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Title: Something odd has been happening lately...
Post by: alabamagirl on September 03, 2014, 09:48:45 AM
I can't seem to stop smiling. I've got a bounce in my step. It feels like nothing can bring me down.

Everything in my life seems better than it has ever been. I feel like I've found myself completely. I may still be living in a male body, but everything about me screams GIRL. I feel like it practically radiates from me, like everyone can see my true gender. And if they can't, well I don't care, because that mental wall that kept the real me, the girly, animated, expressive, happy me separated from the outside world is GONE and there's no going back.

I've also found my soul mate. Someone who makes me happy in every way, who loves me for me, encourages and nurtures me, doesn't try to change me, always puts my feelings first, just... Everything I've ever wanted and so much more. There really aren't enough words to describe how amazing she is. As I told her a few days ago, she's the closest thing to an angel this world will ever know.

And... Somehow I've finally managed to overcome the pain my ex put me through. It wasn't easy. At all. That relationship traumatized me in a lot of ways. Long after we broke up, I still experienced panic attacks, nightmares... I was broken and terrified. I felt violated, betrayed, used... Worthless. It took so long to pull myself back up out of the black pit she dug for me. And I felt so much anger... SO much anger. Then... I saw her a few days ago. While being faced with her again initially made me incredibly nauseous and dredged up such excruciating emotional pain, it eventually started to fade away when I realized something. She was miserable. Her life had pretty much totally fallen apart without me. Suddenly this big, scary monster that tormented me through nightmares and memories seemed... pathetic. Powerless. All the negativity she made me feel started to fade away. It was like a huge weight had been lifted.

The nightmare is over and my life can truly begin. I guess I wanted to let everyone know, because so many of you posted in that thread I made a while back about the pain I was going through confronting my past with my ex. I wanted you to know I'm okay now. So much better than okay. Better than I've ever been. And it's in large part to the people on this site who helped heal me and find my way when I was so, so lost.

So I wanted to say thank you, and I love you. And this time, instead of asking for a hug, I'm here to give them to all of you.

*holds out her arms, smiling*
Title: Re: Something odd has been happening lately...
Post by: Greeneyedrebel on September 03, 2014, 09:55:59 AM
Being our authentic selves makes a HUGE difference doesn't it? I'm happy for you.
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Post by: Edge on September 03, 2014, 10:26:00 AM
That's fantastic. ;D
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Post by: Mark3 on September 03, 2014, 10:37:41 AM
That's so Awesome..!
What an uplifting message to make everyone happy..!
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Post by: Athena on September 03, 2014, 10:49:38 AM
I am so glad to hear this. Stay strong and enjoy the freedom from the hold your ex still had over you.
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Post by: Shantel on September 03, 2014, 10:59:22 AM
Such a great victory over the dark side of life, I'm so pleased for you dear friend! Hug and kiss your soul mate she's going to be good for you dear, hugs back at you both!  :icon_bunch: :eusa_clap:
Title: Re: Something odd has been happening lately...
Post by: alabamagirl on September 03, 2014, 11:21:15 AM
*big warm group hug*

Thanks, everyone! :D
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Post by: RockerGirl on September 03, 2014, 06:48:24 PM
Hugs Stephanie, so glad everything is going so well for you girl!;D
Title: Re: Something odd has been happening lately...
Post by: alabamagirl on September 03, 2014, 06:52:48 PM
Quote from: RockerGirl on September 03, 2014, 06:48:24 PM
Hugs Stephanie, so glad everything is going so well for you girl!;D

You have no idea how happy it made me that you remembered my name. *smiles and gives you an extra snuggly hug for that* Most people don't.
Title: Re: Something odd has been happening lately...
Post by: Shantel on September 03, 2014, 08:23:23 PM
Quote from: Pikachu on September 03, 2014, 06:52:48 PM
You have no idea how happy it made me that you remembered my name. *smiles and gives you an extra snuggly hug for that* Most people don't.

Yes that is pretty phenomenal given the fact that you don't seem to have it posted anywhere hon. I will remember Stephanie as that would have been my name had I been born a girl according to my Pop who passed away in 93.
Title: Re: Something odd has been happening lately...
Post by: awilliams1701 on September 03, 2014, 08:59:04 PM
That's exactly what happened to me when I came out to myself. I have issues with my family, but overall I'm happier.
Title: Re: Re: Something odd has been happening lately...
Post by: RockerGirl on September 03, 2014, 09:02:44 PM
Quote from: Pikachu on September 03, 2014, 06:52:48 PM
You have no idea how happy it made me that you remembered my name. *smiles and gives you an extra snuggly hug for that* Most people don't.
Well you were the first person to reach out and pm me when I first joined and was really really super depressed. Soooooo, since your awesome of course I'd remember! *mwah*;D
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Post by: PrinzessinChop on September 03, 2014, 10:15:20 PM
This so great i am so glad for you , your victory made my day :D
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Post by: FilaFord on September 03, 2014, 10:24:54 PM
That is amazing!  Hopefully I will have an epiphany like that sometime in the near future :)
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Post by: Kimberley Beauregard on September 04, 2014, 06:12:46 AM
Have a big hug from me too!
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Post by: LordKAT on September 04, 2014, 07:10:03 AM
Quote from: Kimberley Beauregard on September 04, 2014, 06:12:46 AM
Have a big hug from me too!

Thanks! I will.

I know, silly KAT, but can you blame me for getting between two beautiful ladies sharing a hug.
Title: Re: Something odd has been happening lately...
Post by: Ms Grace on September 04, 2014, 07:36:01 AM
That's great, hon. Hugs! :D
Title: Re: Something odd has been happening lately...
Post by: alabamagirl on September 04, 2014, 11:12:32 AM
*gives everyone who posted a big hug*

*gives LordKAT an extra hug and gently scratches behind his ear* Hehe~

:)
Title: Re: Something odd has been happening lately...
Post by: LordKAT on September 04, 2014, 01:07:17 PM
*Puurrr*