to go. I have my ears gauged but I got a second hole in my left ear that i wear a small diamond stud in.
I have small gold hoops for both my ears. Works great. It was either that or diamond like studs. Those are what I'd suggest. I like the hoops because they're a little more subtle.
It is quite common for Swiss guys to have small studs, especially from some of the mountain regions. Normally a small gold stud is used.
Small and minimalist studs. I have some tiny skulls that I wear when I am able. (Going out and such.) Just be aware that many employers are less tolerant of men wearing earrings. Just a friendly heads up. ;)
Like the above comments, small hoops and earrings. I've seen many guys wear them at my school and it looks pretty good.
In my family, if a male gets his ears pierced it's usually one and he wears one earring. Why? I don't know, but it looks thugish in a way lol. Could try that.
Thanks guys! I know employers would probably not like this but it's not like I chose to have these.
Had them pierced as a baby with or without my approval so I'm more or less stuck with them. XD
I think your body might surprise you- give them a chance to try and close. I know a lot of the guys here love their earrings, but to my eye they are still a feminine cue. I'm not saying that you can't still look masculine wearing earrings, but it sounds like you don't even really want to wear them.
Quote from: BrotherBen on August 30, 2014, 08:20:36 PM
I think your body might surprise you- give them a chance to try and close. I know a lot of the guys here love their earrings, but to my eye they are still a feminine cue. I'm not saying that you can't still look masculine wearing earrings, but it sounds like you don't even really want to wear them.
I agree on both counts (you assuming they will never close, and that if one's gender is questionable, people will lean towards female if they see you have earrings).
Quote from: BrotherBen on August 30, 2014, 08:20:36 PM
I think your body might surprise you- give them a chance to try and close. I know a lot of the guys here love their earrings, but to my eye they are still a feminine cue. I'm not saying that you can't still look masculine wearing earrings, but it sounds like you don't even really want to wear them.
It depends, I need to see how I look with them down the road.
Quote from: Marcellow on August 30, 2014, 08:00:53 PM
Thanks guys! I know employers would probably not like this but it's not like I chose to have these.
Had them pierced as a baby with or without my approval so I'm more or less stuck with them. XD
Hi Marcellow,
Not sure if you saw my comment above, but a dermatologist can actually close the holes.
Have a good day!
Actually you can just take the earrings out too. That's an option. No one seems to notice mine one bit. Plus my generation seemed to pierce anything they could get away with, so it's hardly unusual to see a guy my age with empty piercing holes in their lobes and such. :laugh: So I don't think they notice/care that there isn't jewelry in the holes. I have left the earrings out of most of my holes since 2011 and can still put jewelry in the ones I want.
Another option would be to consult with a piercing artist about potential options for encouraging the holes to heal.
LatrellHK - I also only wear one earring. Growing up (teen years) it was fashionable for a guy to wear a single earring. To certain crowds it meant something hah. Not sure if it still does but I tend to only like a single earring in my right ear when I'm not working.
Oh and btw the employers won't care if it was a choice or not. If it's in their handbook that men can't have earrings in while working that's just how it is. Same thing for long hair. Double standards much eh?
One thing you'll notice these days is its normal for guys to have pierced ears.
I've said to a few transgirls that with ears, it'll go un-noticed whether the guy has his ears pierced, but you'll get comments if you're female.
Quote from: Sebryn on September 01, 2014, 08:09:03 PM
Actually you can just take the earrings out too. That's an option. No one seems to notice mine one bit. Plus my generation seemed to pierce anything they could get away with, so it's hardly unusual to see a guy my age with empty piercing holes in their lobes and such. :laugh: So I don't think they notice/care that there isn't jewelry in the holes. I have left the earrings out of most of my holes since 2011 and can still put jewelry in the ones I want.
Another option would be to consult with a piercing artist about potential options for encouraging the holes to heal.
LatrellHK - I also only wear one earring. Growing up (teen years) it was fashionable for a guy to wear a single earring. To certain crowds it meant something hah. Not sure if it still does but I tend to only like a single earring in my right ear when I'm not working.
Oh and btw the employers won't care if it was a choice or not. If it's in their handbook that men can't have earrings in while working that's just how it is. Same thing for long hair. Double standards much eh?
Same with my household, grew up with an older generation like great aunts and uncles lol. I guess it depends on where you live, work, and are around. Where I lived, in Chicago, it was normal and unnoticed if a guy had one earring in one ear and he got one ear pierced, usually his right, as a baby. However I live in a slightly conservative, in terms of clothing and styles, town. So wearing one earring and having one ear pierced is weirder especially if you're male. Then it's gay and I've gotten on so many people about calling it gay it's ridiculous and just sad. Otherwise, I guess it really depends on where you're from, going for a job, or live at.
I've taken to wearing more masculine/unisex earrings on the rare occasion that I do wear them. Like my earrings that look like screws through my ear holes, or some of my black, spiky ones. Then again, I haven't worn earrings at all in a while, as I have to wear once made of either surgical-grade steel, gold, silver, etc., or my ears get infected. I plan on having an industrial piercing in the cartilage of my ear within the next year or so, but that's also unisex. It's more your choice. Certain ones look less masculine than others, and almost all earrings, in my opinion, are more feminine in their reputation.
I was pierced pretty young too and I don't think they'll really go away for me either. But I haven't had any earrings in them for a year or two and they're not that visible. I notice them but most other people don't really pay attention to them, I've never had any comments so...
pirates wear ear rings!
just choose the smaller size...
people who do acupuncture or pressure point treatment will usually advice against getting your ears pierced, ther eare just too many different acupuncture points in the ear, a whole body map written in that tiny area. but one i trust to know what she's talking about, also said that if you got your piercings when you were young, or have had them for a long time, removing them could possibly confuse your body just the same.
i went against that advice though, and got two more piercings in one ear. they still feel weird even a few years later, very different from the old holes i got when i was a kid, which feel kind of naked without anything in them. but the new holes have some meaning to them that it was worth getting them for.
If you are going to wear earrings, wear only studs(masculine type).
To me: Hooped earrings are on the feminine side and you wish to display your masculinity.
Rings are pretty masculine in my opinion.
http://www.engawed.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/mens-hoop-earrings-6.jpg
Something like that.
I'm glad I've never got my ears pierced. If kids come they won't be getting theirs done either.
I'd go with small studs if you're not going to gauge them. Personally, I think nothing of it when I see dudes with earrings, but I also grew up in a town with a shocking number of alternatively dressed dudes so.
I find it disgusting when people force their kids to get their ears pierced, especially infants and when the kid vehemently protests. Ran into that at work the other day. One of the jewelry girls had to pierce this little girl's ears and she was screaming "no mommy no" the whole time. If I want at my place of employment I would've chewed that woman up one side and down the other. Truly disgusting behavior.
I think what you are read at kind of depends on how masculine you look otherwise. I think when I was just transitioning and was starting to get read as male I liked it so well, I would do pretty much anything to get read as male. Now it seems it is easier. I think the only thing I have worn that doesn't look so male on me now is I have a rainbow tank top that I wore for Pride. Or maybe it was Pride. :)
Anyway, I think earrings in both ears is read less masculinely. I agree about employers who have many prejudices. Sometimes piercing of girl's ears is cultural. I know Latino girls often have pierced ears.
--Jay
There are lots of cultural traditions that are harmful. This is modifying someone's body against their will and I find it repugnant. My opinion, I suppose, but if your tradition is reliant upon causing physical harm to a child, you need to rethink your tradition.
To keep it on topic, I don't know if they make them in your size (18g probably?), but maybe you could get a flesh colored spacer if you're still worried about people noticing. At that size, someone probably wouldn't notice unless they were right up in your business.
I had my lobes pierced when I was about 8, which would have been right in the panicky-try-to-be-really-girly phase. They were done with a gun and not by an experienced piercer so not only was I allergic to the metal they used, but I also got a bad infection and had to take them out. Tried a second time a couple years later, with the same result. I opted to leave the earrings out and let the holes close. They did, to some extent, in that after a short while I couldn't put anything through them anymore but about 9 years later the hole marks are still there. All this to say, friends I've known for several years reacted with surprise when I mentioned the old hole marks on my lobes; they hadn't even noticed.
About three months ago I got a double helix in my right ear, which is something I'd wanted to do for awhile. Since it's a non-standard piercing, it doesn't have as concrete of a gender to most people, but honestly I don't think piercings are really gendered at all, even the basic lobes. Most people determine gender by the jewelry put in the piercings and not by the piercings themselves. Wearing simple studs or rings in lobe piercings would be perfectly normal for a guy. If you decide you want to keep them then that'd be a good choice if you wanted to go for a strictly masculine appearance. Obviously if you don't care as much and it doesn't affect passing for you you can go crazy and do whatever you want! :D Otherwise, you can let the holes close and most people will probably never even register it.
"Pirates wear earrings!" I love it :)
I have holes still too--I had gauges for a while years ago but they've closed up to the point that they look like I had just regular piercings. I really don't notice or get hung up on them any longer. I've decided that I prefer NOT wearing earrings and just letting the small holes be...
I'm sorry that I can't link to anything like this right now, but I've seen people of all gender presentations wearing large, round studs in a plain color like blue, black or gray. I don't think that they're anything like fake gauges (which are a thing you could look into, actually!) but looked more like studs that were just.. larger in size and filled up more of the earlobe space than a tiny stud.
Quote from: devention on September 04, 2014, 04:28:17 PM
There are lots of cultural traditions that are harmful. This is modifying someone's body against their will and I find it repugnant. My opinion, I suppose, but if your tradition is reliant upon causing physical harm to a child, you need to rethink your tradition.
To keep it on topic, I don't know if they make them in your size (18g probably?), but maybe you could get a flesh colored spacer if you're still worried about people noticing. At that size, someone probably wouldn't notice unless they were right up in your business.
Well I get it when you say the child doesn't want it, but in a lot of families, particularly African American families I've noticed, kids get their ears pierced as babies. Either one for the boys and both for the girls. Now if the kids screaming "no" that's not tradition, that's effed up. Otherwise, whatever. I feel getting them pierced as babies, however, removes the fear of getting them done later and remembering the pain. But if I had kids I'd wait until they wanted their ears pierced and take them.
Now to answer the earrings question, avoid large hoops and you should be good. I've seen guys with small hoops and won't lie, it actually looks pretty cool. Studs work too. Not the cute little flowery ones, but small studs. You could gauge your ears too but many businesses frown upon that.
Quote from: LatrellHK on October 15, 2014, 03:10:01 PM
Well I get it when you say the child doesn't want it, but in a lot of families, particularly African American families I've noticed, kids get their ears pierced as babies. Either one for the boys and both for the girls. Now if the kids screaming "no" that's not tradition, that's effed up. Otherwise, whatever. I feel getting them pierced as babies, however, removes the fear of getting them done later and remembering the pain. But if I had kids I'd wait until they wanted their ears pierced and take them.
Now to answer the earrings question, avoid large hoops and you should be good. I've seen guys with small hoops and won't lie, it actually looks pretty cool. Studs work too. Not the cute little flowery ones, but small studs. You could gauge your ears too but many businesses frown upon that.
Yeah I'm not gauging my ears for sure. I'm not a teenager anymore.