Greetings my dears,
What drives your spirit related to trans?
Is it compassion?
Anger? Bitterness, politics, a need to make a difference in this world?
Is it ego, or sharing lots of wisdom while fighting the ego?
Is it the good of all trans?
What drives your passions my dear ones, what fuels your fire?
Love?
The answer for me is, all of the above.
But what is yours?
What is the source of your passion?
Nails out and heart open,
Satinjoy
I am driven by the amazing creativity of this community.
By the pathos from the anguish and growth to be found here.
By the joy of recognition of possibility.
By the opportunity to make a difference in the life of a brother or sister.
By the friendship of the worthy and the troubled.
By the power of community to transcend despair.
By the glory of human becoming.
By the humility that comes from being in the presence of wisdom.
By the freedom to follow my own path without being questioned.
By the simple fact that I finally belong.
Thank you,
Julie
My first thought that went through my head was,
The pain..
I'm driven by the pain within others, the misery, the weakness.
When I am moved and touched by someone emotionally,
and that person or persons in need, shows weakness, sorrow or vulnerability,
and is being harmed by either internal demons, or outside forces, as many here are,
perhaps myself included, I want to come running to they're aid, stand by they're side,
and fight with them and for them.
Thus...
Here I am..
My passion is to learn how to love and to accept myself.
My passion is to help others just as others have helped me in the past.
My passion is to raise awareness of transgender, non-binary and asexuality issues.
My passion is to love and accept others unconditionally where others (perhaps their family) have failed to do so.
I feel their pain, their tears, their cries for help but I also feel their happiness, the elated sense of finally being complete and their tears of joy.
I feel the burning desire to survive, to live, to crawl out of the dark pit to laugh in the face of people who did not believe in them, who wronged them, who told them they did not exist.
I feel the everything and nothing this universe holds.
With that, freedom is within my grasp. What was once a burden is now a precious gift I must not take for granted.
My trigender identity and my empath abilities allows me to connect to people on a much deeper level than before.
This is what drives me...
Having to count off by two's and having had a serial number, being told that I am government issue (GI) and having stood in endless lines as if being one of a multitude mindless, faceless clones, all of which seems to continue on in civilian life in varying degrees, I am now thrilled to be completely different than anyone else experiencing the joy of having color in mix and match styles with variation in my life and to be referred to lovingly by my spouse as "her exotic!" I am driven to celebrate these things with others who have broken through to the other side from their formerly drab chrysalis to spread their wings as I have.
I would like to see the world be better educated about what it means to be transgender.
I would like to see the trans community speak for ourselves.
I would like better understanding of transgender people translate into policies and culture that is less exclusionary and discriminatory.
I would like to see my trans brothers, sisters, and other siblings who transition after me to have an easier time in a more accepting world.
freedom
Quote from: Satinjoy on October 04, 2014, 08:37:20 AM
Greetings my dears,
What drives your spirit related to trans?
Is it compassion?
Anger? Bitterness, politics, a need to make a difference in this world?
Is it ego, or sharing lots of wisdom while fighting the ego?
Is it the good of all trans?
What drives your passions my dear ones, what fuels your fire?
Love?
The answer for me is, all of the above.
But what is yours?
What is the source of your passion?
Nails out and heart open,
Satinjoy
It is the insatiable thirst for knowledge, knowledge for the defense of the Empire, that is the passion that fuels the fire on my belly
Quote from: stephaniec on October 04, 2014, 01:12:14 PM
freedom
and to break down the system and recreate it in a shape that better fits humanity.
equal rights as well. make them a part of the new system.
create a system that does not discriminate when people are in need.
i'd rather give free help to those who can't afford it, and let the rich pay more out of their own pocket.
it's just plain weird that only those rich enough can get am insurance that saves them money.
don't they already have enough to afford help?
i'll keep speaking my mind until enough people listen. and when we are enough who say yhe same on one point or another, those will be changed.
but nothing will happen if nobody speeks up about it.
Very simply, equality for all things, is a passion.
With equality, the opportunity for knowledge becomes something that you get back what you put into it.
It is, even without equailty, it is a simple thing to do, to educate oneself properly if you put into it what you expect out of it.
With true equality, it costs nothing. Inequality raises the price, not the quality or even the quantity.
With equality there is no need to defend imaginary boundaries, such as the ones you only see on a map.
To defend a piece of dirt is neither noble, nor is it even wise to do.
It brings unnecessary death along with it, it isn't defending anything but that.
If you want to play the game, you have to expect to lose once in a while.
Too many lose once when you defend dirt, especially dirt that is not your own, but belongs to those who profit from you defending it.
You lose by default in playing that game. It is a game of chance, and you are only a player being played.
It is a fool who is a pawn in the profiteers game, the one they tell you is noble in playing.
It leaves to many with the fires of hunger and disease inside of them.
The profiteers use that as an excuse to defend with, when it is they who force too high a price to end it.
To defend equality, and not a game...
It is having fine personal qualities, high moral principles, ideals; it is noble what one can do, not for themselves, but for others.
What drives this in relationship to Trans?
Pretty much the same thing, because I am.
Ativan
When I read the title of this thread, I was gonna say, sewing my own skirts and dresses and writing trans-related stories, but then I read what you all wrote and my "passion" doesn't seem like much.
I've never been very good at social action or anything, even though I do get very angry at injustice. I guess what's important to me (and sort of relates to trans-ness), is: being kind and considerate and decent to other people. Being honest. Being fair. You don't have to understand the other person -- often you can't -- but you can make a good-faith effort to treat them with respect. No matter what they've done. E.g.: you may think Chelsea Manning deserves to be locked up and the key thrown away (which I don't), but that isn't an excuse to disrespect her humanity by refusing to use the name and the gender she prefers. That's just petty meanness, of which we have far too much of (at least here in the USA.) Kind of like "be the change."
Random thought: when I was growing up, "being a d***" (not the term they used) was one way you proved your manhood. Maybe one of my "trans qualities" (assuming I count as trans) is thinking that's stupid and not wanting anything to do with it or with the people who think it's "cool" to do it. But it's not so much following some principle (I'm bad at principles, too) as being sort of aesthetically disgusted by it.
Quote from: Asche on October 05, 2014, 02:25:24 PM
I've never been very good at social action or anything, even though I do get very angry at injustice. I guess what's important to me (and sort of relates to trans-ness), is: being kind and considerate and decent to other people. Being honest. Being fair. You don't have to understand the other person -- often you can't -- but you can make a good-faith effort to treat them with respect. No matter what they've done.
I like this part.
I feel the same.
I try to be like this best I can.
<---- points
Quote from: Mark3 on October 05, 2014, 02:46:19 PM
I like this part.
I feel the same.
I try to be like this best I can.
Yup me too!
My passions:
God, family, friends, work, community.
For those who are in this community, I offer hope. Transition isn't always the be all and end all. Being trans doesn't exclude one from the love of God.
I'm still around, even though for all intents and purposes I'm done with this site as far as information and support reasons are concerned, for the above reasons.
Paying forwards perhaps? Maybe, maybe not. But if you can help and don't, can you live with yourself?
Learning, growing, helping and supporting.
Just helping one person on their journey is motivation enough. Helping folk understand and accept themself while avoiding many of the challenges, stress, self doubt, pain and invalidation that plagued much of my life feels like a very good thing to do.
Also sharing my life experience and reality with cis folk helps build their understanding and acceptance of the trans* community.
Aisla
Can dysphoria be a passion? That is what drives me.
Quote from: Alice Rogers on October 06, 2014, 06:06:26 AM
Can dysphoria be a passion? That is what drives me.
Alice
LOL :). Dysphoria was certainly the driver for me as well. Without dysphoria I suspect I would have had a brain gendered in line with my body and I would never have had the life that I have had. While I would not know what I had missed I can't help thinking that while it would have been simpler, I dont think that I would feel as blessed as I do.
Aisla
Quote from: Aisla on October 06, 2014, 06:13:18 AM
Without dysphoria I suspect I would have had a brain gendered in line with my body and I would never have had the life that I have had.
Aisla
I wish I'd never have had to go through my life like this. With exception to the past months I started finding these things out about myself and even though i feel better, most of my life was very unhappy, very self destructive, and terribly frustrating.
Quote from: Mark3 on October 06, 2014, 08:01:39 AM
I wish I'd never have had to go through my life like this. With exception to the past months I started finding these things out about myself and even though i feel better, most of my life was very unhappy, very self destructive, and terribly frustrating.
Glad you found us and yourself here Mark, hopefully as you develop a plan and some coping skills things will be better each day!
My passion, shoes and makeup. Oh not that kind of passion though. :P
I think what everyone said pretty much sums up how I feel. Though I'm not angry about it usually.
But some of my own are;
I am different.
I try to provoke positive thinking in others about transgender people.
I use it at times such as being able to approach life with calculated thinking and intuition.
That last one has helped me tremendously.
Quote from: Shantel on October 06, 2014, 08:48:09 AM
Glad you found us and yourself here Mark, hopefully as you develop a plan and some coping skills things will be better each day!
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Thank you Shan.
sometimes making a plan might not be as important as changing the ones you already have...
learning self acceptance, and how to just stop pretending i'm all kinds of things that i'm not, was more important to me than making a plan of something or somewhere over the rainbow.
i accept dysphoria in a completely different way now than when i started out on this journey. it isn't crippling, it doesn't stop me from being me, doing what i want (mostly), having fun. it is a pain that proves i'm alive, like the scratches that my kitten make on my hands. i'd rather live with dysphoria than not having known this path of life.
there are many feelings concerning how difficult non-binary, or even binary transition is in norway. but that won't stop me from living anymore. i won't stop trying either, but setbacks won't feel like someone's trying to kill me.
Dysphoria and introversion drives me to transition. I know I could be who I really want to be if my body didn't get in the way.
There IS more, I consider myself a female despite what my body looked like when I was born so one of my primary drives is to pass as female to men. Every time I a man sees me as a women it makes me a little happier.
Don't get me wrong, this transition was for me but being perceived as female by men and treated as female all the time validates me on some deep personal level, it just feels right....
Alice
xx.
I've always been female, a little girl since as long as I can remember. I had a very nice childhood & though I was a girl like all the other little girls until my first grade teacher told me I was a boy & that I needed to sit with the boys. She said with your nice eye lashes you would make a very pretty little girl but you are a boy. She was nice to me & she knew I was upset, that was terrible news. So I've always just wanted to correct my physical body to a normal person, a woman.
Wow, all these deep and insightful answers... :o
Honestly, what drives me is the dysphoria - I can't live my life as a man, even if the dysphoria was hard to recognize for the longest time. Where I'm headed is beauty, and I'm learning to love. I adore all things beautiful, but I need to be in a state of love to recognize the beauty. If I only see the flaws and critique I'm blind to the beauty around me and lose hope. Besides, I cease to learn if I close my mind, and without learning there's really nothing.
Fifty years of knowing I was different.
Fifty years of rejection of who I am.
Fifty years of misunderstanding the relationship I have spiritually with the God of my Understanding, of thinking I was condemned due to trans.
Fifty years of bitterness,
Fifty years of purge after purge,
Fifty years of progression,
Fifty years of pain....
Thirty years of sobriety after the self hate had driven me to the edge of death by progressive alcohol poisoning.
Then, a year and a half of therapy,
a year and a half of learning not to hate myself,
a year and a half of the medical and shrink discovery of trans,
a year and a half of hormonal transition,
a year and a half of a new life,
a year and a half of pain with the end being joy from that pain,
a year and a half of coming out,
a year and a half of finding the marital boundaries that work and not only work, that become celebration
a year and a half of the end of all deceit and lies,
a year and a half of the beginnings of the reduction of dysphoria.
9 months of Susans,
9 months of new friends,
9 months of a life with new meaning,
9 months of not being alone,
9 months of reality and freedom,
9 months of authenticity,
9 months of a whole new life,
9 months of validation.
An eternity of truth and victory
What drives me.
Bitterness of the past, a resolution that others be helped based on my trans experience, a deep love of family, God, and the entire transgendere communty no matter what walk it is, a deep desire to influence and restore others into joy and peace and new beginnings, a fire that burns in my heart to share my experience strength and hope with all of you, and a rage that expresses in the little things to confront those who wrecked my mind in the beginning, who were clueless, who need to see truth, and to see some of mine if they look hard enough.
Easy, not. Rewarding, incredible. Is it a war against injustice, a war against depression, a war against suicidality in others? Absolutely. It is a battle, and I am a warrior, with the wings of trans.
Love to all here, nails out hair down heart wide open and living truth.
Satinjoy
listening to taishi's mixes, making me think along different lines.
learning to fly and sharing the joy.
that's what drives me, it's the meaning of life.
finding the wings of freedom which can take us earthbound creatures to heights we used to only dream of.
to one day reach the stars with all the new friends i make on my journey.