so this is just from my stance, and i am grateful for my family of course, but since i came out in 2012, i feel they support me but reluctantly. my mother, who has only gone with me twice to doctors appointments and whose main concern is making sure i pay my copays, seems only half interested in what im doing as a woman. My sister i could care less about since shes a stud and lives like a man or whatever i dont care because i see her as how she looks now not how she looked then. my dad has been in prison basically my whole adolescent life and i told him but i could honestly care less about his opinion also since he forced me to live as a man. my grandparents my cousins all of them to me just "tolerate" me and i think its soo fake. so i feel i should take what they give because alot of transpeople dont have there families to even talk to. i never made alot of friends in school, none that even lasted up until this point, so i feel many of the half relationships i have are bittersweet pills to swallow to keep from losing it all together. i just want to know how its going with other people like is it just me "moning out" or am i right aboth them? opinions PLEASE!!!!!!
Hey honey, I don't have much to say, but here I go. Two of the few that I came out are my parents, and I have been reject pretty hard by them. They kind of prefer to have never had children than have a mtf daughter. If I let them, they will force me to live as a normal man, because they think that I'm ruining my life and want to prevent me to do so (In my mother's mind, if try to be a girl, I'll never find a job, a girlfriend, never be passable or respect by people and she fears it, as I do). I know that they love me, and I think that you know in you heart if you family loves you, for me, love is the start of acceptation. May be you mother is worried about you, that's why she seems to be so reluctant, may be she wants to support her growing daughter but has the same fears that my mom's have. Try to take it easy with her, it's not easy to her too.
I know that feeling when people seems to just tolerate us, it's kind of disgusting, but you can keep giving a second chance, may be someday It will change. People are not prepared for change, to accept the different, they need time to it, we need to learn this, and give that time.
We all have different experiences with acceptance and rejection. Some are total rejection. Some are a mixed bag of some sort, like myself. Some are lukewarm acceptance, like you. And some are acceptance and love.
You cannot allow your happiness to depend on what others think, say, and do. Even family. You need to focus on your own life, find the people who lift you up, who support you, and who believe in you. You also need to let go of those who try to drag you down. Yes, even family. I'm not saying shut the door on them, just move on with your life. They have a choice - to be involved with and support you or to be left behind. It's not up to you to decide for them, nor is it healthy for you to depend on their opinions.
Go, live your own life, be yourself. Find new friends who really support you. And if old friends or family really care, they'll be there. And if they aren't there? Then no matter what they say verbally, they never really cared, did they?