how do you guys feel when you get them? (or how did you feel if you don't have them anymore because you take T and/or had a hystorectmy). I got mine today and it makes me feel sort of deppressed, but I don't feel like I want to die like I've heard some ftms describe. I'm not sure whether I want T at some point and I feel like stopping my period would be a plus, but then again I don't think anyone who has periods really likes them (unlees their worried about whether their pregnant I guess) so maybe how I feel about mine has nothing to do with being trans...
I'm due to start T later this month. I honestly can't stand getting them. They make me feel weird. I get very moody and unpleasant to be around. I can't wait for the T to finally stop them from coming. I really can't take it anymore.
Initially when I got my 1st one I was majorly depressed as it was like the nail in coffin saying now your a woman. However, when I was pre-T they didn't seem to bother me, but now that I'm on T it would bother me a lot if they came back.
I never like getting mine and look to the day when i can start T to end them. When I got my first it was just one more way of saying I was not like the boys, my chest had just started to enlarge too. I get cramps for a day before I start each month which just adds to my dysphoria every month. I hate blood flowing out of me that I can't control, I use tampons which helps that I don't have to see and feel pads down there. I use the men's restroom now so I do have to change them in there some days when I have a heavy flow. I have never liked mine at all.
I can't deal with the smell mostly, both the smell of it and the products to deal with it. The smell of the products seems to stay on my hands and follows me everywhere, even after I've washed them. It normally makes me shake with dysphoria and discomfort. The whole thing normally leaves me craving for a way of escape, and doesn't help my issue with alcohol.
I never used to be this bad, although I have always hated them. The more it happens the worse my reaction to it gets.
i've always hated getting my period, and i never really fully understood until i realised i was trans. luckily mine only last 3-4 days but whenever i know one is coming up i always get really nervous and often pretty depressed, it really sucks. its one of the main attractions to be about going on T tbh
Always hated the painful things from the first time. Had a hysto in 2009 so that's been great.
I hate my period, but for the inconvenience, not because it affects my gender identity at all. It does feel a little awkward having one now that I think of myself as male, though. It's like I'm both.
I know of some groups of women who LOVE menstruation as a symbol of their womanhood. It's a huge part of their identity, the fact that they bleed every month. Personally, I think most cis women feel like I do!
I never cared so much in regards to my identity, but I've been without them for nearly three years so I would probably feel different now. I never had bad cramping save for a few occasions, it was mostly just inconvenient since I was always really active. When I first started when I was 9, it was terrifying. I was raised by mostly men and I thought I was dying. My best friends dad was the one who explained to me what was happening.
I hate my period. When mine is on, I try not to think about it. I just try to bleed it out as soon as possible.
I have twisted it in my head as the bleeding being a "manly" thing, or something along those lines. Somehow I just don't see it as the same process/having the same purpose, as my girlfriend's (and other women's), periods.
Somehow I reframed it. I see it more as this blood pouring out of me periodically that I have to take care of, rather than it being connected to being a woman with reproductive capacity.
It is an annoyance, but somehow I just see what my girlfriend experiences (her menses) as a whole separate issue/thing...not the same as to what goes on with me (bleeding) periodically. Weird, I know, but it works.
Mine will stop at some point, now that I am on T.
I hate it, always have. My dysphoria skyrockets and I also have endometriosis, so the cramps are pretty bad.
Sorry, this may be tmi (don't read on if you don't want to hear about the "product" I use)....
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... the dysphoria has decreased a little for me since I started using those silicone cups. I just shove it in and forget about the crap for the rest of the day.
I do worry that some people would take my gender less seriously if I uttered the words "I'm on my period", and it is an annoying reminder that I'm not a cis man - or at least haven't transitioned to the point of not having to deal with them. But beyond that.. menstruating has never been a big source of dysphoria for me.
Honestly, I'm more dysphoric about things going in than things coming out (with the exception of childbirth). Which, unfortunately, means I'm unable to use tampons. ::)
Quote from: Brett on October 01, 2014, 10:11:33 PM
I have twisted it in my head as the bleeding being a "manly" thing, or something along those lines. Somehow I just don't see it as the same process/having the same purpose, as my girlfriend's (and other women's), periods.
Somehow I reframed it. I see it more as this blood pouring out of me periodically that I have to take care of, rather than it being connected to being a woman with reproductive capacity.
It is an annoyance, but somehow I just see what my girlfriend experiences (her menses) as a whole separate issue/thing...not the same as to what goes on with me (bleeding) periodically. Weird, I know, but it works.
Mine will stop at some point, now that I am on T.
Actually, that's a very interesting way to view it, and I wanted to thank you for that. I had never viewed it outside of a reproductive thing, but the fact that you're able to see it that way is pretty dang cool. In the event that I end up with them again (a possibility with my current situation) I think I may try and think in the same terms.
I used to have some morbid fascination with the blood while I was on it, but was relieved when it was over and would spend the rest of the month forgetting it happened.
I really hate having mine and always have. They're just really inconvenient and I think I've always viewed mine as completely unnecessary since I know I don't ever want to be pregnant.
The products you have to use are another issue. I hate going down the aisle to get them in the supermarket. Just feels wrong. Like someone else said, I don't like things being inserted, so I'm stuck with pads.
Once I worked out I was trans my thoughts about periods just seemed to make so much more sense.
They were a terrible thing when I still had them but I managed to develop my own kind of attitude towards them which made my reactions go from "OH NO, NOT AGAIN" to "...well s*it, let's just get this over with". I suppose I would've gone crazy if I had spared too many thoughts to them.
I go through a denial phase until the cramps set in and then I'm just moody and intolerable and I hate it. It's so humiliating. Most of the time I can pretend what's going on down there isn't what it is until something so obviously female starts happening. I can't wait to start T or get hysto. Both hopefully.
On the bright side I feel like I have a higher pain tolerance than most cis men. Me and some buddies all got tattoos at the same time and they were all like "This sucks owe!" and whining and I was just like so what? lol I deal with worse pain than this three days of every month. So I felt totally badass for being able to sit there without flinching which was cool. When I'm really down I just try to remember that feeling.
I didn't mind that much pre-T but the two I've had on T so far were disappointing because I know some guys who start T and never bleed again. I was hoping that would be the case for me, but nah. It's not like...so bad I can't deal tho
I noticed I am also more grossed out by my period blood then I was before and don't want to get it on my hands...
Hate them so much. I want to use a.. *trigger warning*
..cup but it's too dysphoria inducing and I can't get the damn thing to fit no matter what fold used. Oh well. *sigh*
Quote from: kdbrrw on October 04, 2014, 03:10:17 PM
I didn't mind that much pre-T but the two I've had on T so far were disappointing because I know some guys who start T and never bleed again. I was hoping that would be the case for me, but nah. It's not like...so bad I can't deal tho
Those guys must have been super lucky. Most guys that I know that started T said it took them a couple months. One can only hope they will stop as soon as the T starts to kick in.. ;-;
Guess I am on the lucky side, Mine are weird maybe its because of my T level and the fact that its going up the more I lift weights, I am pre T but I have a 2 day period and then rest is just spotting, But I keep forgetting about them until I get cramps.
Yeah mine are usually only 2 days and then spotting also. Last time there was almost 0 spotting after though. It used to be 5-6 days though with severe cramps. But then I cut added sugars out of my diet by a lot (not easy to do) and it just made all the difference (also cleared up acne) But how it affects me... I get extremely dysphoric. It's not so much the bleeding that bothers me as much as the things you need to keep it clean (pads or tampons). I won't get into any detail lol so I'll leave it at that. I kinda dissociate from what happens. But man... pads and tampons just make me buckle over sometimes from dysphoria. It's bad. I can't really handle it.
As hart said in her video about Mother Nature,
'I don't know why I have to pay to bleed!'
Literally, I feel your period is payday for the brand of pad/tampon you use.
But on a serious note, even Pre-T I can't STAND my period. I don't get cramps anymore like I used to but I get easily annoyed and honestly moody. It's not really because of the period itself, in all honesty I get a LITTLE moody but not moody and weird cravings, but it's because I realize I'm still a freaking female! I usually skip because of track season with is heaven and hell. Heaven because I skipped, yay! Don't have to actually be a girl! Hell because if I get it next month, it's not only heavier and lasts longer, but I then get very irritable and not good ole me the guys can wrestle and fight with. Ugh!!!! It sucks!
I have found one way to deal with it however. I usually wear my boxers over my underwear and go with it like that. Upside is, it's winter so I don't mind the warmth. Sucks in the summer though, gets hot but at least I don't have to deal with awkward staring in public when they notice that guy wearing panties!
But being on my period causes serious issues when I'm in the city and trying to pass as a guy. I can't walk into a mens washroom to change a pad real quick, that's a dead giveaway! But I walk into the womens restroom and 75% of the time walk out to waiting police/store security...
If you're reading this Mother Nature, do me one favor: Send a text saying "no babies, all clear" for three days straight once a month instead!
I got my first period when I was 15 and it was bull->-bleeped-<- lol hated it. So dysphoric...I'd just try to detach and pretend like it was a medical problem and not a strictly "female" problem...I just have a bleeding disorder!!
Due to sports and athletics I would skip mine, become irregular or have it disappear all together. I'd get so used to not having it that when my period finally would return it was really like getting smacked in the mouth....sometimes looking back I think that if I did get regular periods it would've sucked less cause at least I'd be expecting it.
It stopped for about 10 months and then one week after my very first T shot I got it out of the blue for maybe 3 hours ( I ->-bleeped-<- you not, total mindf**k ) then it left for 5 weeks, came back for the common 4 days and after that it has never been seen again...thank god.
I was really lucky in that after my first shot it never came back. Reading everyone's experiences has been interesting. I'm much more analytical about it now. I wanted to add though that when I had bad dysphoria about them I convinced myself it was like constipation. Once it's out it's better but the process sucks.
I just reminded myself that estrogen levels were my lowest during my period and it sorta helped but I still hated it
It's like being a toddler all over again. You learn to not need a diaper then you grow up and need one again.
That's interesting Dean, I always feel MORE feminine during my period which I really can't stand. I don't give two hoots about the bleeding part.
Recently though I've been thinking "ugh, time for that AGAIN?" each time lol so I don't think I'll be missing mine when they go.
So interesting how each one of us has different ways to handle the problem. I had forgotten the smell of using pads, so bad. I could never use the cup with having to put your finger inside no no. A couple guys convince themselves that it was not really period blood great for you but my dysphoria is so bad that I cannot get to that point. LatrellHK, I do use the men's restroom do have to change tampons in there some times, my greatest fear is someone seeing me putting something in the trash bin. I just want to get on t and then in a few years get all those parts removed. I fear even on t I will get breakthrough bleeding and have to deal with it when I haven't it for months or years.
I got my period today. First one since I started wearing male underwear constantly. The type of trunk I've been wearing is just a bit too slack to get away with. Wearing female underwear again just feels so wrong. I just want to sleep and wake up in a couple of days time when it's all over.
^^^ snug boxer briefs.
Quote from: And_go on October 06, 2014, 09:06:52 PM
I got my period today. First one since I started wearing male underwear constantly. The type of trunk I've been wearing is just a bit too slack to get away with. Wearing female underwear again just feels so wrong. I just want to sleep and wake up in a couple of days time when it's all over.
I have to wear both at that time. Female to keep it tight up against me, and boxers over to make me feel human. If I can't I have to either wear them with the waistband at my navel, or roll the waistband, but I only do that as a stopgap.
Are there kinds of birth control that can stop your period?If so what kinds? My friend who is ftm mentioned that to me. I've heard of birth control pills that make you get your period every 3 months but not that get rid of it completely.birth control would be easier to get then T .
Quote from: kittylover on October 07, 2014, 10:16:34 AM
Are there kinds of birth control that can stop your period?If so what kinds? My friend who is ftm mentioned that to me. I've heard of birth control pills that make you get your period every 3 months but not that get rid of it completely.birth control would be easier to get then T .
I take a shot called depoprovera. Been on it a few years and don't get a period at all. As for pills you just skip the 7 that are the other color then the period won't come.
Quote from: MacG on October 07, 2014, 12:19:45 AM
^^^ snug boxer briefs.
You can also wear men's briefs. Not the white ones, but the more expensive designer type. They are more snug fitting.