Hello. I'm new here, and i'm kinda looking for help. All of you should already seen this kinda post several times, but please, help.
I still live my live as a guy. I have a fiancée, we have a kid together, love them both... but since i can remember i dont feel confortable with myself. As a kid, i was always thinking what was life like a girl. As a teenager, i often stole my mom cloths and start looking at the mirror. As an adult, i always fell both attracted and jealousy of girls. Until some years, I used to think that this was just some fetish... 'till the day that I saw a video call "life in transition". Since there, my life was never the same.
Now I spend my time mostly thinking that I shouldn't been born a man. I'm not sure of what is really happening to me, am i a transsexual or just a confuse man? Most of the time I dont feel like a "confuse man", but i'm too afraid of doing anything about it.
I finally created this "Wanessa" persona for me. I feel like i should at least look for people like me, talk, try to understand, and I dont belive I can do this like my "man"-self.
Sorry for the long story, and sorry for the errors, i'm not a native english speaker.
Hi Wanessa..
Welcome to the forum, you are among friends..
Its not unnatural what you feel, its important to you, so its very valid feelings..
Please feel free to read and join in the many great topics here, I'm sure they will help ease your mind, and lessen your confusion..
Once again Welcome, and its so nice too meet you..
Mark
Hey Wanessa
Welcome to Susan's :) Great to have you here - looking forward to seeing you around the forum.
Your story is not too dissimilar to many other people on this site. I guess the question here is whether or not your desire to be a woman causes you to feel depressed, or uncomfortable, etc? If so it might be worth talking to a gender counsellor to see if there are options for you.
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Cheers
Grace
Thanks for the welcome, girls. I'm happy to know i can find some help here and I hope I can make some friends!
Hi; it sounds like you never talked to a professional about this. They can help sort things out.
Wanessa,
First, your english is very, very good.
It sure sounds like you have some pretty big gender issues; talking to a professional who is trained in gender dysphoria will help a lot. We are not psychologists and can only share our experience. So, disclaimer said, you deserve to live an authentic life, and your fiancée also deserves to know what she is getting into. It is so very hard to be honest, but you and she will be well served by talking frankly. But, don't just blurt out that you think you might be a girl. That isn't very productive. Talking to a counselor together will make it more understandable to her and to yourself.
Good luck, this is an issue that will not just go away and only gets more difficult with time.
Peace,
Julie
Thanks for the welcoming. It's great being here.
About the therapy, I start doing it a few years ago, but my therapist was not trained in gender dysphoria... He tried his best to help me but was boy enough. I'm looking for someone with experience now, but haven't found anyone yet.
Thanks for the advice :)