I...damn sure don't have a problem with sex, because my partner encourages me to be as I am in
the bedroom. My question is in regards of masturbation. I can't finish. It's gotten to the point where
I'm so sexually frustrated (because my partner works crazy hours) and I can't please myself.
...It's taking me alot of courage to talk about this since I know it's my dysphoria, I just want to know
if there any alternatives? I'm pre-T so I know there's nothing too fancy to do down there.
So I just wind up staring at floor to pass the time.
Please don't laugh.. (or atleast on the forum )
Just want some tips.
Perhaps a strap on that stimulates the clitoris and a male sex toy ? It might put you in the right mindset to stimulate yourself.
Imagination is key. It helps to have a very active one. Libido and imagination can have you feeling the parts are more than reality.
I admit it doesn't always work.
Vibrators would probably work best. You don't really have to touch yourself and it should get you to orgasm. No, vibrators are not just for women. There are many males who use them to get off too. There actually is a "sleeve" made for small males (2 inches and under) that might be of help. I ordered one but it got sent back due to not being able to deliver to my apartment. There are some Tumblr pages (NSFW) and Facebook pages that could possibly help you with other ideas.
Sorry but what is NSFW?
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Quote from: chance on October 15, 2014, 01:03:55 AM
Sorry but what is NSFW?
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NSFW stands for "Not Safe For Work" -- in other words it's not something you want to be caught looking at while in public lol.
My work wouldn't have liked me doing taptalk. LOL
--Jay
Ohhh thx :-)
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Following on from KAT's comment, what turns you on? Like the thought of you doing it and/or it being done to you is "OMG yeah!", combine that with touching, caressing and stroking those parts of yourself that are sensitive and you should get some fireworks. If those parts of you cause dysphoria see if you can imagine them as your preferred body part. Takes some practice but I've found that I can pretty much imagine my body is the body I want and it is awesome. :) Annnnd that was probably TMI ;D
a vivid imagination helps, but so does porn. or hentai, i prefer imaginary people for my handsome time.
touching myself ended up kind of a frustrating project as teenage libido wore off.
what works best for me is laying down on my bed with something (pillow, used clothing) between my legs to rub against.
makes it easier to imagine the pretty invisible thing between my legs is something much bigger.
i know cis guys who have problems getting off by touching themselves, some get better results by humping their bed.
Quote from: Ms Grace on October 15, 2014, 01:55:30 AM
Following on from KAT's comment, what turns you on? Like the thought of you doing it and/or it being done to you is "OMG yeah!", combine that with touching, caressing and stroking those parts of yourself that are sensitive and you should get some fireworks. If those parts of you cause dysphoria see if you can imagine them as your preferred body part. Takes some practice but I've found that I can pretty much imagine my body is the body I want and it is awesome. :) Annnnd that was probably TMI ;D
That was actually a good tip ^^
I had no ability to orgasm for years. My psychiatrist said it is associated with being transgender. Sucks huh? It would drive me crazy. Since transition it's a lot better. I suppose learning to be at least a little bit more comfortable with the body you have could help a lot. Don't beat yourself up and try and view things positively.
Oh, I changed my style to a more female one (i am mtf) that really really helped. Perhaps you can try and match the method you use to your minds gender (i don't know how this works for ftqs). Thinking about it, that was probably the big key difference.