So, I'm sitting in German, doing whatever, since I finished all my work in here for the day, and I check my phone. My mother (who went really overboard when I came out as trans*) texted me and said "I talked to one of the guys here who goes to ICC (Local community college that I've applied at.) He said they are very backwards about transgender. He said the W (Mississippi University for Women) is a good college." Then, I get another one, after a bit of conversing about colleges that says: "He said you can say you identify as male but it's still frowned upon by the hicks."
I, honestly, don't know what to say. I mean, I'm not complaining, I'm just reeling from shock, almost. She goes from wanting to give me shock therapy to "block the thoughts" from my mind, and calling me "Freakenstein," to telling me this stuff. I'm happy, but it was a total surprise to me. I'm still not sure what to do or say.
It's progress, just go with it and see how she is in a few day. ;D
Don't be surprised if she vacillates between the two.
I feel like telling you to go to a women's college when you identify as male is hardly progress, but I don't know enough about the situation either, I suppose.
The trouble with texting is it's spur of the moment and very fast. You maybe need something to slow things down (perhaps for both of you). The other thing is that she may need more time to sort of deal with this. Even with people who do eventually get it, many of them do not get it overnight and sort of mourn for their lost sons or daughters (as the case may be).
It doesn't sound too promising (esp the Frankenstein and shock therapy) but I've heard of other people with just as bad beginnings where things turned out okay. Hang in there buddy.
--Jay
Yes, that is right, it often takes time to take it all in and be okay with things.
Someone wise told me once, Give a person as much time to accept someing new about you, as it took for you to change in there eyes.