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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: justkaty on September 16, 2014, 04:51:53 PM

Title: Policing of Gender Roles & Norms
Post by: justkaty on September 16, 2014, 04:51:53 PM
How do you respond to people that police adherence to gender roles and normative behavior?
Title: Re: Policing of Gender Roles & Norms
Post by: Sammy on September 16, 2014, 04:58:16 PM
With polite, yet firm ignorance.
Title: Re: Policing of Gender Roles & Norms
Post by: Jess42 on September 16, 2014, 04:59:50 PM
Quote from: justkaty on September 16, 2014, 04:51:53 PM
How do you respond to people that police adherence to gender roles and normative behavior?

Well, I just flip 'em the bird or stare right back just as hard as they do. If you really feel like stirring the pot, flirt with them. You may be surprised at the response you get. But never put yourself in danger though.
Title: Re: Policing of Gender Roles & Norms
Post by: Myarkstir on September 16, 2014, 05:05:20 PM
This image expresses my answer to them

(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.pet-happy.com%2Ffiles%2Fup%2F2013%2F02%2Fcat-showss-his-butt.jpg&hash=9d05781e0d43c071e60ddf52423152f894c2fa64)
Title: Re: Policing of Gender Roles & Norms
Post by: Dread_Faery on September 16, 2014, 06:04:07 PM
It depends on the context of the policing, in the street it's just another form of harassment and reaction depends on situation. If I feel threatened I'll get out of the situation, if I don't I might retort.

In the online environment I am perfectly capable of wielding words as weapons and sometimes do pick fights. I am quite capable of being prickly in the extreme if I want to be.
Title: Re: Policing of Gender Roles & Norms
Post by: TashaEve on September 16, 2014, 06:08:43 PM

Unfortunately I think I am the biggest policewomen around my own gender norms. If I can't relax, then I'm always looking for things I am doing 'wrong.'
Used to be a lot worst when I was trying to pass as male though.