A while ago there was a things I love about being a female thread, but what are the things you hate/dislike?
For me they are:
1) Boobs past 5pm on a working day
2) fly away hairs, its gail force winds here today, even with my hair tied back, theres always a fly away hair.
I think I've gotten used to the taste of hair products
3) Hair products! I would say in my bath room I would have $1000 at a time worth of hair products alone, I'm talking about 3 types of shampoo, conditioners, detanglers, hair sprays, dry shampoos (OMG life savers in your bag), creams, straightens, curlers, an instyler, hair dyes, you name it, its in my bathroom taking up room, but I need it.
4) Pressure from other females. You can have everything going for you on a night out, but have chipped painted toe nail and you know you'll be judged.
5) toilet clues. Have a few drinks on a night out, you'll miss half the night lining up to go to the loo. Not only do you have to wait for so long, you always ending up getting the 1 toilet that the biggest pig at the venue just used and theres always pee & the other stuff on the bowl, in some cases the seat and you should buy a lotto ticket if shes flashed.
6) Shoes! Now don't get me wrong, I f*ing love my shoes, but guys have it so much easier when getting ready, they have a pair of runners, casuals, a pair of dress & a pair of thongs. Me, I have 5 pairs of thongs, I have so many flats that I'm sure there are pairs that I call "shop donations" where I pay for them, get them home and never ever wear them. They'll send you broke!
7) Toilet paper. Thanks to Costco, I've halved my spend each year on toilet paper, but boy oh boy, do I go through that stuff.
8) Bruises, before I started HRT, I can't remember ever bruising, I can go out on a night and end up black & blue from nothing.
9) Earrings getting caught. Why on why does this happen? It didn't hurt when I put the blood holes in my ears, so why does it hurt so bad when an earring gets caught and ripped?
10) Make up! Boy do these companies have us by the ladybits! You spend $1000's on it each year, use it everyday, yet by chance the expire date unless comes before you've finished the product, do you risk it? no cause the smell.
11) Weather, its cold, no matter how padded that bra is, people can almost get a weather update by hard far out your nipples are.
Its hot, you sweat in the following places. between your boobs, under you arms if you are wearing something that will show it, your panty line, upper lip (or anywhere where the make up will run).
12) jack arse's. These are guys who think they were solely put here to service the sexual needs of us women. They come in all shapes & sizes, but you can tell who they are by the smell of CK's number 1 & the over use of the word "laaddddieeessss". If you say no you'll be branded a "slut". classy breed they are.
13) Vagina maintenance. this is for us post up girls, who would have thought that that little thing could be so much work. I learned the hard way the other week that using dishwashing tablets as clothes washing powder is not such a good idea. I now feel like a little catholic school girl, every time I get a sexual thought, a bolt of lightening hits my ladybits.
14) dud roots. Yep, we've all had one, I not talking about the ones who just can't get you there, I'm talking about the ones who right up until the act you want them, then they're that bad that you start doing a dinner plan for the next month in your head, remembering to say every 30 seconds "ohhh yeah, that feels good".
15) Filling up your car at the petrol station. You know that if you've done your nails in the last 48 hours you'll chip one, you know if you're wearing something nice, you'll get fuel on you, you know that the guys waiting behind your car are making some sexist comment about the pump, the fuel tank and how you handle that well, you know that the service station guy is waiting for you to mess up so he be some sort of hero.
16) Bobbi pins. Now how on earth can I buy a packet every time I go shopping, yet never find one when I need one, but you can bet your life on it that on your way to the loo at 2am you'll stand on one.
17) Sport. Now I love sport, I love playing it, I love watching it, but the effort you've got to go to to play it with boys, you somehow need to look good, while wearing a sports bra that I'm sure are a great idea, but is it safe to stop breathing while running? You can't watch sport with guys as well, they always make dumb comments you give you shocked looks when it looks like you've got a great point.
18) other females. the catty-ness, the bitching, the endless shopping, the talk about the most pointless things on the face of this earth.
There are times when I would love to say "Yes you look fat in that dress, but you won't listen to me anyway and me stopping you from buying it will only give you a reason to bitch about me behind my back". I hate other females who won't eat something because it has 1% fat, they make a huge deal about losing weight, yet when you call them to go for a jog around the tan, they're not in the mood.
Eating or not eating will not lose you weight.
19) Babies, I'm sorry, but all babies look the same, I find all babies under a year ugly, I don't think they're cute and just because I have female hormones running through my body, doesn't mean I need to see, comment, hug, hold or want one.
Just a little fun
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Nothing at all, all of the lil hassles do get annoying sometimes but I wouldn't have it any other way. I'm just used to it all I guess.
But for the sake of this thread there is one thing that makes me feel a bit lame and that's getting all dressed up for a night out, only to go home early. Like for example if I'm leaving the house at 9, I'm getting ready by 4 so that's about 5 hours total, most of which is spent on my hair since its pretty long, past my boobs. 30-45 min in the shower (shaving) and another hour on makeup, letting it sit and then going back and making sure its all in place. My eyelashes are really long so the eyeliner smudges badly after an hour or so of blinking lolol but after that initial hour I go and fix the smudges and it takes awhile for it to do it again since by that time the eyeliner is dry. But with my allergies I sometimes tear up so the process starts all over again, thank goodness for q-tips.
I don't ever go to straight clubs though, so I have a pretty drama free night out, no inappropriate touching/remarks from creepers. I stick to the drag bars and gay clubs which I have yet to encounter any issues at all at those places.
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- Wearing a bra, specially a push-up wired bra
- Lack of strenght
- Slowed metabolism
- A necessity to match shoes and clothing
- Good Make-up is expensive
- Not straight hair requires high maintenance
- Clothing is not a "one shape fits all"
- Two hours doing my nails.
- Men
- eyebrows maintenance
- Footwear not compatible with most surfaces.
And I could go over and over...
predatory men are they worst thing in the world!
I've gotta say zilch. Sure there are some annoying things or people or whatever, maybe I'll get sick of them eventually but I'm loving everything so much at the moment that even the crappy things don't bother me all that much. :)
I am still not on HRT, but I say it is the appearance work. You just have to put lots of work into it and it's tiring. Like making sure you don't eat that chocolate donut so you don't get acne, putting on creams everyday, lotion, ohh and shaving, which you have to do 24/7. I hate shaving with razors, but depilatory creams suck.
Getting ready out to go at night must be very time consumming. Then there's the psychological and emotional stuff, like being moodier or more pain sensitive. And the cattiness from some women. Although I think men can be as catty, they just don't like to admit it.
i love being a woman.. and don't regret the path I choose to transition... but there are a few things that sometimes irritate me.
How long it takes to get ready in the morning... beside picking out an outfit... also need to put on makeup and do my hair... even showering takes longer, since i need to shave my pits, legs and private area and then put moisturizer on my legs...
breaking a nail or chipping my nail polish.
I miss not been able to take my top off in public.. especially on hot day.. and boob sweat can be gross.
Woman can be bitchy..
I love the time it takes to get ready. I hate the time it takes to get ready! When I was a male impersonator I couldn't have cared less what I looked like. Since I transitioned, I doubt if five people other than the Mormons or Jehovah's Witnesses who come to annoy me have seen me without at least some makeup and earrings. My hair is almost to the middle of my back and naturally wavy or curly, so I have tangles within half an hour of washing my hair. Worrying about my weight all the time, and failing to lose what I've gained since my brother passed away in july 2013. I pretty much love everything about being a woman. It's been worth every second during my three years and two days full time. "It's not just a job, it's an adventure!!!"
Quote from: Nicole on September 08, 2014, 10:50:00 PM
16) Bobbi pins. Now how on earth can I buy a packet every time I go shopping, yet never find one when I need one,
They're right next to all the hair ties. Oh wait a minute, where did they all go too?
Oh that's right, they're with all my hair clips. Oh great! Where the heck are all my hair clips?
Well here is the pile of broken ones that I for some reason never throw away. Maybe if I get some glue...
Hmmmm... let's see... Uhhhh... Oh I.... no, wait.... Ummmm....
Nope. Nothing. Not a single thing. I guess I'm a walking cliche. Hee hee! :D
Nothing I hate/dislike compared to what I hated/disliked about being a dude. There are minor annoyances, but nothing I can't handle.
Electrolysis, not being able to lose weight as easily and creepy, predatory guys are my top 3 annoyances. Oh, and bad hair days.
I don't really hate anything about it, but I will say that daily eyebrow maintenance and having to watch what I say are kinda annoying.
I will say that I got a lot of laughs from my perv friends when I said that I can't wait to get home and pet my kitten because I miss her.
Quote from: Ms Grace on September 09, 2014, 06:26:16 AM
I've gotta say zilch. Sure there are some annoying things or people or whatever, maybe I'll get sick of them eventually but I'm loving everything so much at the moment that even the crappy things don't bother me all that much. :)
Ditto.
Quote from: kariann330 on September 09, 2014, 01:22:28 PM
having to watch what I say are kinda annoying.
what do you mean?
Quote from: FalseHybridPrincess on September 09, 2014, 01:44:07 PM
what do you mean?
Well most of my friends are giant perverts. Occasionally something can be said that you wouldn't take as sexual, such as my example of wanting to go home and pet my kitten, that they all twist into something that is sexual. In my example I was talking about my cat, 4 paws a tail and meows, they took it as petting my other cat with two lips and a clit.
Disclaimer although I'm not post op, my friends don't really care and act as if I am instead of still having the birth defect known as a penis.
Quote from: Miharu Barbie on September 09, 2014, 12:40:36 PM
Hmmmm... let's see... Uhhhh... Oh I.... no, wait.... Ummmm....
Nope. Nothing. Not a single thing. I guess I'm a walking cliche. Hee hee! :D
This sums it up for me as well! :)
I have noticed some strange things though like:
1. Hair is magnetically attracted to lipstick.
2. Makeup has a remarkable ability to adapt itself poorly to every single light source for the worse.
3. With long nails hose will not run until all the way up and adjusted to look good.
4. That one last eyebrow hair you just have to pluck will unbeatably be the one you should have left alone.
5. There is never a sale at the stores for anything when you actually have money.
6. Waterproof mascara is a total lie.
7. Noxzema in the eye should replace water boarding in interrogations.
8. Dogs do not get muddy and affectionate until you wear white.
9. The ground can be hard and dry for months until you wear stiletto's.
10. You will never, ever get a stain on old worn out clothes me matter what.
So far, the time I've spent living as a woman has been preferable to my previous 26 years as a guy in every single way, so I'm not gonna complain.
Only getting a few wears out of a pair of tights, my hubby has socks for years that never wear out, ladder resistance tights still ladder, getting out of a cab last Friday, laddered my tights, a small nail in the seat did the damage, it's embarrassing, can ruin a whole look, I was lucky it was just above the dress hem, hubby rarely buys socks, never wear out, I ladder an expensive pair of sheer tights that get thrown out, the expense of being a woman, and that's only tights ???
Hmm. Well from my limited experience en femme there's just one that I have problems with.
Everything cute to wear has little utility. Cute dresses have no pockets to carry stuff (and I do carry a lot of stuff around). But everything that has utility is so ugly! Girl jeans are a good compromise but even those can't compare to a set of cargo pants.
Quote from: Jessica Merriman on September 09, 2014, 02:02:14 PM
This sums it up for me as well! :)
I have noticed some strange things though like:
1. Hair is magnetically attracted to lipstick.
2. Makeup has a remarkable ability to adapt itself poorly to every single light source for the worse.
3. With long nails hose will not run until all the way up and adjusted to look good.
4. That one last eyebrow hair you just have to pluck will unbeatably be the one you should have left alone.
5. There is never a sale at the stores for anything when you actually have money.
6. Waterproof mascara is a total lie.
7. Noxzema in the eye should replace water boarding in interrogations.
8. Dogs do not get muddy and affectionate until you wear white.
9. The ground can be hard and dry for months until you wear stiletto's.
10. You will never, ever get a stain on old worn out clothes me matter what.
These are great, but #6 is so true. Waterproof makeup simply isn't. I think that's completely oxymoronic.
Quote from: ImagineKate on September 09, 2014, 06:54:46 PM
Everything cute to wear has little utility. Cute dresses have no pockets to carry stuff (and I do carry a lot of stuff around). But everything that has utility is so ugly! Girl jeans are a good compromise but even those can't compare to a set of cargo pants.
That's why we carry purses.
Pockets in womens jeans = useless.
Quote from: katiej on September 09, 2014, 09:18:08 PM
That's why we carry purses.
Pockets in womens jeans = useless.
back pockets in jeans are designed to shape the bum.
as for bags/purses
what is it with them? Big ones, we can never find what we need in them, small we need to judge what we won't need, and you can bet your bottom dollar on needing it that night
Quote from: Nicole on September 09, 2014, 09:28:11 PM
as for bags/purses
what is it with them? Big ones, we can never find what we need in them, small we need to judge what we won't need, and you can bet your bottom dollar on needing it that night
Whatever it is you need out of your purse will manage to work its way to the bottom. Every. Time.
I hate make up. I hate having to take it off, so I rather not wear it.
A few years ago me & my friends all threw everything from our bags on the floor and took a pic, god that was funny the crap we all had in them, one of my friends had her boyfriends xbox controller which she took off him 3 weeks before, it made it to the bottom of her bag and had to buy a new one when they couldn't find it
My only real issue with it is just that my worth as a human being is determined by whether I look good or not, and all of the connotations that come with that.
Okay, I was NOT attractive as a guy. I think I actually look way better as a woman. But the thing is pre-transition, I didn't give two s***s about it in terms of how others looked at me. It didn't feel like a detriment to my worth as a human being. I felt like my worth was in my mind, in my personality, my art, and maybe in my singing voice.
As a girl? I constantly feel like a worthless human being just because I have thin hair, a blocky frame, and almost never feel beautiful. It takes makeup, boob pads, and very specific clothing just to make me feel good about myself on those bad days. And I never had to put up with this s*** before. I could just look in the mirror, say "yep... I still look ugly, and I still hate myself. Oh well." and get on with my day instead of "OMG, WHY AM I LOOKING SO AWFUL TODAY!!! OMG!!! I don't even want to be seen like this! Pull a blanket over my head and let me roll up into the fetal position and cry about how awful I look."
I'm frankly sick of my appearance being this big of a detriment to my feelings of value as a human being.
skinny jean pockets are my worse nightmare
Quote from: Jill F on September 09, 2014, 09:34:05 PM
Whatever it is you need out of your purse will manage to work its way to the bottom. Every. Time.
And remain hidden no matter how long and hard you look for it. You could send in a team of explorers and they wouldn't be able to locate it. I've been wondering: will GPS not work?
Quote from: stephaniec on September 09, 2014, 11:20:33 PM
skinny jean pockets are my worse nightmare
They're decorative. Not useful.
Getting ready is an utter ballache. If I'm going to be a woman for any amount of time then makeup is a must.
Then there's the social aspect and the fact I'd hate to be a woman in some situations. That puts another nail in the coffin on going full time.
Kimberly, based on your avatar I have a hard time believing you'd pass as male.
Quote from: katiej on September 10, 2014, 01:31:48 AM
Kimberly, based on your avatar I have a hard time believing you'd pass as male.
BIG +1 I can't agree enough.
Quote from: stephaniec on September 09, 2014, 11:20:33 PM
skinny jean pockets are my worse nightmare
I wear skinny jeans all the time and I have resorted to putting stuff in my bag. When I'm driving it's so easy (and I keep my wallet out, for traffic stops) but getting out of the vehicle now how do I lug around my stuff? Keys, wallet, phones (carry 2) not to mention other stuff... And I used to make fun of my wife and her bottomless handbag lol.
when I'm just ducking down to the shops quickly, back pockets are your friend
Just the cost and - part of being a trans woman or a woman on HRT - the patch marks and skin irritation.
Other than that, I like everything. I was expecting to, but not this much. It makes me thankful most everyday in many ways. I had to lock up a guys loo at work the other day, and check there was nobody in it. Wow I had forgotten how much those things stink! I don't miss that at all! lol
Quote from: Kimberley Beauregard on September 10, 2014, 12:52:15 AM
Getting ready is an utter ballache. If I'm going to be a woman for any amount of time then makeup is a must.
Then there's the social aspect and the fact I'd hate to be a woman in some situations. That puts another nail in the coffin on going full time.
He he, there's no doubt that getting ready takes more time, but then I knew this before I signed up :D
Truly, there's nothing I dislike, never mind hate, about being female. Finally I am doing something I've wanted to do for over 20 years, and I accept what comes with it. As per my byline below :D
Quote from: katiej on September 10, 2014, 01:31:48 AM
Kimberly, based on your avatar I have a hard time believing you'd pass as male.
DISCLAIMER: that's actually not me, she's actress Keeley Hawes. However, I've been told I look very passable and I tend to wear "natural" makeup - it's always subtle and I often get told I look good.
Quote from: Kimberley Beauregard on September 10, 2014, 06:07:13 AM
DISCLAIMER: that's actually not me, she's actress Keeley Hawes. However, I've been told I look very passable and I tend to wear "natural" makeup - it's always subtle and I often get told I look good.
I have seen her real photo and she makes the actress in her avatar look ugly!! :)
I really don't hate anything about being a woman. I love putting on makeup and don't mind washing it off. Good makeup remover is a must tho. However, I do have a few pet peeves, and they are:
1. Guys that won't take "no" for an answer.
2. Eyeliner bugar's (the way eyeliner gravitates to the inside corner of your eye after a long day).
3. Society's Female Stereotypes.
Just minor annoyances and the good, the happiness of just being me far outweighs these few minor obstacles I've mentioned.
Best Wishes!
Ally :icon_flower:
Just today, my sister said "why are women so mean?" because she believes women go around sleeping with other's men, and that at least guys have a "bro code". This. I hate it soooo much. I was actually offended. Stereotypes, stereotypes and they're really meaningless. And also anyone who says women are more evil than men should check homicide statistics. Male-on-male crimes win by large. I'm not saying men are necessarily more evil than women, but they sure are no better.
I've been looking at this thread and sure there a e a bunch of pains but there is absolutely nothing I hate or dislike. Sure shaving is a pain but look at the results you get and the feeling. WHat? tweny minute extra in the shower or bath for all day smooth skin? Hair, yeah it is a pain but My Gawd, is it not worth the hassle? Makeup? Yeah that too is a pain but when you can look in the mirror and ask, "Is that really me? I looked totally different twenty minute ago." to me it is worth it.
So in short, there is absolutely nothing I hate or don't like. It's all worth it. Other than I feel fat sometimes. I feel like my butt is too big sometimes and not big enough other times. That my hair looks really messed sometimes and my hair is really messed up, curly all the time, but feel really insecure about it. To top it off when I ask my boyfriend, he lies and tells me I look fine, pretty, not fat and beautiful even. Freakin' liar. >:( ;D
Look, I didn't start this thread for any other reason than a little fun.
Its not what I really hate or dislike, I wouldn't give anything in my female life up, but they're little pains, things that we can bitch & complain about.
Quote from: Nicole on September 11, 2014, 12:52:49 AM
Look, I didn't start this thread for any other reason than a little fun.
Its not what I really hate or dislike, I wouldn't give anything in my female life up, but they're little pains, things that we can bitch & complain about.
Agree with you Nicole. So here are a few things totally out of my control that we can bitch about >:-):
Sidewalks and pavements: are none of them designed for women's shoes???? One of the most beautiful roads in Lisbon, Avenida de Liberdade, has paving made from broken ceramic tiles. Even men have trouble. Try it after a bit of rain, aaaaargh!
(On that subject, don't you just hate it when you're walking along in your heels and you step along a paving stone join and one of your ankles twists and you look like a bad ->-bleeped-<-?? Sigh. ;D )
Hotel bathroom mirrors and lighting: look, I know that most men can get totally dressed in the dark, right down to selecting clothing from the wardrobe. OK, they usually look terrible (if it wasn't for their wives, poor things!). But have you tried to do your makeup when you cannot get closer than 3 feet to the mirror, and even then, the bathroom lighting is worse than standing under a streetlight at midnight. (It's a comparison, you'll never find me under a streetlight at midnight - I would be at home in my fluffy slippers drinking cocoa - yeah, it's true!)
Women's restrooms, where the lock has long since broken and there's nowhere to hang a jacket or handbag. Now do this in winter, with a dress, long coat, handbag, and let's for comic effect say that it's one of those scuzzy places where the floor and seat are not to be touched under any circumstances! :o If you had 6 arms and hands you'd be fine...
So these are a few of my favourite things, tra la la la la.... :angel:
Hugs and humour
Julia
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Quote from: Julia-Madrid on September 11, 2014, 04:44:09 AM
Agree with you Nicole. So here are a few things totally out of my control that we can bitch about >:-):
Sidewalks and pavements: are none of them designed for women's shoes???? One of the most beautiful roads in Lisbon, Avenida de Liberdade, has paving made from broken ceramic tiles. Even men have trouble. Try it after a bit of rain, aaaaargh!
Lol, definitely! :D Pavements in Lisbon are not at all thought for women, which is a total shame. Walking in heels is very very tricky in Lisbon roads.
You've got to try Fed Square in Melbourne. I stay alway from there, shocking place
Quote from: Nicole on September 11, 2014, 06:42:33 AM
You've got to try Fed Square in Melbourne. I stay alway from there, shocking place
Hmmm, since my only friend living in Melbourne is moving to Sydney, I won't even be able to do the "indignant world traveller" thing in your city...
Uh, yea, I forgot to mention sidewalks and pavement, and flooring surfaces not designed for our shoes. Especially when wearing a pair of stilettos. I once sank my heels in blacktop in a parking lot they had just paved two days prior on a hot day. I was talking with a friend and didn't notice my left heel had sank in a little, and almost fell flat on my face when I tried to walk forward. Luckily my friend being a guy on the muscular side caught me before I fell. Needless to say I don't stand still on pavement wearing stilettos anymore and I'm very careful on sidewalks, and lawns if I'm wearing them. I've almost fell too many times.
Though the pavement thing was prolly a fluke circumstance, That experience has left me with a lil phobia, lol!
Ally :icon_flower:
Nothing, nada, zilch.
Probably the unwanted groping, sexual harassment, and intimidation.
Quote from: Julia-Madrid on September 11, 2014, 08:07:24 AM
Hmmm, since my only friend living in Melbourne is moving to Sydney, I won't even be able to do the "indignant world traveller" thing in your city...
You'll come to Melbourne, Sydney is just so over rated. If you love art, get to Melbourne, we have the best shopping in this part of the world as well.
But stay out of fed square. I know 3 people who have hurt themselves walking there.
They did it to stop people skating there.
Absolutely nothing.
Bumping this.
I'm in the middle of doing all my wine glasses getting ready for Election night drinks, music and BBQ (my friends and I have done it every election) and I'm having to spend 5 minutes on each glass because of lipstick.
My dishwasher, as great as it is for some reason misses the lipstick & gloss, so the glasses have to go through twice, then get done by hand.
Quote from: Nicole on November 28, 2014, 11:16:52 PM
Bumping this.
I'm in the middle of doing all my wine glasses getting ready for Election night drinks, music and BBQ (my friends and I have done it every election) and I'm having to spend 5 minutes on each glass because of lipstick.
My dishwasher, as great as it is for some reason misses the lipstick & gloss, so the glasses have to go through twice, then get done by hand.
Ahh the election night party - I do this as well, but obviously not today for SA.
But it reminds me of when my BF made a comment complaining that when a group of us gets together, the girls call each other to organise what food etc to bring for snacks. We are not spontaneous, was the complaint!
Yes sweetheart and the guys turn up and eat those snacks and drink the wine we organised each other to bring ::)
Oh an additional one - same vein!
Going camping with friends and none of the guys organising it the thought that maybe girls don't do too well having a wee behind a tree.
Quote from: Cindy on November 29, 2014, 12:49:16 AM
Ahh the election night party - I do this as well, but obviously not today for SA.
But it reminds me of when my BF made a comment complaining that when a group of us gets together, the girls call each other to organise what food etc to bring for snacks. We are not spontaneous, was the complaint!
Yes sweetheart and the guys turn up and eat those snacks and drink the wine we organised each other to bring ::)
I can't even remember sending the texts, but people are getting here in the next few minutes and the counting is underway, really disappointing election from both major parties.
also, Aussies will get this, the Sex Party would be a force if they changed their name.
Having to my makeup EVERY time before I go out xD It was fun at first but it's such a process. I'm not one of those "just a little bit of powder & mascara" kinds of girls. I wish I could be though because a full face of makeup just to go out sucks ass hole. Hmmm... That.. &... that's it lol I think I'm content with every other aspect of being the girl I am. :]
Having a fingernail break right when I manage to get it decently long. Even worse, having said broken finger nail snag and catch my socks or tights and leave a run or pull.
Quote from: kariann330 on September 09, 2014, 01:51:59 PM
Well most of my friends are giant perverts. Occasionally something can be said that you wouldn't take as sexual, such as my example of wanting to go home and pet my kitten, that they all twist into something that is sexual. In my example I was talking about my cat, 4 paws a tail and meows, they took it as petting my other cat with two lips and a clit.
Disclaimer although I'm not post op, my friends don't really care and act as if I am instead of still having the birth defect known as a penis.
Yep exactly the same for me, food is now a subject I can't talk about with them without it being sexual.
I dislike:
- those moments when greeting another girl and they want to kiss cheaks and I don't realise and go for my preferred hug greeting (I don't know the latter just seems so cold and reserved in comparison to a nice hug)
- Being too 'dainty' to jump in and spilt up dogs when an argument goes to far
- not being able to hide my emotions and seeming like a child when I sob over little things
- Needing to eat full meals to feel satisfied
- Guys being dishonest just to try and convince me to have sex with them
- having to pee every few hours and then having to both wipe and shake and then some still drips out making a wet patch
- not being able to be as alert and focused and also being clumsy and a bit dumb with simple physics
- dogs are always sniffing my crouch with cold and wet noses
- never being able to save any money or buying anything that will hold its value for more then a day
But isn't it all of that, that we love so much ??? Shoes, Clothes/Fashion, Makeup, Hair, Painting toes, Filing chipped nails, everything except toilet queues :laugh:
Can't wait to be fulltime :-* (But my thoughts could change :laugh:)
L Katy
Quote from: katrinaw on November 29, 2014, 06:45:01 AM
But isn't it all of that, that we love so much ??? Shoes, Clothes/Fashion, Makeup, Hair, Painting toes, Filing chipped nails, everything except toilet queues :laugh:
Can't wait to be fulltime :-* (But my thoughts could change :laugh:)
L Katy
Chipping nails is the only reason I get acrylics now, I'm fed up with growing only to chip, so I get acrylics, I get a very nude colour so they can be painted over, my current colour is salmon.
This week, after pulling 2 off I noticed a dint in my index nail, a little worrying.
lining up for the loo, get used to it.
You've got to plan, space your drinks, don't break the seal and go with a friend (need someone to talk to)
Shoes, I wore heels tonight, for the first time in months, my ankles are killing me. I never wear heels anymore.
I haven't started dressing en femme yet, but I'm not looking forward to clothing that comes in "sizes." Just give it to me in inches!
Growing out a pixie. How fast my hair grows and not being able to affordf a good dye. Not finding clothes that fit as I live in Philadelphia where women are, er, bit bigger and I'm tiny. Being treated like a baby if I get emotional when I have every right too. Nothing else really. Wait... I wear light makeup, do my nails myself (and don't like long nails) Having to wear a bra and now needing to buy all new ones as they are way too tight. Then finding a bra that is a 32D, which is harder than you think in my city. Being told I'm on my period. Guys groping me. Though, that doesn't happen so much anymore as I'm usually out with the BF. And then always wondering if said BF is going to leave me for a real "woman." especially since I am pre-op and getting the money together seems impossible.
Really, being a guy was a whole lot easier, but I am what I am and had to do what I did. Luckily, I don't have the heels or chipping nails problem, as I don't do mani-pedis or wear heels. Though, I can see myself succumbing to the temptation when I have the money. But the biggest problem (no pun intended) is my non-stop breast growth. They're so big for my frame, not in general, just for me. They look huge and I feel like I'm all boobs, hips and a butt. Especially since I wear skinny jeans and tight tops 24/7. I have a whole punk rock thing going on and my BF wants me to dress more demure and femme, as I don't pull off the hardcore look cause I'm too adorable looking (according to him).
And just men in general. I'm not allowed at their functions anymore. I get looked at like I'm nuts if I know anything about anything deemed masculine. Number one: still having to tell people I was born or assigned MAAB and having their jaws drop.
Muffin top...
God I hate that, HIDING the muffin top... Having people look at me like Im NUTS when I bitch about it....
Spending a whole day shopping and trying on clothes and shoes/boots only to buy nearly nothing.... Then what looked GREAT at the store always seems 50/50 at home and its a real accomplishment if it actually makes it into the rotation and gets worn... Having more clothes that I WONT wear than the few items I do wear.... I wont do heels or tights/hose dresses/skirts ever... WHY do they only look good when you try them on in the store but NEVER at home ??? Shoes... it seems if I really like them they are almost guaranteed to be uncomfortable OR they will have every size but mine ;( Come to think of it that applies to tops and just about everything else too :'(
Yes I actually have a love/hate deal with shopping, SO much work for me to find clothes I love...
My rule is I have to love it or I aint buying it... Oh yea same with jewelry, very hard to find quality at reasonable prices... I HATE cheap rings that turn my fingers blue and the plating lasts a week at most...
Shaving, I hate having to shave my body even though its a night and day difference now that T is gone and E rules... I wont allow it to get very long though.... Epilating is better but I hate the pain and all the little red dots... Its all light colored except my pits and pubes at least... Id gonna ask my laser girl about doing my pits at my next appointment Monday... Thank God my face is almost done...
Damn periods, PMS, cramps, etc.... hate it!
Having read all these posts, I have to say that one thing I hate about being female is having to hear how hard it is to be female. Of course, that's something I've heard all my life. And it's true that since I came out full-time, there are a number of things that are somewhat harder now than what I had to face in my old life.
But I don't care. Make harder if you like. Make it as hard as you want to. Because I'm never going back to my old life. As hard as this life might be, it's not nearly as hard as my old life was.
I mean, true, my nail polish chips depressingly often. But I do get to wear nail varnish now. And yes, make-up takes time to put on. But look at the result once it's on. And maybe my current clothing isn't as comfortable as what I used to wear. But it certainly does suit me better. And yes, I do get some misogynistic harassment on occasion. But that doesn't mean I want to be male. It just means I wish certain males would behave a bit better.
In short, add up all the complaints I have now, and maybe my new life is only 98% better than my old life, rather than 100%. Still not a bad swap.
As stated earlier I don't dislike anything about being a woman, however, I need to add to my pet peeves:
1. My monthly cycle. Yes, it's gotten less intense now that the hormone war within me is over and E is dominant, but it's still there and makes one week out of every month miserable.
2. Finding tops and dresses my size. I'm tiny built for my height of 5-5 and very short in the torso. So as a result most tops I find are way too long or just too big in general. Also my dress size is a 2 to 4, and while I can find this online easily here locally it's impossible to find those sizes or even a small/SP. Everything is a medium or bigger. I also have a problem locally finding jeans long enough for my legs that still fit me around the waist and hips.
3. And lastly and the worse is the perverts sending me photos of their private parts often times stimulated, over Skype and on Facebook. This is both disgusting and repulsive.
However that being said, I love the fact I'm female and wouldn't trade it for an instant. For me it was harder trying to be a guy than it is being a woman. For me being a woman comes natural. ;)
Ally :icon_flower:
Quote from: Allyda on November 29, 2014, 03:57:11 PM
As stated earlier I don't dislike anything about being a woman, however, I need to add to my pet peeves:
3. And lastly and the worse is the perverts sending me photos of their private parts often times stimulated, over Skype and on Facebook. This is both disgusting and repulsive.
However that being said, I love the fact I'm female and wouldn't trade it for an instant. For me it was harder trying to be a guy than it is being a woman. For me being a woman comes natural. ;)
Ally :icon_flower:
Why oh why do people abuse over social media? That's so gross! Feel for you :(
Sooooo with you on the last statement.
Ooh BTW Jeans for me (and I love 'em) are always too long in the leg... Parents to blame both had short legs :'(
By the way you look so demure in your pic, would die for those legs ;)
L Katy
Can't say I hate this but it does make me laugh in frustration sometimes.
Same shirt maybe cut a little different for boobs. Place the buttons on the other side and the price goes up by double if you're lucky.
Quote from: katrinaw on November 29, 2014, 04:22:42 PM
Why oh why do people abuse over social media? That's so gross! Feel for you :(
Sooooo with you on the last statement.
Ooh BTW Jeans for me (and I love 'em) are always too long in the leg... Parents to blame both had short legs :'(
By the way you look so demure in your pic, would die for those legs ;)
L Katy
Thanks Katy. My biological mom had long legs too. Trust me they can be a pain at times when trying to fit into tight places, lol! but otherwise, me legs are my best attribute. I wear wedges and heels a lot 4" and over that really make them stand out. Especially these new wedges I got for an early Christmas present. They're comfortable to wear and walk in too but I've never had a problem finding shoes as I have very narrow feet.
You look great and very happy in your Avatar pic too. I hope your having a great holiday weekend! :)
Ally ;)
1. Bras. I tend to avoid them when I can. Probably invented by a guy ! >:(
2. High heels. Can't walk on them, refuse to walk on them.
3. Being not taken seriously by men, and society in general.
Hi Allyda... Wedges are sooo comfortable, eh
L Katy
Makeup! I don't like makeup!
Good too Hanazono... but with short legs... need some lift ::)
L Katy
Quote from: katrinaw on November 30, 2014, 05:49:55 AM
Good too Hanazono... but with short legs... need some lift ::)
L Katy
^^___^^ Hey, even with long legs I like some lift!, lol! :D Looooove my wedges! ;)
Ally :icon_flower:
Quote from: Jaz650 on November 29, 2014, 10:59:31 PM
Makeup! I don't like makeup!
Me neither. However I'm just starting to explore it and I guess I can get used to it, but my avatar is sans makeup and I want to reach the point where I can pass without it. It will happen, just needs time (and hormones)
Quote from: ImagineKate on November 30, 2014, 01:59:20 PM
Me neither. However I'm just starting to explore it and I guess I can get used to it, but my avatar is sans makeup and I want to reach the point where I can pass without it. It will happen, just needs time (and hormones)
Wait...your not wearing makeup? OMG your skins looks great then....You had me fooled :o
Quote from: Jaz650 on November 29, 2014, 10:59:31 PM
Makeup! I don't like makeup!
I Love Makeup... just choose not to wear it unless I really need too :-*
L Katy
True, I also like most everything. My fave thing about being a woman is my relationships with my girlfriends!
Regarding things I truly hate, most of the things have to do with men. I imagine some of the things listed below may even appeal to someone who hasn't transitioned, but trust me they are real problems and differences that, sure enough, really do exist!
1) The surprise some men show when I display competence and intelligence. It's like they're seeing a magic trick or something. They don't believe it.
2) The emphasis on our looks, and the general idea that aging and older women aren't attractive anymore. Meanwhile men age and get more..."distinguished." HA.
3) Not being able to be friends with some guys. A guy might seem really cool, or you might just enjoy hanging out with them...but get TOO friendly and even a long-time guy friend might suddenly make a pass, which is really awkward and makes you fee like ->-bleeped-<-.
4) It is MY responsibility to consider that if I we speak more than a couple of sentences, guys might think we're into them.
5) Girls are way harder on other girls. Talking behind backs, giving misinformation. Ugh. It is possible even to be shunned by other girls. As in you do something wrong and they team up ignore you, leave you out... punish you. I am an adult even, but crap that hurts and is super effective.
6) Sometimes it can suck to be "such a girl". Not being able to hold back tears when you really want to, or being physically unable to perform some strength-requiring tasks. It also makes you realise how much stronger men are, that they CAN overpower you no matter how stubborn you might be...so you start to want to watch your own back, and worry about being home alone.
7) Being superior to men. Nah, j/k I don't hate that! ;D
Quote from: Ariel Renée on November 30, 2014, 08:42:47 PM
Wait...your not wearing makeup? OMG your skins looks great then....You had me fooled :o
Not really. The light makes it look that way. It was in bright sunlight. I have significant shadow in that one actually.
This one is how I look when I wake up in the morning:
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi1188.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fz403%2Frjairam%2FEEEF4447-D83B-44B3-9A0F-9E55AD9ECE7A_zpsdpmetacv.jpg&hash=68967d412453ffda0ba60eb7a2cff1399b833e28) (http://s1188.photobucket.com/user/rjairam/media/EEEF4447-D83B-44B3-9A0F-9E55AD9ECE7A_zpsdpmetacv.jpg.html)
I also have some marks from electrolysis but they fade in a week or two.
I really envy girls who can do proper makeup. I'm hoping I can get good at it. Next paycheck I'm probably going to sephora and asking for help.
Quote from: katrinaw on November 29, 2014, 06:45:01 AM
everything except toilet queues :laugh:
It's no laugh when in a toilet queue, I really hate those moments, there's never a toilet queue outside the mens, I'm bursting to go, what can a girl do, just take my place in the queue, it's worse this time of year in a shopping mall.
For me, it is picking out furniture. I seriously do not like leather couches: it's like sitting on a giant leather sneaker! LOL :P
bad hair day
Quote from: Cee Myk on December 01, 2014, 05:49:47 PM
For me, it is picking out furniture. I seriously do not like leather couches: it's like sitting on a giant leather sneaker! LOL :P
^^___^^ And smells about the same too, lol! :D
Ally ;)
Ikr. :D
Hmmm off topic, but; I love leather lounges / couches cool in the summer (when you first get on them)... easier to clean, tend not to stain so much... :P
L Katy
Lack of pockets. I still don't understand why pockets are on jeans other than for stuffing a few minor things in it. Sometimes I swear that women clothing is made because women are expecting some man to handle everything, or they just want to sell me a purse that I don't want.
That's another thing. I just don't get these expensive purses thing. Why spend $500 on a handbag? I don't get it. I must be a wretched bag lady to these women toting around expensive handbags when I buy mine at walmart :)
Hmmm lemme see... I have a couple more.
1. The fact that woman are supposed to be(have) a certain way.
2. The extreme focus on the body.
3. The age factor: being too old after 35. Ask men!
4. Earning less money, than males.
5. Lower status, not being taken seriously.
6. Always have to be the responsible one. Men are allowed to stay immature to in their forties, playing stupid games and be crybabies.
7. Being too emotional.
8. Coping with emotionally stunted men.
I ain't pleasing anyone. Especially men.
Quote from: Zumbagirl on December 02, 2014, 08:21:30 AM
Lack of pockets. I still don't understand why pockets are on jeans other than for stuffing a few minor things in it. Sometimes I swear that women clothing is made because women are expecting some man to handle everything, or they just want to sell me a purse that I don't want.
DAMN I forgot that one! I
reeeeeally hate that, it's up there near the top!
Then there's "fake pockets" too. ::)
Quote from: Zumbagirl on December 02, 2014, 08:21:30 AM
Lack of pockets. I still don't understand why pockets are on jeans other than for stuffing a few minor things in it. Sometimes I swear that women clothing is made because women are expecting some man to handle everything, or they just want to sell me a purse that I don't want.
That's another thing. I just don't get these expensive purses thing. Why spend $500 on a handbag? I don't get it. I must be a wretched bag lady to these women toting around expensive handbags when I buy mine at walmart :)
On this^^___^^, I really hated pocket bulges and carrying around just a wallet that never could hold enough things. So because of this even with pockets I never use them. Now that I carry around a purse being able to carry what I need with me is no longer an issue for me to worry about. My friend says my purse is a Black Hole I put so much stuff in it, lol! :D
As for purses, I'll spend anywhere from $20. to $100. on them depending on where I buy them, and how much I likey. Currently my most expensive is a leather purse from Calvin Klin. There's nothing wrong with Wal-Mart purses, I currently have two. A lot of women get purses there as they are decent quality and reasonable. :)
Ally ;)
I absolutely love this string. Being a woman feels so right but it has its challenges. Hugs Shannon
I love my hair. I miss being able to get out of the shower and fix it in under a minute.
What drives me crazy is the sizing of clothes. In guy's clothes XL is XL but in a girl's world XL can go from medium to 5X with the way it fits. The same with a bra cup. A is not A depending on the manufacture. Another that was mentioned was the prices of purses.
But I do love the unlimited variation in clothing that guys just don't have. I love smooth legs and panties. I also love having my nails polished.
Heather
Being treated like a child. It was one thing before HRT. I looked like a child. It's quite another to have people do that when I'm 50.
I dislike feeling like I always need to be concerned over my safety. Being out at night, alone, makes me feel nervous now. I try to avoid going out at night now, unless I really need to. Whereas before transition, I had no problem running out in the middle of the night to grab a few things from the store. And regardless of the time of day, I always lock the doors as soon as I get into my car now - something I never did as a man.
I feel like I lost a lot of my freedom to go about wherever and whenever I wanted.
The effort it takes to manage longer hair is sometimes a pain and flyaway hairs in the wind are somewhat maddening. The need to pull my bangs to the side and put my hair behind my ears when i am bending over, picking something up etc is sometimes a pain. Solving all that with bobbie pins etc takes time and i am not that good at it. (although the mannerism of putting my hair behind my ear is feminine, and i like it often)
Being interrupted in conversations by men.
Being taken less seriously by some.
Subtle misogyny and sexual harassment directed toward me. The latter happens on the streets more and more.
Just day to day stuff, that has always irked me:
My hair. I like it long-ish and neat looking . The elements are determined to drag me through a hedge backwards on some days.
Hair bobbles. I just think, oh, my daughter has had them all. Or I can only find ones in Frozen colours. Brilliant.
Being belittled. In my last job, If I was out my office doing something - I'd sometimes get a client who would say "Oh I'm looking for Atom - I think their your boss". Now, I'd either shoot them down there and then, or go "Oh come this way, have a seat. Then sit down behind my desk and say "Hi, I'm Atom, Operations Manager..." and extend my hand. The looks were priceless.
The whole celeb-zamg magazines/news some of my friends / lots of ladies like. "Did you see Beywest-Lo's rear in that dress this morning?" No. I had a light work out on my punch bag before my daugther runs in ready to cause hell another day.
The four absolutely worse things are:
1. Getting all nicely dressed up with a smart dress, ultra sheer stockings or tights etc, then as you get in you bf car catching your stock igs on the door frame and a ladder appearing (or worse still it happening as your exit the car arriving at a party).
2. Getting your nails done, then the nail technician makes you wait for 15 minutes until they are dry. She comments that the colour looks gorgeous on you and says - don't forgot don't do anything to smudge them until they harden for the next couple of hours. You arrive at your car, open the door, star to retrieve the keys from your handbag, turn on the engine and woe and behold you have chipped the gorgeous nails already!
3. Leaving the ladies room and another women say dearie you are caught up, pointing to your backside ! skirt stuck into the panti hose
4. No matter how hard I try I just cannot get eyeliner in a straight line on my lower or upper eyelids. The only saving grace is QTips with some cleansing lotion. Mind you when you have redone it 3-4 times then its time to forget the eyeliner!. Pity though as it always looks really great when done properly.
Judith
Without a doubt it's my trying to fit into the frame of every gorgeous model out there while still having shoulders that seem widish to me and a flatter chest.
Boiler breakdown cover cold call. 'Hi, I'm looking for Mr or Mrs X'. Speaking (didn't say which).
Off he went. I'm quite happy with my provider, I said. Talked right over me. He happens to know that provider charges £22 a year, while his lot charge £14. So 'you could get a nice little pair of shoes with the difference'.
What, for £8? F off.
Quite sweet but God.
Having to shave my legs (and toes and arms and fingers).
Having to bother with my hair, like, at all. I'd rather just tie it back and wear a cap and get on with my day.
Not being able to just get up and go straight out.
That passing as female isn't a realistic option - more exactly I have limited time on this earth. While I'm glad to be addressing transitioning at long last I really can't be arsed to **wear a wig, shave and makeup daily (or spend hundreds of hours, thousands of $ in the electrologist's chair) etc** when my work involves hard physical labor in a hot environment more days than not (Safety regs also preclude wearing dresses in virtuallyall of my work spaces even if I chose passing).
That shaving my legs actually makes wearing stockings harder (stubble seems to catch on the material and ratchet them lower as I move).
Pants without (useful) pockets, difficulty finding tops that fit at all, let alone well.
If I love the beasts I'm gaining, and glad that a climbing harness loaded with gear no longer slips over my butt, I'm on the verge of no longer fitting into mine and not looking forward to having to buy another if my hips continue to grow.
That my partner isn't attracted to females? I'm not at all sure I believe this. She's chosen me through thick and thin for 18 years of me being femme in her presence and has repeatedly said she's glad I'm not a typical guy. In unguarded moments she's very clearly elected to play with women sexually; it's when she's thinking about it that she shies away from being lesbian.
Having to figure out my sex drive all over again. It took me a long time to get to a point where I could mostly reconcile being in a male body and find ways to be feminine in sex that didn't involve a conscious suspension of disbelief.
Quote from: Apples Mk.II on September 09, 2014, 05:34:29 AM
- Wearing a bra, specially a push-up wired bra
this is so true!
dealing with lipstick . I love cosmetics , but lipstick no because its a never ending moment by moment process. I put on my lashes and my pencil and I'm good for the day.
One thing that I dislike about being a female is while being on HRT, that annoying, hip / pelvic ache that you sometimes get, especially when going to bed. Like you can actually feel your hips spreading and you need to crack the bone like how you crack your fingers.
Quote from: Aria94 on September 17, 2016, 11:29:31 AM
that annoying, hip / pelvic ache that you sometimes get
???
i havent experienced that....
Whacking into things (mainly door jams, card doors etc. ) with my boobs and the resulting pain.
Be careful girls. Our breasts are precious.
nothing much but i do hate getting my car serviced they always try to sell my unnecessary repairs and that never happened before transition . other than that i am very happy best decision i ever made being female saved my life
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I do not do make-up often. I can get it done in five or 10 minutes when I do.
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As for your abundant use of toilet paper, allow me to introduce you to the bidet; much cleaner than toilet paper. If you don't have a bidet hose, then install one to a T-joint to your bathroom hot water line. Or go low-tech and keep a 2-liter soda bottle filled with water at the ready.
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I hate myself.
Quote from: EmilyMK03 on August 04, 2016, 12:22:14 AM
I dislike feeling like I always need to be concerned over my safety. Being out at night, alone, makes me feel nervous now. I try to avoid going out at night now, unless I really need to. Whereas before transition, I had no problem running out in the middle of the night to grab a few things from the store. And regardless of the time of day, I always lock the doors as soon as I get into my car now - something I never did as a man.
I feel like I lost a lot of my freedom to go about wherever and whenever I wanted.
I'm just starting transitioning and on occasion go out in skirts/heels/tunics etc and without a doubt I'm very aware of every person on the street. I don't care about being outed or comments (I don't really pass at all) it's that I'm a target, since I'm physically small and vulnerable.
The cute clothes stop at size 14. I am an 16/18.
Being 6' tall and trying to find pants. Being broad shoulders and trying to find tops that are fitted so they don't look like I am wearing a bag.
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