Okay, so I recently graduated with my degree and I had my life mapped out. Well, life had other plans and I have slowly been accepting that things wont be exactly the way I expected them.
Anyway, long story short things with teaching did not pan out the way i wanted. The department of education screwed me over, did not give me my paperwork back on time and i was unable to apply for any teaching positions. And I have been struggling at my job where my gender is basically what they feel like calling me at the time. It has been terrible and has become a huge dysphoria fest any time I go in. Well, the other day I got a call from a Detention Center I had applied to and it was to come in the next day for an interview.
My name and gender have been legally changed to reflect who I am. Anyway, I went in so excited and then saw like 18 people there already. Which ended up being heartbreaking since it turned out most were veterans so I figured I had little to no chance. Anyway, when I stood in a corner of the room waiting a voice over the intercom said "Sir, please move to another spot" because of security i guess but that was awesome. And the rest of the interview went just like that. Everyone waiting with me saw me as male. And this woman actually looked at me and said that I have it so easy as a man and i dont have to deal with certain things that she goes through at interviews. On the inside i was just like if you only knew what i actually had to deal with on a daily basis. And later this really macho dude who was another vet looked at me and asked me if i had any idea what happened to some man. Turns out it was a football player and I played it off that i didnt know what had happened but it is so strange and awesome how different interactions are now. Long story short, Im already going to get my drug test and i had passed the background check which i asked if they needed my previous name and they said no! So literally no one will ever know.
It is gonna be so crazy going into a male dominated field now and be perceived as who i am. Considering the harassment and disrespect i get at my current job. I am so excited!!!! My chest is still a huge issue for me and I am hoping that by my birthday i have the money to go see Garramone. But now I dont feel helpless. :)
Congrats! what a great experience!
I'm with ya on the "it's strange" part. Like wow, I don't have to explain a bazillion things about my gender to you?
Thanks guys! And I can't lie. I'm excited about the uniform ha
Happy for you, man! Hope you share more of this experience when you start the job. The industry I want to get into is very male-dominated as well.
I know exactly how you feel! When I first starred being seen 100% of the time as male it was like all my anxiety went away.
I got more anxious when I first went stealth because I was scared Pele would work it out (I'm pre T) but now I've known them four months I'm pretty certain they're not going to twig now and more confident.
it sure is a strange experience. For me its lifted some anxieties and created others. Congrats on the new job though! That sounds intense. hah
Congratulations, androidnick, looks like you will have the male type job you want. Sometimes we are our worst supporter, we need to have more confidence. Do you have a good binder to wear with uniform to have a nice looking male chest?
Quote from: mm on September 09, 2014, 01:04:47 PM
Congratulations, androidnick, looks like you will have the male type job you want. Sometimes we are our worst supporter, we need to have more confidence. Do you have a good binder to wear with uniform to have a nice looking male chest?
Believe it or not I never went in looking for a male dominated career field. I was looking into becoming a teacher but I was screwed with the Department of Education. They didn't give me my paperwork in time. And I've applied to all different types of positions. I've always wanted something that I can feel like I can make an impact so this is along those lines but trust me, I was looking into anything and everything that wasn't retail.