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Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Male to female transsexual talk (MTF) => Topic started by: Lostkitten on September 25, 2014, 01:10:56 PM

Title: Guys
Post by: Lostkitten on September 25, 2014, 01:10:56 PM
In the Netherlands it happens a lot that when there is a group of people, you call them with 'guys'. Even if half of the group is girls, they say guys. At the end of the sentence people often stop their sentence by saying 'man'.

Does this bother any of you if this also happens in other countries? Or not so much? It does bother me even if I know it doesn't has to do anything with my gender.. and I want to get rid of those unneeded frustrations > _ <.
Title: Re: Guys
Post by: ImagineKate on September 25, 2014, 01:18:00 PM
It's fairly common in the USA.
Title: Re: Guys
Post by: stephaniec on September 25, 2014, 01:22:52 PM
I like " what up dog "
Title: Re: Guys
Post by: Delsorou on September 25, 2014, 01:30:55 PM
At least in the western US, this happens all the time.  I do it to other trans people of either gender in meetings, even, and they to the rest of us.

I've considered it, and I must say that by and large it appears to have evolved into a gender neutral slang and I accept that usage.  It's much more polite to say "you guys" than "you people".

Also, I cite the first song of Legally Blonde the musical as evidence: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mILEnI5cZmw (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mILEnI5cZmw)

:laugh:
Title: Re: Guys
Post by: Foxglove on September 25, 2014, 03:24:11 PM
I know that "you guys" is gender-neutral, but I still don't like hearing it.  I'm not gender-neutral.
Title: Re: Guys
Post by: Jess42 on September 25, 2014, 03:38:45 PM
It's more common than not to call a group "guys" in the US.
Title: Guys
Post by: MacG on September 25, 2014, 03:42:53 PM
Super common in Oregon. I try to avoid it if I know some of my audience is mtf. I ends up saying "folks" a lot, which is a little odd.
Title: Re: Guys
Post by: Ms Grace on September 25, 2014, 03:52:07 PM
Happens in Australia too. Not uncommon for a group of women to be called "you guys". I know that some cis women don't like it much either,
Title: Re: Guys
Post by: Jill F on September 25, 2014, 04:07:55 PM
I belong to an all women's group where we gather at dive bars in the LA area every so often.   We are collectively referred to as "you guys" more often than "you girls".

"You guys want another pitcher?"
"You guys want to try the bar next door?"
"You guys OK to drive?"
"You guys think that bartender is hot?"

No big deal.  I'm the only trans chick and I don't take offense, nor do any of the other feminists or lesbians.  We're just there to let off steam.
Title: Re: Guys
Post by: Cassie Soup on September 25, 2014, 07:09:49 PM
Around my area, people use the phrase guys and man quite often, I even have a friend that refers to his girlfriend as man, I dont mind the term guys but I dont like it when someone refers to me as man no matter the situation.
Title: Re: Guys
Post by: Foxglove on September 26, 2014, 02:44:48 AM
I've seen a fair bit of American basketball, and I've noted that even in the women's game they play "man-to-man" defence.  You'll also hear a female coach saying about an opposing player, "She's a great player.  We had to keep a man right with her the whole game."  A bit odd, but nobody seems to mind.