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Community Conversation => Non-binary talk => Topic started by: Mark3 on October 10, 2014, 09:43:59 PM

Title: I short letter to friends.
Post by: Mark3 on October 10, 2014, 09:43:59 PM
I was writing tonight, and this letter popped out of my head, and I posted it on my Tumblr blog.
Its really not a big deal, but thought maybe some would find it interesting.
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When I came out recently as Non Binary, which is a gender identity within the Transgender umbrella, nobody seemed to much care, some probably laughed and didn't believe me, and that's okay. That's one of the blessings about finding your true self, is allowing outside negativity and indifference to flow freely though you without harm. I remember how things around me used to upset and anger me, but I feel that frustration so rarely now, it's very very cool to be me.

I make no apologies to anyone, nor ask for any, for moving forward in my life journey, even though I may appear to have walked away from friends. The reality is that I'm definitely not pushing anyone away, I'm becoming the whole person God made me to be, and I feel the power and peace in that knowledge and growth. Everyone I knew a year ago, or a month ago, is always welcomed in my life, and are still my beloved friends.

I haven't changed really, I was born this way, I went through my life this way, being frustrated and confused deep down, and now I'm not, now I'm free, without guilt, frustration or confusion, I'm just more me than I ever was before. That may seem like a good thing to some, or maybe a curse, lol, but what you see is what you get with me from now on, take it or leave it.

I've been adopted as family at a very special online community, and have support and friends who genuinely love and care about me, and will never push me way for being me. My hearts secrets are with them, and are very safe and sound, as am I..

I just felt like writing this to everyone, and share a piece of myself with you.

With my love & care.
Mark, HoHfashion
Title: Re: I short letter to friends.
Post by: helen2010 on October 10, 2014, 10:39:33 PM
Mark

What a beautiful letter.  Confident and respectful.  I can't imagine it being other than well received.  I hope that your friends reach out and acknowledge you.  You are important to our community and I wish to thank you for sharing your journey with us.  It is inspiring.

Safe travels

Aisla
Title: Re: I short letter to friends.
Post by: Jess42 on October 10, 2014, 11:13:59 PM
Nice letter Mark. ;)
Title: Re: I short letter to friends.
Post by: EchelonHunt on October 10, 2014, 11:23:29 PM
Aw, Mark, such a well-written letter! I relate to you on many points. :) If people cannot understand non-binary, I can hope they will at least appreciate the positive change in yourself.
Title: Re: I short letter to friends.
Post by: Taka on October 11, 2014, 01:43:43 PM
that's a nice letter. i hope you will soon find yourself surrounded by friends who accept you as all of you, and don't mind or even love the parts which are outside what they thought or expected a "guy like you" would be like.
Title: Re: I short letter to friends.
Post by: Mark3 on October 11, 2014, 02:53:26 PM
Quote from: Taka on October 11, 2014, 01:43:43 PM
that's a nice letter. i hope you will soon find yourself surrounded by friends who accept you as all of you, and don't mind or even love the parts which are outside what they thought or expected a "guy like you" would be like.
In my letter, I was referring to Susans.. I hope I have already found those friends here.  :)
Title: Re: I short letter to friends.
Post by: Bombadil on October 11, 2014, 02:57:12 PM
that's a great letter. I can feel the confidence and peace in it.
Title: Re: I short letter to friends.
Post by: MelissaAnn on October 11, 2014, 03:02:08 PM
WOW, What a wonderful letter. The self confidence is inspiring and I only hope I can be as confident on my journey.

Hugs,

Melissa Ann
Title: Re: I short letter to friends.
Post by: Jess42 on October 11, 2014, 04:04:39 PM
Quote from: Mark3 on October 11, 2014, 02:53:26 PM
In my letter, I was referring to Susans.. I hope I have already found those friends here.  :)

Well I know and you have. ;)
Title: Re: I short letter to friends.
Post by: Taka on October 11, 2014, 04:23:49 PM
Quote from: Mark3 on October 11, 2014, 02:53:26 PM
In my letter, I was referring to Susans.. I hope I have already found those friends here.  :)
yeah, this is a great place usually. i got that reference.
what i was thinking about, is finding great friends also outside this place. that really makes you feel a lot less lonely.
Title: Re: I short letter to friends.
Post by: Mark3 on October 11, 2014, 05:46:07 PM
Thanks Taka.  :)
Yeah I try to do that, its weird though.?
Like this morning I went on my Facebook page,
but I feel different there, kind of like an outsider now,
but I'm still open to anyone reaching out to me.
In real life, being married and taking care of my health problems, as well as the house and 2 dogs is about all I can handle, not much room for socializing. I wish things were different sometimes.  :) :)
Title: Re: I short letter to friends.
Post by: Mark3 on October 11, 2014, 05:48:28 PM
Thank you to everyone for your kind comments,
You're the best.!   :)
Title: Re: I short letter to friends.
Post by: Pikachu on October 11, 2014, 06:24:24 PM
*huggles you tightly*

I'm really glad you're a part of our family here, Mark. :)
Title: Re: I short letter to friends.
Post by: Satinjoy on October 11, 2014, 08:35:28 PM
It is a good letter, you're recent shopping experience is good, you capture well those steps forward....

It has been tough for me, living trans.  I think if we are honest, it is for all of us.

So, I thank you for your letter dear, you help us all with it.

Blessings

Satinjoy
Title: Re: I short letter to friends.
Post by: Shantel on October 11, 2014, 08:46:17 PM
Fantastic letter Mark, very heartfelt and the honest forthrightness of it comes through loud and clear. You are family dear heart and we love you like siblings should do.
Title: Re: I short letter to friends.
Post by: Mark3 on October 11, 2014, 11:33:37 PM
Your comments all left me speechless.
Thank you again.
love you all..
Title: Re: I short letter to friends.
Post by: JulieBlair on October 12, 2014, 08:39:06 AM
Mark,
The words you have shared both on this string and elsewhere, are thoughts from an entirely authentic and genuine person.  It is lovely to note that the people who have commented are among those that I love and admire here the most.  This is a special part of a unique community.

I have been blessed to be allowed to meet some of my friends and mentors from Susan's and I truly hope to cross paths with you one day also.  You are who you ought to be, and that is caring, special, and very, very wonderful.  Thank you for your thoughts, emotion, and strength.  I hope that I will always call you friend.

Peace,
Julie
Title: Re: I short letter to friends.
Post by: JulieBlair on October 12, 2014, 08:41:17 AM
Shan,
External gills suit you.  ::)   ;D
Julie
Title: Re: I short letter to friends.
Post by: Shantel on October 12, 2014, 08:47:29 AM
Quote from: JulieBlair on October 12, 2014, 08:41:17 AM
Shan,
External gills suit you.  ::)   ;D
Julie

Glad you like my halloween costume. I asked, "Can I, or do I look female" in that thread and so far the response has been thrilling, I may keep the look as it is far cuter than the real me anyway.