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Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: Gothic Dandy on September 24, 2014, 09:28:32 PM

Title: Stuff Spouses/Significant Others Say
Post by: Gothic Dandy on September 24, 2014, 09:28:32 PM
I saw a "stuff parents say" thread, and one other one that I can't remember, so I thought I would make another one so that I could share this gem:

"I support you being your true self, and not hiding who you really are."

Really? That's wonderful!

"When you bind your chest, you're hiding a part of who you really are."

...

Pardon me while I cradle my head in my hands for a moment.

What are some really uncool things your partners have said to you about your transition or identity?
Title: Re: Stuff Spouses/Significant Others Say
Post by: Jessica Merriman on September 24, 2014, 09:39:25 PM
Them: Your growing breast's. So this is a serious thing?
Me:  :eusa_doh:
Title: Re: Stuff Spouses/Significant Others Say
Post by: mac1 on September 24, 2014, 09:48:36 PM
Not said to me about me - but feels that it is totally wrong.
Title: Stuff Spouses/Significant Others Say
Post by: ImagineKate on September 25, 2014, 07:44:29 AM
Mine said this to me today: "you don't even look like yourself anymore."

Me: "actually it's quite the opposite. I do."

Background: I'm grooming and dressing differently now and she's noticing. I badly do want to fully come out but lack the courage.
Title: Re: Stuff Spouses/Significant Others Say
Post by: Chris R. on September 25, 2014, 08:26:21 AM
When I still didn't talk to anyone about my dysphoria, I told my partner that I would have loved to be born as a guy. They told me "I prefer you as a woman."
A lot of stuff has happened between us and now, they can't see me as a woman anymore and love me as a guy completely. They even told me it was kind of weird for them to see that I didn't have anything down there!
Title: Re: Stuff Spouses/Significant Others Say
Post by: OlderTG on September 25, 2014, 10:33:09 AM
So very common among wives... "I'm NOT a lesbian!"

also, "If you PROMISE not to transition, maybe we can do something with the marriage." And when I finally told her I couldn't promise that I'd never transition she took that as I was going to transition immediately...