So i am defiantly new to the whole transition process and it kills me the leaps,bounds the hoops and obstacles we have to jump through to be OURSELVES like the system is truly f***ed. I am twenty three and came out as gay when i was like thirteen. I initially told my sister i was trans when i was 16 and didn't actually come out completely until this year after leaving an extremely volatile relationship. however i digressed ....so i went to start HRT and I've been seeing a therapist for a short stint of time because the one prior to that had vanished ..lol welllll when i did my consultation for HRT they set a follow up appointment which was today ..when i got there today they now want a letter from my therapist with a 6 month time line of how long I've been discussing the fct that i feel like i am a trans women.... WTFFFFF this has to be sent BEFORE he will schedule another appointment to see me... do you know how HARD it is to find an endocrinologist in DC Maryland or Virginia it took me a month to find this jack@ss and then i had to wait another month for and appointment ..theres your HISTORY right there DOCTOR jack@ss ..you name one MAN patient enough to wait for something i was suppose to be born a women .. ..now give me my HORMONES dammit
I feel for you as I have been there myself sweetie. Letters of recommendation are starting to become hard to get and mandatory due to post transition regret and lawsuits. Surely there is a planned parenthood, GLBT center or an informed consent clinic somewhere near you? We all have to jump through these hoops, but eventually we get to the end goal. Try to have some patience and relax because there is not much more than that you can do. Transition does not happen overnight, but just when you think it has stalled you will see how far you have really progressed. Hang in there love! :)
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Welcome to Susan's :) Great to have you here - looking forward to seeing you around the forum.
Yes, there are plenty of hoops to jump through. You'll get there soon!
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Grace
Hi there. It's nice to find another person who tried the gay thing before getting to what we really needed to do! I totally sympathise with your situation -it's miserable to have to confront so many obstacles, and why doesn't officialdom get its act together?!
But we find ourselves on a road very much less travelled, and in my experience it's infinitely better to approach the challenges with grace and humour. Not only will it make people more willing to help you, but it will keep you healthier and less stressed. Heaven knows how many things can stress a girl in transition, so breathe out and just let it go.
An example: I flew to London a few weeks ago to request and get my female passport. I planned it meticulously based on the careful consultation I had done. And it turns out the Passport Office had hideously misinformed me - sorry, no passport for you, girlie. I wanted to burst into tears, but I thanked the consultant for her help and spent a happy weekend with my sister and nephews. I will win in round two...
You will get there girl...
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Julia
The time passes faster than you may think hun, be patient. It is worth it in the end, at least you are still young. At 38 I consider myself to be going into this late since I have known for almost 20 years what I needed to do, but things have a way of working out the way they were meant to be; because I delayed my transition I now have 2 beautiful kids!
Welcome to Susan's family.
Check around the Baltimore area.
Everyone has trouble finding help. So when it us found we have to satisfy each doctors own requirements.
As said relax it's a very long path we walk. But it us worth the effort in the end.
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thank you guys for all the wonderful advice it is so lovely to have people here that understand the frustrations and obstacles, although family is sometimes so supportive they never truly understand the frustration and shame attached to having to wait even longer than originally anticipated. So its nice to know i am not the only one who sometimes feels like crying or hiding . but at the end of the day as was said time will fly .and in the mean time i can continue doing the pre steps laser hair removal saving for surgery and shopping like crazzzyyy ...lol thank a lll of you lovely ladies for FABULOUS advice