When I spoke to my Doctor, I told him that my choice due to age and looks and changes (lack of) and other reasons,
makes me feel that a full transition is really not my choice.
He said that he has clients who do this for there own personal reasons and they are doing extremely well.
I personally have no desire to transition. I know that I would NEVER pass from male to female. And my doctor
is totally ok with this and we talked about it and he agrees in my case.
What are you thoughts, do any of you know someone like me? Please don't judge me. I am not looking
for negative comments.
Ginger
Your choice is your choice. There are plenty of others on the forum who have done likewise, hopefully they'll drop in to answer you.
Thank You Ms. Grace... :angel:
I really had no idea there were others like me.
because my own form of trans isn't recognized as worthy of medical treatment, and i have very feminine features, i can't even hope to present as my actual gender. which is why i'm also not coming out to anyone yet.
i'm still able to live rather happily and at peace with myself, for i have at least accepted who i am, and the reasons why i am having to express myself in other ways than through transition for the time being.
if you don't feel like social transition is the right thing for you, then you just don't do it. whether you want to try hormone therapy or other medical treatment to lessen discomfort, is also up to you. i will take you for whoever you say that you are, independently of whether or not you choose to transition.
I know there are several members, by choice or circumstance that are non-transitioning as well. Be sure to stop by the subforum (in case you missed it) for non/de transitioning at https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/board,487.0.html . Nobody here will judge you as we all have our path to walk and you need support and comradery as anyone else would.
I too will never transition and am happy accept that. I have learned that I can live a happy life as a woman presenting as a man. Yes, there are times that it can be frustrating, but I prefer to be a woman in a man's body than not to be a woman at all.
The choice to transition or not is completely yours.
After six years of HRT I am still, perhaps even more so, "On the fence" Much like Taka said, after a lot of hard work I am actually at a place where I am happy being in my own skin. Best of all is loosing much of the shame and guilt about being trans and FINALLY being able to look at my life and feel that I do deserve and have rightfully earned all the things in it that I value.
My pre-jurasaic age, a wife, and a totally fun career are the big considerations affecting my transition indecision. I am mostly at point where I feel I don't "need" to. (Or is that the fear talking?) I also mostly at a point where I know where my true joy lies. But is it worth the potential cost? Life is complicated so no easy answers.
Why we do, or not do, things is only for us to ultimately decide. Funny thing about people, they always find it far far easier to tell other people how they should fix their lives. Certainly easier then fixing your own life.
Ultimately you do what's best for yourself.
I see myself as a diamond in the rough but I know there will be challenges.
I want full transition but I will probably start off low dose. It all depends on what my therapist says and how I feel.
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Why we do, or not do, things is only for us to ultimately decide. Funny thing about people, they always find it far far easier to tell other people how they should fix their lives. Certainly easier then fixing your own life.
This is so well spoken Joanne! Wish everyone thought this way.
Hugs Ginger, no-one will judge you or give negative comments.
I struggle with just how far I will go. I balance how I feel with each small victory. I hope at some point to find peace with myself. I do know I feel much better than prior to starting transition and I know the direction is correct.
The highest paid CEO is a trans woman. She presents in public Andro. Some of the things I picked up from her interview was confidence, secure and well adjusted.
Ultimately, I hope you fine peace with yourself.
I've chosen not to have the surgery because I have no desire for it. People have been good to me and I am happy :) as I am.
:)
I feel better from all your comments.
My HRT is going well and like i said I have no desire to transition.
I am happy on my on my hormones and love the results...
I can't wait to see more results and see how far I can go.
thank you all so much...
Ginger.